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This book is completely macabre and completely engrossing. I found it incredibly interesting to read, with so much cultural diversity. I love a nonfiction book that can keep me learning about amazing human experiences without making everything sound severely technical. Somehow, Caitlin Doughty makes death and cremation...fun?

A definite book to read as a companion to Mary Roach's Stiff. There is a little bit of overlap in a topic or two, but these books fit together like lock and key. And they're both written by women with serious backbones and an amazing amount of disturbing, yet totally awesome, knowledge. 

This is a very personal review but what the heck. This is, after all, a book about getting cozy with death.
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Reading this book as I sit by my dad's bedside while he slowly dies has been an eye opening experience. I bought my copy a couple of years ago when my dad first became ill, but I never went beyond the first few chapters for one reason or the other. 

Now, 3 weeks into his end-of-life hospice care I remembered this book existed and dove in. A week ago I wept every time I visited him, and felt helpless and desolate. 

Today, as I finished reading, I visited him and felt strong as I sat by his side talking to him, petting him and fixing him up. 

I tucked him in, smoothed out his bed covers, and brushed his hair. I noticed his nails were too long and scraggly, so I procured nailclippers from a nurse and spent a good half hour trimming and filing them. He's in a deep morphine sleep and has been for over a week; before I would have thought all that fuzzing about didn't matter. But today I felt a sense of calm as I took care of him and more at peace with his inminent death. I want to be involved in his passing and deathcare.

Caitlin Doughty talks about death rituals from around the world, and how it affects her point of view on the death business in the USA. It's very funny at times, and very deep and poignant at others. 

It left me with a sense of awe on how death can be seen and understood. I'll never not be sad thinking about my loved ones dying, but I have more tools now to restructure what death means to me and how to face it.

I want to be present and grieve and feel and be held and take care of my people. Finding the good death indeed.
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Caitlyn is deeply passionate about death, dedicating her life in pursuit of evolving the way we (North Americans) think about dying. This book not only provides a really solid exploration of death practices  from around the globe, it forces you to  confront your own mortality. This is a book that’s sticks with you, inspires conversation, and makes you reflect on your own biases.

Gosh this book had me running the gamut. I laughed, I cried, I felt hopeful, scared, inspired. Caitlyn’s writing is professional yet also witty, always knowing exactly when the reader needs a touch of levity.

I was thrilled when I discovered this audiobook was voiced by the author. If you struggle with nonfiction just picture the audio book as one big Ask A Mortician episode!

Memento Mori

I lied to myself when i clicked “I’ve finished this book!”. I stopped reading this book after finding it initially intriguing but then the descriptions of the animal killings were too much. All the lead up to animals innocently tied up nearby and then... too much for me.

This books does successfully what it sets out to do:
1) Sensitizes us to all cultures and their perception of death and it’s role in society;
2) Shows us not to label death practices different to our own as disrespectful, and therefore to always be respectful (looking at you, nasty tourists);
3) Encourages us to look at death with alternative lenses to what we are used to and what we have been “trained” to see;
4) Not to be afraid of death and what it involves — even to embrace death, as it is an integral part of life, but also an integral part of healing and “being held” as the author describes it.
Fantastic book, a really enlightening read.
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if you’re curious about the stigma surrounding death and dying in Western societies, this book is for you!!

caitlin doughty has done it AGAIN. this book is filled with so much knowledge but it is never dense. i laughed and i cried. i felt seen in my own grief.

EVERYONE SHOULD READ THIS :)