The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome by Harriet B. Braiker

3.58 AVERAGE

bgfuzz's review against another edition

3.0
informative reflective fast-paced

jinahan619's review

3.0
challenging hopeful informative inspiring reflective

yaraakh's review against another edition

2.5
informative slow-paced
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zosiablue's review against another edition

3.0
(3.5) Sometimes when I can't sleep, I decide I need to figure out what My Deal is and I borrow self-help books from the library. Last week I decided my deal was people pleasing and, well, here we are!

I got some nuggets that worked for me, namely the idea that trying to be a nice person 100% of the time is disingenuous and can turn you into a bad communicator and get you the opposite results you want. And it won't save you from rejection or criticism. That's helpful reframing for me and kind of the kick in the ass I needed.

The book was more geared towards people who have trouble saying no, which is not my thing (I love to say no), but if it's your thing, you'll get even more out of this.

angele16's review against another edition

3.0
informative reflective slow-paced
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aliyamb's review against another edition

4.0
I was a people pleaser and would have panic attacks and actually have health problems from trying to please who don't even care about me. Once I realized that, I am able to breathe and focus on what is important to me, which is my health and disease ( multiple sclerosis ) and my family. Best book ever!

heathere6093's review against another edition

4.0
A good overview of approval addiction with a 21-day action plan to combat it.