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I went in expecting more of a memoir, but it's mostly very informative non-fiction--as someone who is already familiar with LGBTQ/trans topics, some of the stuff wasn't new to me, but I still think this is a magnificent resource that is very well researched through both lived experience and facts and numbers. I especially recommend the chapters on Trans folks and sports, and the one on toxic masculinity through a trans man's lens.
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โ๐ป Schuyler Bailar (He/Him/His)
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โโฆ๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐, ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ฃ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐ง๐๐๐๐จ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐ค๐ฉ๐ง๐ฎ. ๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐จ, ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ฃ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ค๐ช๐ง ๐๐ช๐ข๐๐ฃ๐๐ฉ๐ฎ ๐๐ฉ๐จ๐๐ก๐.โ
I mean this full heartedly: This is a must read for everyone wanting the world to be a better place.
Overview:
โขPart Memoir/Part Educational Guide
โขGender Identity
โขTrans Athletes
โขMyths vs Facts + Actionable Advice
โขEasily Readable Writing Style
๐๐ฒ/๐ฆ๐ต๐ฒ/๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ๐ถ๐บ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฐ๐ต, ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐
๐, ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป, ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ต๐๐บ๐ฎ๐ป๐ถ๐๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ต๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐น๐ ๐ฝ๐ผ๐น๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป, ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ฟ๐ด๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ด๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐น๐ธ๐ ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ.
As someone who considers herself a strong ally to the LGBTQIA community, Iโve decided to dive into more nonfiction books this year to educate myself more, and this one was exemplary. Bailar wrote a well-researched and easily-readable guide to gender theory and how to be an impactful ally for trans people.
Broken down into four main parts, he defines the specific terminology, breaks down myths vs facts, and provides both personal insight and historical context into a variety of trans aspects.
โ๐๐๐๐ก๐ ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฅ๐๐ค๐ฅ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐ก ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐จ๐๐ค๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ฎ ๐ฃ๐๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐ฉ ๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข๐จ๐๐ก๐ซ๐๐จ, ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ ๐ข๐๐๐ค๐ง๐๐ฉ๐ฎ ๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฅ๐๐ค๐ฅ๐ก๐, โ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ค๐ช๐ฉโ ๐๐จ ๐ก๐๐จ๐จ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐๐๐จ๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฃ๐๐ฌ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ ๐๐ฃ ๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ง๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐ฉ ๐ค๐ ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐ซ๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐โ๐ซ๐ ๐๐ช๐ง๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ง๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ญ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐จ๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐ค ๐ฌ๐โ๐ซ๐ ๐๐ก๐ฌ๐๐ฎ๐จ ๐๐๐๐ฃ.โ
Considering I have almost 100 highlights from this book, it would be unreasonable for me to list every impactful aspect of this book (please just read it). But I will note some standout pieces that pierced my thoughts.
In particular, Bailar discusses how our country was created with deep rooted biases: including racism, sexism, and against anyone different from white, cisgender, heteronormative males. Because of that, we all have ingrained biases that can make us subconsciously think certain ways - and itโs our job to examine those beliefs and privileges.
Personally, I had some reflecting and dismantling to do with trans athletes. I particularly appreciated his chapter on sports and how myths have been perpetuated in the media cycle.
โ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ก๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐ข๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ข ๐๐ง๐ค๐ข ๐จ๐ฎ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐ค๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐๐๐๐๐ช๐จ๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐จ ๐๐๐๐ฃ ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ง๐๐๐จ๐๐ ๐๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ๐ ๐จ๐ฎ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐จ. ๐ฟ๐ค๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ค๐ ๐๐ค๐๐จ๐ฃโ๐ฉ ๐ข๐๐๐ฃ ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐ค๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐๐จ. ๐ฟ๐ค๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ค๐ ๐ข๐๐๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ง๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐๐ค๐ข๐ ๐๐ฌ๐๐ง๐ ๐ค๐, ๐ช๐ฃ๐ฅ๐๐๐ , ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐ฃ ๐ค๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ค๐จ๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐จ.โ
One of the most powerful parts of this book talks about trans youths. I want to reiterate his message that LGBTQIA kids are at significantly higher risk of suicide, and so the cost of not believing and supporting these kids is unconscionably high.
โ๐๐ค๐ข๐ 82 ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฅ๐๐ค๐ฅ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐๐ ๐จ๐ช๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ญ๐๐ข๐๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ฎ 40 ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ค๐ ๐ช๐จ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ฉ ๐ก๐๐๐จ๐ฉ ๐ค๐ฃ๐๐, ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ง ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช๐ฉ๐ ๐๐ญ๐๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ง ๐ง๐๐ฉ๐๐จ: 86 ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช๐ฉ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ ๐จ๐ช๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ 56 ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ช๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ฉ ๐๐ฉ.โ
One thing I hoped to take away from this book was direct, kind ways to explain that you donโt need to *understand* transness in order to respect trans people.
I donโt expect everyone to be on the same page as me, and I want to give people time to mentally grow, but I also want everyone to realize the urgency of loving the people around us.
โ๐๐ค๐จ๐ฉ ๐ค๐ ๐ช๐จ ๐๐ค๐ก๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐๐ก๐ ๐ช๐ฃ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐ค๐ช๐จ ๐๐๐ก๐๐๐: ๐๐ ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃโ๐ฉ ๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ง๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐, ๐๐ฉ ๐๐๐ฃโ๐ฉ ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐/๐ง๐๐๐ก/๐ซ๐๐ก๐๐. ๐ฝ๐ช๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ง๐ก๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐ฉ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃโ๐ฉ ๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ง๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐. ๐ ๐๐ค ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ง๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐จ ๐๐ก๐ฎโ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฎ๐๐ฉ, ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฎ ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐ค. ๐ผ๐ฃ๐ ๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐จ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐จ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐จ๐ค ๐ข๐ช๐๐, ๐ ๐๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐โฆ
๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃโ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ง ๐๐จ ๐๐จ ๐๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ฎ๐จ๐๐๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐ง๐ค๐ฃ๐๐ช๐ฉ๐๐๐จ, ๐๐ช๐ฉ ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐ค, ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉโ๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐๐ฎ. ๐๐ค๐ช ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐ค๐ฃโ๐ฉ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ง๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ง ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ฉ๐ฎ ๐ค๐ง ๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐จ๐ค๐ฃโ๐จ ๐๐ญ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข. ๐๐จ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ช๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐ค โ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐ฉโ ๐๐จ ๐ ๐ง๐๐๐จ๐ค๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐ฃ๐ฎ ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ง ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐ฉ๐, ๐๐ช๐ข๐๐ฃ๐๐ฉ๐ฎ, ๐ค๐ง ๐๐ช๐ฉ๐ค๐ฃ๐ค๐ข๐ฎ ๐๐จ ๐ช๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ซ๐๐ก๐๐.โ
The sheer patience, bravery, raw honesty, and empathy threaded through these pages brought me to tears. I respect and appreciate his dedication to creating a more inclusive, loving world, especially at times like these when hatred and violence is running rampant.
Schuyler Bailarโs balance of kindness and bluntness was exactly what I needed to read, and I recommend this book to absolutely everyone.
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This is a fantastic place to start in your trans education. I decided I would annotate this book for a family member who is asking me about the trans experience and hardships. They asked from a place of ignorance, thinking that the trans experience isn't a hard one. I will happily mail them this book with all my notes so that they may be enlightened on just what being trans comes with.
Written from a trans man and athlete POV, I still found it incredibly educational. Even the chapters I didn't think I needed to read, like the long chapter on being a trans athlete, gave me more information and insight on the general trans experience. This book is for everyone and should be required reading.
Written from a trans man and athlete POV, I still found it incredibly educational. Even the chapters I didn't think I needed to read, like the long chapter on being a trans athlete, gave me more information and insight on the general trans experience. This book is for everyone and should be required reading.
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