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ceceliaconwayauthor's review against another edition
1.0
DNF
Derivative and reparatory.
Unesecary reliance on religious values and purity culture.
Absolutely would not reccomend
Derivative and reparatory.
Unesecary reliance on religious values and purity culture.
Absolutely would not reccomend
katecutup_lovesbooks's review against another edition
informative
reflective
fast-paced
2.75
I just dont like the misinformation about sexual development, I feel that drops it pretty low in the rating scale, very unethical to give false information in this format. However I did think it was mostly well written and helpful and it serves the purpose it set out to.
realpageturner's review against another edition
4.0
This book building upon the original while still being a separate read. That is, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers contains very specific and practical guidance on how to express the teen's primary love language, how to teach them appropriate responsibility, and how to properly handle both parental and teen anger. It is a tangible resource for stemming the tide of violence, immorality, and despair engulfing many teens today.
cyndin's review against another edition
3.0
I first encountered Chapman's 5 Love Languages a few years ago through internet quizzes and articles and then his book. I found the concept intriguing, and laid out so clearly that anyone can read it and put the ideas into practice right away. It was obvious that he came from a Christian point of view, which didn't bother me, although I am not a Christian, and I could see his Conservative stance at work as well, which I mostly ignored (his couple example where the wife was being physically abused yet he encouraged her to stay in the marriage and change her husband was quite disturbing, although in this rare case, successful).
I picked up the 5 Love Languages of Teenagers because my daughter is turning 12 soon and I thought it might be helpful. And it is. I appreciated the translation from adult partners to parent/child. She took the quiz in the back, got some unexpected results, and we talked a bit about what it meant.
The problem is politics. Here the Christian point of view has expanded such that Chapman addresses every reader as if s/he too were a Christian. In the section about teens questioning their parents' religion (a fine section to include...it's not religion I object to), he mentions how a teen may wish to "no longer go to Mass, the synagogue, Sunday school, or the mosque." And this is the only indication in the entire book that Chapman even acknowledges that there are religions besides Christianity. All other examples say "church" and that's that.
Then there is his idea of the horrors that today's teens may encounter. Things like living in a world where "homosexual relationships are being promoted as alternative lifestyles. Indeed, the words bisexual and transgender are common vocabulary for the modern teen." And things like meeting people who don't keep strictly to traditional male/female roles (I find it interesting that he has several examples of mothers who work, either in a duel working couple or as a single parent, but not a single hint of a family where a mother works and a father stays at home). And divorce is right up there with the evils of abuse and illegal drug use.
That being said, Chapman does a fine job of giving advice for families who are single parent, shared custody, or that include stepparents. There is a large section of the book dedicated to that. Where he falters is with his section on sexual abuse. I'm glad he addresses it, and physical abuse as well, but his approach leaves much to be desired.
Like with his beliefs on martial abuse in his earlier book, he puts all the responsibility on the wife (there is zero understanding of the concept that a woman might abuse or that a man might sexually abuse boys in his family, regardless of his own sexual orientation—the two being completely separate). It is her responsibility not just to protect her teenager but to change the husband so that he realizes what he is doing is wrong and stops. Yes, he addresses the husband directly in the book, but rightly realizes the futility of that. Only later in the book is there a hint that being married to someone who rapes your children might actually destroy the marriage, you know, if you fail at your appointed task of stopping him.
I gritted my teeth at the politics, religious assumptions (as well as the push for religion in general), and horrible advice for abusive families, and managed to finish the book. There's a lot of good in there. He has a clear vision of love and caring and how to express it to others in a way they will want to receive. That vision alone is worth reading the book for, though I knocked off points for the rest.
I picked up the 5 Love Languages of Teenagers because my daughter is turning 12 soon and I thought it might be helpful. And it is. I appreciated the translation from adult partners to parent/child. She took the quiz in the back, got some unexpected results, and we talked a bit about what it meant.
The problem is politics. Here the Christian point of view has expanded such that Chapman addresses every reader as if s/he too were a Christian. In the section about teens questioning their parents' religion (a fine section to include...it's not religion I object to), he mentions how a teen may wish to "no longer go to Mass, the synagogue, Sunday school, or the mosque." And this is the only indication in the entire book that Chapman even acknowledges that there are religions besides Christianity. All other examples say "church" and that's that.
Then there is his idea of the horrors that today's teens may encounter. Things like living in a world where "homosexual relationships are being promoted as alternative lifestyles. Indeed, the words bisexual and transgender are common vocabulary for the modern teen." And things like meeting people who don't keep strictly to traditional male/female roles (I find it interesting that he has several examples of mothers who work, either in a duel working couple or as a single parent, but not a single hint of a family where a mother works and a father stays at home). And divorce is right up there with the evils of abuse and illegal drug use.
That being said, Chapman does a fine job of giving advice for families who are single parent, shared custody, or that include stepparents. There is a large section of the book dedicated to that. Where he falters is with his section on sexual abuse. I'm glad he addresses it, and physical abuse as well, but his approach leaves much to be desired.
Like with his beliefs on martial abuse in his earlier book, he puts all the responsibility on the wife (there is zero understanding of the concept that a woman might abuse or that a man might sexually abuse boys in his family, regardless of his own sexual orientation—the two being completely separate). It is her responsibility not just to protect her teenager but to change the husband so that he realizes what he is doing is wrong and stops. Yes, he addresses the husband directly in the book, but rightly realizes the futility of that. Only later in the book is there a hint that being married to someone who rapes your children might actually destroy the marriage, you know, if you fail at your appointed task of stopping him.
I gritted my teeth at the politics, religious assumptions (as well as the push for religion in general), and horrible advice for abusive families, and managed to finish the book. There's a lot of good in there. He has a clear vision of love and caring and how to express it to others in a way they will want to receive. That vision alone is worth reading the book for, though I knocked off points for the rest.
shereadsalotofbooks's review against another edition
4.0
Lots of good ideas, but like most self-help books, the material could have fit into a pamphlet.
kc1005us's review
5.0
I received a copy of The Five Love Languages of Teenagers from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Very easy to read & engaging from the beginning. As a parent, I was happy to read that we are doing things "right" with our children. As someone who teaches an 8-week parenting course, I found many examples to share with the parents of older children. This book will become a reference point for that class, as well as be told to many parents as a "you should read this".
Very easy to read & engaging from the beginning. As a parent, I was happy to read that we are doing things "right" with our children. As someone who teaches an 8-week parenting course, I found many examples to share with the parents of older children. This book will become a reference point for that class, as well as be told to many parents as a "you should read this".
daphself's review against another edition
3.0
Although I found this book not informative to me, I can see the benefit that it will offer others who have teenagers.
This book is based on today's average teenager. Mind you, not all teens behave the same or behave like many others, but for those who have teens that are heavily influenced by the world and today's standards, each chapter of this book will help in understanding how to communicate with your teen.
With the 5 love language: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, and gifts, a parent is sure to find one or a combination that would fit his/her teenager.
Gary Chapman also explains how to discover this love language and understanding your teenager's anger.
A latter chapter deals with single and blended families; although I was disappointed that it didn't deal with single parenting as a widow or widower.
Independence and responsibility is discussed as well as how to love your teen when he/she fails.
I can see this book helping a great many of families.
***I was provided this book through Moody Publishers in exchange of an honest and complete review***
This book is based on today's average teenager. Mind you, not all teens behave the same or behave like many others, but for those who have teens that are heavily influenced by the world and today's standards, each chapter of this book will help in understanding how to communicate with your teen.
With the 5 love language: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, and gifts, a parent is sure to find one or a combination that would fit his/her teenager.
Gary Chapman also explains how to discover this love language and understanding your teenager's anger.
A latter chapter deals with single and blended families; although I was disappointed that it didn't deal with single parenting as a widow or widower.
Independence and responsibility is discussed as well as how to love your teen when he/she fails.
I can see this book helping a great many of families.
***I was provided this book through Moody Publishers in exchange of an honest and complete review***
pvcain's review against another edition
1.0
UGGGGHHHHHH....I've heard of the 5 love languages and I thought I've got a teenager, why not give it a try? A painful read...then I see it's the 4th edition. This guy has had one idea and has milked it for 20 or more years. I'm a Christian and I still found his leanings toward the Christian way, heavy handed. Not only has he milked the concept for every age group (upon further study) he also says the same thing about in five different chapters. What I learned. Not much but I did spend some time talking with my smart daughter who already knew what her "love language" is....and I'll just talk her advice and not read anything else by this guy.