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A lot of good things in here. The focus was on de-emphasizing beauty to help with body image, helping girls seek approval from themselves instead of outside sources, prioritizing yourself instead of focusing on everyone but yourself, being able to say yes and no, and how parents can help. I loved the tips for dads at the end of each chapter.
The main things I remember -
*Don't comment on other people's bodies, ever, especially your own and try not to tell girls they are beautiful constantly (not very often, because it puts so much emphasis on looks). Instead focus on what their bodies can do.
*Don't give empty praise. Make sure you ask if the girl likes or is proud of what they've done. Turn satisfaction inward.
*Make sure you balance spending time with girls doing what they enjoy and what you enjoy. It helps you to be a happy parent when you do what you enjoy with your kids, but you do need to show interest and support in other things they like as well.
*No social media until older teen years.
*Make sure decisions about what your child is wearing or how they're experimenting with clothes, etc. reflects your actual values and not just your fear of what others think about your parenting. Give more autonomy.
*Don't sexualize what is not sexual (lipstick, etc.) Consider a girl's reasoning for doing XYZ, which is rarely for promiscuous reasons in young girls.
*Allow kids to be themselves and when possible. (Like being loud in appropriate settings, etc.) Don't shut them down.
*"Good girls" often put the expectations and needs of others above their own, which is not a good thing.
*Don't get sucked into the parenting rat race of tutors and other extra curricular activities. Don't over schedule. Even if your child "loves it", it may not be good for them. Kids also love candy and we don't over schedule them to eat it.
The main things I remember -
*Don't comment on other people's bodies, ever, especially your own and try not to tell girls they are beautiful constantly (not very often, because it puts so much emphasis on looks). Instead focus on what their bodies can do.
*Don't give empty praise. Make sure you ask if the girl likes or is proud of what they've done. Turn satisfaction inward.
*Make sure you balance spending time with girls doing what they enjoy and what you enjoy. It helps you to be a happy parent when you do what you enjoy with your kids, but you do need to show interest and support in other things they like as well.
*No social media until older teen years.
*Make sure decisions about what your child is wearing or how they're experimenting with clothes, etc. reflects your actual values and not just your fear of what others think about your parenting. Give more autonomy.
*Don't sexualize what is not sexual (lipstick, etc.) Consider a girl's reasoning for doing XYZ, which is rarely for promiscuous reasons in young girls.
*Allow kids to be themselves and when possible. (Like being loud in appropriate settings, etc.) Don't shut them down.
*"Good girls" often put the expectations and needs of others above their own, which is not a good thing.
*Don't get sucked into the parenting rat race of tutors and other extra curricular activities. Don't over schedule. Even if your child "loves it", it may not be good for them. Kids also love candy and we don't over schedule them to eat it.
Nothing revolutionary or new, but all good concepts to keep in mind when parenting! (All kids, in my opinion)
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FIVE STARS best parenting book I’ve read. Not repetitive, practical. The first social section felt a little neurotypical (teaching them eye contact, etc), but made sense in the larger framework of the chapter.
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This book was full of a lot of great takeaways that aren't just for caretakers of girls. Some things were great to put into practice for myself as an adult woman. I also learned about impactful what you say to other children could be and took in some guidance on that specifically. I love that they give separate guidance at the end of each chapter to dad's (or male caretakers) on how to support their daughters or the young girls in their lives. Those relationships are very important.
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