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nickl3s's review against another edition
4.0
I think he just wasn’t that into me. This book is a refreshing and funny read.
horrorghoul's review against another edition
2.0
Lol. I really read this despite me bring in a relationship for years. Was pretty bad. 2 stars because I liked the setup of the book. Sorry but if I had followed this dudes advice I'd be single and thinking every guy hated me. I asked my boyfriend about some parts of the book and he said this dude doesn't speak for every man. I agree. Not sure why this was made into a book or movie as it should have been a blog entry on WordPress. :/
hopeevey's review against another edition
4.0
I happened upon this book on the free shelf as a local used book store. It's a funny approach to helping women realize when a guy isn't really into her.
It's light, and a bit glib at times, but it was just right for me right now. The author is very much like an older brother who expects more from the men you date than you do - and he's usually right. While it's more about when to bail on a crappy romance than how to find a really good one, it does have a lot to offer. If nothing more, it may help you to articulate what you /don't/ want in a romance, and it may help you see what's really there, instead of what you'd like to see. That latter lesson is one I have to keep re-learning.
It's light, and a bit glib at times, but it was just right for me right now. The author is very much like an older brother who expects more from the men you date than you do - and he's usually right. While it's more about when to bail on a crappy romance than how to find a really good one, it does have a lot to offer. If nothing more, it may help you to articulate what you /don't/ want in a romance, and it may help you see what's really there, instead of what you'd like to see. That latter lesson is one I have to keep re-learning.
achristinething's review against another edition
4.0
Great book! Honestly only have to read the first couple of chapters or even the titles of the chapters to get the point. "He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Asking You Out", "If He's not Calling You", "If He's Not Dating You", "If He's Disappeared on You", "If He's a Selfish Jerk, a Bully or a Really Big Freak"
But it's still good reinforcement. I liked all the examples because the brain always wants to make an exception.
But the basic thesis is that if a guy likes you, he will do something about it. He will ask you out, he will hold your hand, he will try to kiss you, etc. No need to overanalyze things, invest in an idea, or make excuses. And there's especially nooo reason to waste your time waiting around or pinning over a guy who clearly doesn't like you enough to try.
It was a good reminder of how you feel and how things go when someone is genuinely interested in you. I liked [b:It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single|18079792|It's Not You 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single|Sara Eckel|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1372047325s/18079792.jpg|25387088] better but it was a different angle.
"If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to take it further. And please don't tell me he's just 'scared.' The only thing he's scared of--and I say this with a lot of love--is how not attracted to you he is."
"There's something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and lead as full and eventful a life I can, so that doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for a guy to ask me out."
"I would be spared hours and hours of...just hoping his mixed messages really meant 'I'm in love with you and want to be with you"
"And most importantly, it's good for us to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We're fantastic."
"When you think about it, making all those excuses for someone and trying to 'figure someone out' takes a lot of energy..."
"I will not, under any circumstance, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me."
But it's still good reinforcement. I liked all the examples because the brain always wants to make an exception.
But the basic thesis is that if a guy likes you, he will do something about it. He will ask you out, he will hold your hand, he will try to kiss you, etc. No need to overanalyze things, invest in an idea, or make excuses. And there's especially nooo reason to waste your time waiting around or pinning over a guy who clearly doesn't like you enough to try.
It was a good reminder of how you feel and how things go when someone is genuinely interested in you. I liked [b:It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single|18079792|It's Not You 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single|Sara Eckel|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1372047325s/18079792.jpg|25387088] better but it was a different angle.
"If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to take it further. And please don't tell me he's just 'scared.' The only thing he's scared of--and I say this with a lot of love--is how not attracted to you he is."
"There's something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and lead as full and eventful a life I can, so that doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for a guy to ask me out."
"I would be spared hours and hours of...just hoping his mixed messages really meant 'I'm in love with you and want to be with you"
"And most importantly, it's good for us to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We're fantastic."
"When you think about it, making all those excuses for someone and trying to 'figure someone out' takes a lot of energy..."
"I will not, under any circumstance, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me."
kenna_ainjo's review against another edition
3.0
An engaging, quick read. Probably the book's biggest issue is that it makes a lot of broad generalizations about how men behave, but as those generalizations are largely true and the book made broad generalizations on purpose because if it didn't, the women reading the book would continue to think of themselves as "exceptions to the rules," so I don't know that I can be upset about that. The book is a fun, pretty realistic, and encouraging read that helps women not take crap in their relationships, and I definitely support that.
ashontheline's review against another edition
2.0
This book is kind of ridiculous. Most of the situations are ridiculous. The problem is some things in here are right. It’s all a little grey area. Nothing is black and white; for some women one of these could be true for others, not so much. Our sex does not make us all the same so therefore it’s not for everyone. Some of the advice, I resonated with, others I was saying, “of course not idiot.” For a little fun with your friends this could be right, but as a self help book, I don’t think so!
clockworkbee's review against another edition
Absolutely amazing book. This should be required reading for girls (and maybe some guys). Stop making excuses already and consider the liberating idea that maybe, just maybe, he's not that into you. The whole book wasn't applicable to me, but it was a very fast and entertaining read. I will be watching out for some of these signs in the future.
kendrabetweenthelines's review against another edition
3.0
This was okay. I loved certain parts, and really disliked others.