Reviews tagging 'Religious bigotry'

It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn

1 review

shellbybranch's review

informative reflective medium-paced

3.5

I think the author found something that worked for them (forgiving his parents) and decided that must be the solution for everyone. The book seems outdated in a generational and sex sense. Essentially, you must forgive your parents to heal, be success or happy. I suppose that works for people with perfectly healthy upbringings, but it is definitely not sound advice for children who were severely neglected or abused by their parents. I'm not sure why this author would write a book to children telling them to mend their relationship with their parents instead of writing a book to parents telling them they should mend their relationship with their children. Parents, especially in older generations, need to realize that they were problematic in a lot of ways and that it isn't the responsibility of their children to fix their parents' mess. Also, the author thinks whatever is wrong with you is based on your sex and your relationship to a parent based on their sex. I'm not sure there's actual science or evidence to support those thoughts. However, I am giving this a 3.5 because I think a book can teach all of us something and I believe a great deal of who we are as individuals stem from our families and upbringings. 

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Content Warnings

Minor: Religious bigotry