Reviews with content warning for Racism - A Little Life

This is miserable. My first thought upon finishing this was “what the fuck did I just read?! And why would anyone write this?”. There were some beautiful moments in this and I enjoyed the found family themes, but that was where it stopped. The trauma is overwhelming in this story. The author has stated numerous times that she wanted to create a character that NEVER gets better, which I think is important to understand going into this (and messed up!), as a book like this can be really damaging to read.

Poor Jude 😭 I feel so sorry for him. But I’m more annoyed at the author than sad. I think my main issue with this book is that it lacks sensitivity towards trauma survivors and sends a pretty harmful message suggesting you will never overcome your trauma - which I think is awful. I think the author exploits trauma more than she claims to explore it. This book doesn’t send out much of a positive message, there isn’t some huge resolution that leaves the reader feeling cathartic. Is this torture p*rn? I don’t know if that’s for me to decide but this book just seems unrealistic at times, like the author threw everything at the wall to see what would stick. I know some people find this book to be “real”, which I’m happy you do, but I found her torture of Jude relentless. Her portrayal of race and gender were a bit strange too.

What I’m choosing to take away from this book is that you really do need to treat everyone with kindness, because you have no idea what they may be going through. Sending lots of love to anyone reading this 💛

I ✨DO NOT✨ recommend this book. Do yourself a favour and don’t read this!!!!! I hate this. 🧍🏽‍♀️

My rating: 1/5 ⭐️

Also “nishihara syndrome”???? 😂

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challenging dark emotional sad tense fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

Weeping.

A deeply dark and Shakespearean tragedy. Modern Romeo and Juliet without the frills.

Initially, every page read like poetry. What a revelation! I thought. What a joy to read!

And then the plot developed further and descended into complete darkness.

So cleverly written. Weaving complex narratives that loop around one another. With descriptions that feed you plot points across chapters and across characters, creating this complex life history for each character. Flows effortlessly across timescales with a never-ceasing feeling of impending terror.

I am deeply disturbed and utterly moved by this story which will likely stay with me forever.

Huge content warning (child SA, suicide, church abuse, DV, self harm, drug use, disability abuse, physiological warfare).

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challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

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dark emotional sad tense medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

I will start off by saying that this is one of the most well written, thought out, and incredible books I’ve ever read. I understand the criticism with it, some days it felt that the trauma was never ending. I’ve also read that people thought that this wasn’t a story to tell, that it was boring. I agreed at first, it has an incredibly slow start, takes about 300 pages for things to actually pick up. I read and finished 3 other books while reading this one. But, I think it helps with how you grow and develop with the characters

Let me first say, I am so sorry Jude. You were failed time and time again by so many people. You didn’t deserve any of the horrible things that happened to you. I don’t blame you for ending it, you stuck it out for as long as you could. I truly believe he would’ve lived a long and beautiful life if Willem and Malcolm didn’t die. His trauma was intense, Caleb’s scene was so nauseating and infuriating, I felt my heartache for this fictional character. I wished that, in specific, that scene could’ve been told like Dr Traylor and Brother Luke scenes, brief but to the point. I’m so glad that he was able to feel love in his life, even if the one that loved him most and so deeply left before he was ready. Harold and Julia’s storyline with him was so touching, proving that no matter how old you are, you will always need parents. I’m glad that Andy tried as hard as he could to keep him alive and healthy, if Jude didn’t die first I wouldn’t have been surprised if he killed himself after Andy died. So many people loved Jude greatly, I’m sure he knows that. He was doomed from the beginning. I wish I could tell Jude to snap out of it, to get the help he deserves. I feel as if I also never saw him as older than 30, that he stopped aging in my mind since he himself never changed. He was still denying his truth, up until the very end. I know he passed when he was about 55, but in my head he’s basically a child wearing a trench coat pretending to be an adult. And I also think he felt like that too. I wished that his happiness didn’t have a time limit, hopefully in another universe he never got hurt, he just fell in love with Willem and they got married.

Of the other three, Willem is my favorite. He treated Jude with such grace and love, they were soulmates. They needed each other. Willem’s storyline was incredible as well, I didn’t like that he said that he wasn’t gay, just in love with Jude. Like, if you are actively wanting to have sex with a man, I think you’re gay. But, despite that, he tried so hard to make sure Jude knew that he was okay and deserving of good things. My stomach dropped when he and Malcolm died, so horrifically as well. Willem has his own trauma and tried his best. I do agree with the criticism that he pictured Jude as Hemming, which is also heartbreaking. I’m glad that Jude called him out on it, but he was just trying to help the best he could.

I think he was set up to be this way, but JB was a terrible, disgusting human. I don’t care if it was because of his own trauma or because he was an addict, you do not treat your friends who have put up with so much of your shit like that. It was disgusting to see how he developed, having left a bad taste in my mouth when the last time we heard from him he kissed Jude while he was not trying to pass out. Plus, using your friends’ trauma in your own art without permission? Are you kidding!? I am a JB hater, he had the most privileged upbringing of them all and his reasoning for becoming an addict was because he wasn’t traumatized enough to keep up with Willem and Jude? Sinister behavior, genuinely mad that he was left of the four of them. I don’t blame Jude wishing that he died instead of Willem and Malcolm.

Malcolm, my sweet baby angel who just wanted to build structures and have a nice life with his wife. He was a very neutral character for me, never really upset me or made me feel like I shouldn’t like him. He deserved better, he worked so hard to get to where he was and the fact that it was all stripped from him broke me.

Harold and Julia brought out my own parental trauma, the fact that they met this damaged, troubled young boy and brought him, gave him a job and helped me just because they could is so incredible of the two of them. My favorite (and seemingly everybody’s favorite) quote is said by him at the end of the book, matter of fact on the very last page, “It isn’t only that he died, or how he died; it is what he died believing. And so I try to be kind to everything I see, and in everything I see, I see him.” I truly think Harold tried the hardest out of all of them to make sure that he was taken care of. The entire Lispenard Street section was one of the most heartbreaking shows of love I’ve ever had the pleasure of reading. Harold lost two sons, both by illness and it’s heartbreaking. To love someone so much, to not care about the trauma and to treat them with such grace and gentleness is so inspiring to read. Both he and Julia are beautiful souls.

This book was also beautifully written. I don’t agree with the trauma porn accusations, there were some good parts. Trauma porn is when it’s just mindless pain and suffering with no end in sight. It’s a tragic story, genuinely, but trauma porn is too aggressive of a title. I do think you have to be in the right headspace to read this book, it was incredibly hard to read. It took me a little over two months to read it, but I did consider DNFing it a few times. But, I needed to know what would happen to Jude, poor baby Jude. Would love it if Yanagihara ever wrote an alternate universe book where they all grew old together, living on the same property in houses Malcolm built and just spending their days laughing and making art.

I’ve grown to love and be attached to these characters. Each of them have different qualities and quirks that I love (other than you, JB). I’m so sad that my daily routine will no longer involve them, being able to know what is coming next in their lives.

I am also choosing to separate art from the artist, but part of me feels that Yanagihara did take inspiration from her own past to write this book, based on interviews. Absolutely horrific, I hope she wakes up from her own trauma soon.

5/5 stars, I would not recommend this to a friend.

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dark emotional reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

A narrativa gira em torno de Jude, um dos 4 amigos cujas vidas acompanhamos ao longo do livro. Jude é-nos apresentado como alguém extremamente frágil e traumatizado, com um passado chocante, repleto de abusos de todo o tipo. A sua história é revelada aos poucos, ficando cada vez pior, dando ao leitor um sentimento de "desconfortabilidade" crescente. Além de Jude, acomapanhamos Willem, o seu melhor amigo de décadas e futuro companheiro romântico, que se torna um ator de grande sucesso e é sempre o apoio de Jude, até à sua morte.

É um livro de suscitou empatia da minha parte e conseguiu, de certa forma, abordar a questão de breviedade da vida e da importância das relações com os outros, sendo, desta forma, uma narrativa que força a reflexão sobre nós mesmos e consegue com que olhemos para a nossa própria forma de viver e reavaliemos o que temos e o que podemos fazer melhor, nomeadamente, em relação aos outros. No entanto, tem determinados pontos negativos que não consigo ignorar:

1. A vida de Jude, repleta de tortura, torna-se, a certo ponto, algo irreal, que dificilmente aconteceria. Claro que sendo uma obra de ficção é natural que possa ser exagerada de alguma forma mas esse não é de todo o teor do livro. Na minha perspetiva, a narrativa tenta sempre fazer tudo parecer real e visceral. No entanto, é altamente improvável que alguém sofra continuamente abusos, em locais diferentes, com pessoas diferentes e tenha uma vida de sofrimento constante, como Jude teve. Pesoalmente comecei a ficar com a sensação, a determinado ponto, que a autora tentou induzir empatia ao leitor forçosamente, escrevendo constantemente sobre episódios de tortura e auto-mutilação de forma gráfica e desnecessariamente longa, quase como se tentasse criar uma empatia "fabricada".

2.

Quando Jude e Willem se tornam um casal, o comportamento de Willem é totalmente fora do que seria de esperar do personagem. Willem sempre protegeu Jude e quis o melhor para ele, sempre estiveram juntos e tinham uma amizade especial que era apenas entre eles os dois, completamente diferente da amizade com Malcolm e JB. Willem nunca teve nenhuma atitude de mau caráter para com Jude antes de serem um casal mas, quando ficam juntos, Willem subitamente começa a ignorar os problemas de Jude com as relações sexuais e não parece querer saber se Jude está desconfortável ou não. Certo que Jude sempre disse que não estava desconfortável mas Willem sabe, ele próprio o diz, que Jude se auto-mutila porque ter relações sexuais para ele é um sacrifício que tem que fazer para o bem da relação. E, mesmo tendo consciência disto, Willem não põe fim à vida sexual dos dois, apenas ignora porque Jude não o disse explicitamente (mais uma vez, Willem sabe que Jude dificilmente fala sobre o seu passado ou as suas dores de forma explícita).

Apesar destes pontos negativos, é um livro muito bem escrito, de leitura fluida e relativamente fácil. É importante mencionar que aborda questões muito sensíveis que podem ser um gatilho e que o próprio Jude e a forma como ele se vê e vê a sua vida (cap. Axioma da Igualdade, isto é, acreditar que porque tenho um mau passado e fui determinada pessoa, o vou ser para sempre e é algo que não posso mudar porque é uma lei da vida) podem também fazer surgir sentimentos menos bons se o leitor não estiver bem psicologicamente ou se não tiver um pensamento crítico o suficiente para perceber que Jude apenas pensava dessa forma porque era uma pessoa traumatizada e fragilizada..

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dark emotional reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Beautiful, heartbreaking… literally it’s life. Not a book I’d recommend for most people as it’s very HEAVY content.

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