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catlyn_brooke's review against another edition
5.0
As a person who isn’t sure if polyamory is for them, this book is a loving, hilarious, and vulnerable look into relationships different than mine. I appreciate Sophie’s candid story telling and honesty about the triumphs, troubles, and heartbreak. An excellent book with lessons to be learned and applied to any relationship dynamic.
yesenianavaa's review against another edition
4.0
I wasn't sure what I was going to get from this book seeing as how I am in a monogamous relationship and not particularly interested in a polyamorous one. From the beginning, Sophie does a great job at setting up clear definitions for the reader to follow. Her question-answer is extremely easy to follow and gives direct answers to any lingering questions that the reader may have before even reading the text. In this way, she approaches some already preconceived biases that the reader may have and she sets them straight. I was surprised to find as much data woven throughout the book as there was and I found it very helpful. The first half of the book is more focused on her friendships with women and how she then reevaluated what love meant in her life. That's the part that really stuck with me. I don't necessarily prioritize romantic love over platonic, but I do treat it differently. And this book has helped me in being critical in evaluating what types of love exist in my life and how I sustain these relationships. Since the Luke character in the story is my boss, I was really invested in that relationship and found it super cute.
oxleyio's review
5.0
I really enjoyed this book. Even if you're not interested in having a polyamorous relationship, the author's musings on jealousy, the capacity to love, and the evolution of friendships and romantic relationships are still worth considering.
gmaz's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
I like the author’s writing style—she’s funny and keeps things interesting.
I wasn’t sure about the ending—a book about polyamory ending with a hetero marriage? Seemed ironic at best. But the more I thought about it, it makes sense to let people know that you polyamorous people can get married, too. There’s not a one-size-fits-all approach to relationships, which is really what polyamory is all about.
crankyisgood's review against another edition
Polyamory is a ton of emotional work - whew. I love the insights into friendship and how we prioritize romantic relationships in our lives—to the detriment of our emotional health, and to the romantic relationship. It’s what people say when kids first get together—“don’t neglect your friends!” We can be so unforgiving when that does happen, especially as young individualistic perfectionists. Sigh.
meganamato's review against another edition
5.0
I LOVE THIS BOOK. I checked it out from my local library but I definitely want to purchase my own copy because I definitely want to reread it. Sophie covers so much more than just "what is polyamory?" She discusses communication, jealousy, sex, relationships, birds, pie, and of course, love. I learned so much and my heart feels vastly more open than it did before I read this book. Whether you're curious about polyamory, trying to better understand someone in your life who is polyamorous, or just curious about the different ways that love and relationships can look, I highly recommend this book.
kricketa's review against another edition
4.0
I am a big fan of Sophie Lucido Johnson's illustrations, writing, and substack newsletter. I do not know very much about polyamory so she seemed like a good person to learn about it from, while also learning about a human that I find wise and interesting. This memoir (yes, memoir! it's in the title!) is quite personal to her experience becoming polyamorous in the way that she chooses to be polyamorous. This might not be the way that everyone chooses to be polyamorous, which is very clearly explained in the book. While I occasionally found the timeline of the memoir ever so slightly chronologically confusing, I appreciated how well researched and cited it was, I liked the charts and illustrations, and I loved Sophie's voice and how willing she is to share her journey.