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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
9 reviews
jazzofmine's review against another edition
4.5
I had read a few kind of negative, or at least critical, reviews prior. However I was recommended to read this by my counselor and again I’m very glad I listened. I found myself even rewinding to catch particular phrases a second time. And as I continued listening I realized I wanted to order a physical copy as well in order to annotate and get a second read in. My opinion is that those who have reviewed this critically probably either a) are in denial (if in fact they could benefit from the contents of the book) or b) are not the appropriate audience.
For loved ones of an alcoholic or chemically addicted person, this may be very relatable. But as Melody writes - she tries to engage with folks from a variety of different situations who have come to discover that they’re codependently involved with an addict or unwell person (be it alcoholism, chemical dependence, sex addiction or a variety of situations that could lead to codependency).
I’m a family member of an alcoholic and I would say that as she offered lists of traits, issues, situations, anecdotal stories I found myself saying “yes, yes!” And felt like at least about 75% of the content resonated with my experiences, and was helpful for me.
I only removed half a star because parts of the content weren’t for me with regards to mentions of god. However, I would still recommend this, because she only mentions god or a “higher power” in the second half of the book, in relation to 12 step programs such as AA. And I can appreciate that the structure of some programs she references involve this, and it doesn’t ruffle me (as a nonbeliever). Much of the book was still widely applicable.
Graphic: Addiction, Emotional abuse, Alcoholism, Toxic relationship, and Drug abuse
sashaanauo's review against another edition
4.0
some aspects of the book did not necessarily feel like they applied to me, just as in codependency in relationship to addiction and etc, but I think this is generally a great resource for anyone who struggles with codependency. only complaint is that the occasional mentions of religion / a higher power as a part of helping yourself didn't really apply to me, but those sections were relatively easy to skip and im sure helped a lot of other people!
chapters 4, 8, 14 thru 17, and 19 (specifically the parts on fear of intimacy, forgiveness, limits/boundaries) particularly hit for me!
Moderate: Drug abuse, Alcoholism, and Addiction
annaofjesup's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Toxic friendship, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Gaslighting, Mental illness, Alcohol, Drug use, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Child abuse, and Toxic friendship
faithaforman's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Grief, Self harm, Death, Chronic illness, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Addiction, Toxic relationship, Abandonment, Drug abuse, Physical abuse, Mental illness, and Suicidal thoughts
miranda_is_reading's review against another edition
4.5
Minor: Ableism, Grief, Mental illness, Toxic friendship, Alcoholism, Toxic relationship, Abandonment, Addiction, and Alcohol
fenemiestolovers's review against another edition
2.75
Graphic: Drug abuse, Drug use, Addiction, Mental illness, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Body shaming, Fatphobia, Eating disorder, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Child death, Grief, Infidelity, Fire/Fire injury, Self harm, Gaslighting, Death of parent, and Panic attacks/disorders
Minor: Cancer, Medical trauma, Terminal illness, and Physical abuse
st61826's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, and Drug abuse
Moderate: Domestic abuse
kelleyblythe's review against another edition
however, and probably most of you know this, codependency is not a clinically proven condition, so the advice and writing in this book should be taken with a grain of salt. much of what she includes could be supported by actual research, and the book would be much better if scientific basis was the driving factor behind her advice. maybe the newer editions do include that.
i should also mention there is a lot of fat shaming in this book, which in my opinion is the most alarming and misled view the author has.
she also presumes people believe in God, which, given she recommends the 12 step program, is not surprising, but it would be better if this was not an assumption for the reader.
overall though, i would say this book is worth it. it really helped me examine myself and determine how i can relate to others in a healthy way. so i would say take what you need and leave the rest.
Moderate: Addiction and Body shaming
darkmattersoybean's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Alcoholism and Addiction
Moderate: Alcohol, Alcoholism, Addiction, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Physical abuse, Sexism, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, and Toxic friendship