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Tinderbox: One Family's Story of Adoption, Neurodiversity, and Fierce Love
Lynn Alsup
3.75 AVERAGE
4 reviews for:
Tinderbox: One Family's Story of Adoption, Neurodiversity, and Fierce Love
Lynn Alsup
3.75 AVERAGE
This is an absolute hurricane of a book. Its raw, honest and quite confronting.
So pack an umbrella because this is a rollercoaster of emotions, situations, experiences and behaviours.
You will laugh, cry, scream and everything in between.
I would recommend this to all parents and people wanting to learn more on what happens behind the scenes of adoption and behavioral/developmental issues. I really enjoyed Lynn and her families story. Lynn uses such beautiful ways to describe her experiences and challenges raising her children. She follows the story of adoption, behavioral issues, trauma and learning to cope in a confronting environment. I love how she describes her environment to bring you into the story, it immerses you and you feel part of her story. It is a fantastic story of learning and growing. It's real, open and honest. It's raw insight and I feel I learnt a lot reading this book. You feel there with the author trying to learn how to best care for her kids, make them feel welcome and cared for, the struggles of having children who are a different race, looking and fighting for answers to help children. It is so open and honest and I adore that in the book. There is no hiding, everything is out there in the open.
The only issues I had with this book was that at times the time swapping made it confusing. However, it was easy to pick up where you were. It would end up making sense at a point but at times you were a tad confused.
TW
- Self Harm
- Suicidal Ideation
-Sexual Abuse(Child)
- Trauma
- Therapeutic Boarding School(Including transport agents)
- Fertility issues
Perfect for
-Students in Community Services, Education, Health. Mental health, Alcohol and other drugs.
- Families
-Medical Professionals
- Curious Minds
- People working in Adoption
- Adopted/ Adopting
-Teachers!!!
I was lucky to receive an ARC copy of this book through Netgalley for my feedback.
So pack an umbrella because this is a rollercoaster of emotions, situations, experiences and behaviours.
You will laugh, cry, scream and everything in between.
I would recommend this to all parents and people wanting to learn more on what happens behind the scenes of adoption and behavioral/developmental issues. I really enjoyed Lynn and her families story. Lynn uses such beautiful ways to describe her experiences and challenges raising her children. She follows the story of adoption, behavioral issues, trauma and learning to cope in a confronting environment. I love how she describes her environment to bring you into the story, it immerses you and you feel part of her story. It is a fantastic story of learning and growing. It's real, open and honest. It's raw insight and I feel I learnt a lot reading this book. You feel there with the author trying to learn how to best care for her kids, make them feel welcome and cared for, the struggles of having children who are a different race, looking and fighting for answers to help children. It is so open and honest and I adore that in the book. There is no hiding, everything is out there in the open.
The only issues I had with this book was that at times the time swapping made it confusing. However, it was easy to pick up where you were. It would end up making sense at a point but at times you were a tad confused.
TW
- Self Harm
- Suicidal Ideation
-Sexual Abuse(Child)
- Trauma
- Therapeutic Boarding School(Including transport agents)
- Fertility issues
Perfect for
-Students in Community Services, Education, Health. Mental health, Alcohol and other drugs.
- Families
-Medical Professionals
- Curious Minds
- People working in Adoption
- Adopted/ Adopting
-Teachers!!!
I was lucky to receive an ARC copy of this book through Netgalley for my feedback.
The sterotypical super Christian white couple, adopting as many kids as they can, though they didn't have a steady income or home address. They need to heal from their own infertility before scooping up babies. I gave up halfway through.
Thanks to She Writes Press for an ARC of this very intense read. As an adoptive parent, it brought into focus a lot of the things you cannot change about the children you welcome into your family.
I applaud the Alsups for their tenacity in working to build a family from chaos not of their own making. It's helpful for readers to know that kids come to adoption with built-in trauma, no matter the age. Their brains, their DNA is changed as a result. The Alsups' journey to a relatively whole family was fraught and hard to read. They never let go of their kids, even when the string tying them together was at the point of snapping.
I knocked it down a star because I felt there were multiple times that Alsup included far too many mundane details about any particular day - I started to skim as a result. I also wondered how good her spritiual direction could have been without her life falling apart all around her. I also wondered if her taking on all of the mindfulness, meditation, etc. skills and certifications was helping her. But only she can answer that.
The FASCETS program as described by Alsup is certainly interesting, but I hope it is not used to diagnose people incorrectly.
I applaud the Alsups for their tenacity in working to build a family from chaos not of their own making. It's helpful for readers to know that kids come to adoption with built-in trauma, no matter the age. Their brains, their DNA is changed as a result. The Alsups' journey to a relatively whole family was fraught and hard to read. They never let go of their kids, even when the string tying them together was at the point of snapping.
I knocked it down a star because I felt there were multiple times that Alsup included far too many mundane details about any particular day - I started to skim as a result. I also wondered how good her spritiual direction could have been without her life falling apart all around her. I also wondered if her taking on all of the mindfulness, meditation, etc. skills and certifications was helping her. But only she can answer that.
The FASCETS program as described by Alsup is certainly interesting, but I hope it is not used to diagnose people incorrectly.
CW: Suicidal Ideation, Sexual Assault
This memoir was full of love, struggle, and connection. Lynn shares her personal journey and how she learned to support her children with compassion and advocating for resources when everything seems to be falling apart. This work is an intimate look at a family and how they navigate conversations related to adoption, racism, and neurodiversity. This was a powerful and challenging read. I received a copy of this work for my honest review.
This memoir was full of love, struggle, and connection. Lynn shares her personal journey and how she learned to support her children with compassion and advocating for resources when everything seems to be falling apart. This work is an intimate look at a family and how they navigate conversations related to adoption, racism, and neurodiversity. This was a powerful and challenging read. I received a copy of this work for my honest review.