Reviews - He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters

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He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters

Schuyler Bailar

4.64 AVERAGE

hmknerr's review

5.0

A must read

fictionlostandfound's review against another edition

5.0

challenging informative inspiring medium-paced

This was such an intensely eye-opening book. I feel like I am very open-minded and try to treat people properly, but this book made me realize I was missing the mark at times. So much valuable information to absorb so we can make everyone around us feel welcome and loved in their own skin.

mitzee's review against another edition

5.0

emotional informative inspiring medium-paced

A great starting point for cis folks to educate themselves. Bailar goes over basic concepts about being gender identity, sexual identity, facts about gender identity in childhood and development (using stats and research conducted by medical professionals-not himself). Also covers baseline etiquette that cis people may not think about when trying to talk to trans people about their gender identity or transness.

Also touches a bit on intersectionality since Bailar is also Korean American.

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emjay24's review

5.0

emotional informative medium-paced

I thought this was going to be a memoir but it’s more an informative book, mostly for allies and family members. It starts out more basic but becomes more involved as it goes on. It’s something I would suggest to others and maybe will send to my family.

aweekinthelife's review against another edition

5.0

emotional reflective fast-paced

Schuyler Bailar (also known as @pinkmantaray on the internet) is brilliant and thoughtful. in the book, he talks about his experiences including conversations he has with people at some of his speaking engagements and a gentle line of questioning that helps the question-asker recognize their own biases and assumptions. i appreciate that he speaks of his own experience and includes experiences of others in their own words.

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