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Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

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bootsmom3's review against another edition

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challenging emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted medium-paced

4.0

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emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

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mlkai's review

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hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

easy to read women’s sexuality. definitely keeping some of her points in my brain for awhile.

pt 1 was my favorite. kind of wish the rest has been truncated but that’s ok.

i liked the stories of the four women. but i often couldnt keep track of who was who or what happened in the story previously. also could not for the life of my remember the different between liking wanting and learning which made her later references frustrating bc i didn’t fully get them.

nitpick/formatting thing: the fact that she didn’t use chicago style annotations drove me BONKERS bc i constantly had to go to the end of the book (only to often see it was just a citation w/o commentary —- i created a system quickly but still annoyed me enough to mention in an online review very few ppl will read 😂)

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inspiring reflective slow-paced

4.5

For nonfiction, I really enjoyed this. I’m not a nonfiction girly, so it did take me a little while to get through.

But the narrator (I believe the author narrated) was really engaging. She had a great tone. Fun when it was time to be fun and serious when necessary, too.

SA (s*exual ass*ult) trigger warning. But those parts were super well written. I appreciated how she didn’t linger on those parts too long. It felt just enough to inform without being triggering.

My main complaint is that it felt redundant at times. Tho I can understand that she may have been redundant bc the whole point of the book is to shift narratives surrounding AFAB/women/femme people’s sex lives. And it’s hard to shift narratives rooted is misogyny with just a few sentences.

Main topics I loved:
• dropping the shame around sex
• normalizing a diversity labias
• understanding your style of desire — spontaneous or responsive
• changing your expectations of yourself during sex

Highly recommend to anyone like me, who gets in their head during sex sometimes.

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readingescapes's review against another edition

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emotional informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

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klimatyczny_bluszcz's review against another edition

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funny informative inspiring relaxing slow-paced

4.25

I really liked how the author made all of the knowledge funny, easy to read and complete. The style of writing and the amusing metaphors made it easy to focus on the text and understand the point made. Helpful in discovering and depthening my understanding of my own sexuality. However I felt quite concerned while reading about the author's radical acceptance for almost everything around sex and the constantly reapeted sentence: 'You are normal, you are healthy'. I am not quite sure that completely everything consensual and without unwanted pain, as Emily suggested, is healthy in sex. I can see, why it appeared so many time in the book, as I observe quite a lot of fear and stigma around women's sexuality, but I do not agree that it is so easy to tell everyone they are normal. Therefore, I was not completly satisfied with the read, however I found it really useful and entertaining at once

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