labricoleuse's review

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Abandoning—I would have loved this in my 20s. Now, I prefer the author’s 4000 Weeks.

kaichai's review

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5.0

Absolutely lovely book covering the pitfalls of the modern self-help movement. Forcing yourself to be positive and only think positively is setting yourself up for failure and misery.

I enjoyed the individual sections on Stoicism, Zen Buddhism, Santa Muerta, the Museum of Failures, and so on. It was a good overview of the general practices of each and how to incorporate small bits into your own life to improve your personal viewpoint.

joeholmes's review

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5.0

In a nutshell: the power of positive thinking isn't all it's cracked up to be. Forget all the self help advice you've been exposed to all your life.

andrejagibese's review

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4.0

I really like Oliver burkeman's writing -- I loved his book 4000 weeks and his short essays in the new philosopher. This is good too. It's a mix of Buddhist teachings, stoicism, and neuropsychology. Different ways of saying to accept life as it is not how you wish it was.

kpwerker's review against another edition

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5.0

This is, simply, a must-read for every human being full stop.

itsoliver's review

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funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.0

mildibobildi's review against another edition

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5.0

The subtitle of this book is slightly misleading in my opinion.
This book doesn't necessarily dwell in negativity and pessimism. It does however, point out the pitfall of overly optimistic view of the world. In other words, this book reminds readers to have a realistic outlook in life, and doubts and uncertainty, is just part of everyday life, and no positive thinking can change that.

In general, I consider myself a positive person and I definitely can stand positive thinking. But I totaly can see the points this book is making, and think that this is an excellent read.

darlinot's review

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3.0

3.5 i think!

this book did more for telling me that i'm... on the right track more than really giving me a TON of new ideas/ways to deal with things. i liked the way this book gave context to all of the aspects of the concepts and strategies it examines.

"Did the negative path to happiness really work? To answer that question with a simple yes or no, or to offer up a list of ten surefire tips for negative-thinking success, would be to violate the ethos of the thing"

i respect that this book is about the journey of learning about different ways of approaching happiness and dealing with anxiety and i found it pretty useful! it gave me some solid, more direct strategies for implementing a lot of things i had kind of innovated on my own? but i've got a bad memory so i wish i'd taken better notes so that *i* could translate a lot of the things in this book to five surefire tips so the idiot reading it can remember the things they found useful lol

dogfood's review

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4.0

„The Antidote“ ist die Reise des Journalisten Oliver Burkeman auf der Suche nach „Happiness“, präziser: „Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking“. Wie kommt es, dass die „Self-Help“-Industrie boomt, aber die Menschen nicht glücklicher werden, sondern zum nächsten Schwung an „Self-Help“-Büchern und -Seminaren greifen?

Weil laut Burkeman die falsche Fragestellung da hinter steckt. Die Suche nach dem Glück ist eine Jagd nach etwas Unerreichbaren und etwas, was die Defiziten in den Vordergrund rückt, statt das, was man bereits hat.

Burkemans Buch ist eine Argumentation diesen Kreislauf zu durchbrechen, in dem man sich auf Negatives einlässt statt davor wegzurennen.

So führt Burkemans Reise auf der Suche nach mehr Resilienz gegen Negativem zu Stoiker, Buddhisten, Meditation, Bergsteiger, Produktdesignern und mexikanischen Todeskult.

Das Buch ist keine aus einem Guss geschriebene Dokumentation oder Diskurs. Die acht Kapitel leiten mit An- und Abmoderationen ineinander über, fallen aber eher heterogen aus. Während die ersten Kapitel noch halbwegs eng am philosophischen/psychologischen/therapeutischen Diskurs dran bleiben, wirken die Kapitel sechs, sieben und acht wie angeflanscht und klingen mehr nach Reiseberichte nach Kenia, Michigan und Mexiko.

Im Epilog versucht Burkeman die zusehends loser gewordenen Fäden wieder zusammenzuziehen. Inwieweit ihm das gelungen ist, hängt letztendlich auch davon ab, wieviel man in das Buch investiert. Mit „in einem Rutsch durchlesen und dann weglegen“ wird es hier nicht getan sein. Mit eigenen Notizen und der aktiven gedanklichen Auseinandersetzung der Thesen und Techniken, gewinnt das Buch und halten die von Burkeman im Epilog gezogenen Fäden besser zusammen.

lavoiture's review

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If you ever actually read Pema Chodron or any other Buddhist texts, you'll get pretty much everything that this books says, only better. I didn't bother to finish this.