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informative
reflective
medium-paced
Thought this book was very informative! I wish we all talked about aspec identities more!
informative
reflective
medium-paced
This book was definitely informative, but very dense. I got through the chapters that were of most interest to me and then decided to be finished. But it was definitely thoughtfully written. I wouldn’t recommend this as your first introduction to asexuality, but it does have some great additional information and resources.
funny
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
relaxing
fast-paced
I really enjoyed this novel- especially the areas discussing kink, as it is not a topic I see written about when it comes to aspec identities or the current, broader, queer community as a whole.
I will say that this novel focused mainly on asexuality- a symptom of both writers being ace-spec but not both aro-spec I assume- but regardless, I liked all of the topics they brought to the table, as well as the wit shown throughout (especially within the audiobook). It felt like sitting down with some friends to discuss our community. Not particularly life-changing for me, but it reminds me that I'm normal. I'm sure this book is very impactful for others!!
(Note: The term "nb" reference in the book is actually spelt "enby", though I am unsure if they spelt it wrong as I listened to the book. Regardless, "nb" refers to "non-black", so keep that in mind.)
I will say that this novel focused mainly on asexuality- a symptom of both writers being ace-spec but not both aro-spec I assume- but regardless, I liked all of the topics they brought to the table, as well as the wit shown throughout (especially within the audiobook). It felt like sitting down with some friends to discuss our community. Not particularly life-changing for me, but it reminds me that I'm normal. I'm sure this book is very impactful for others!!
(Note: The term "nb" reference in the book is actually spelt "enby", though I am unsure if they spelt it wrong as I listened to the book. Regardless, "nb" refers to "non-black", so keep that in mind.)
informative
reflective
fast-paced
love the subject matter but not the writing :/
What I’m learning from coming across books by podcasters that I didn’t know were podcasters is this: I’m not a fan.
Heavily reminded of Amanda Montell’s The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality in terms of tone while listening to the audiobook(s), except a little more grating for me personally as it was a conversation between two people (very much like a podcast, but broken in to “chapters”…) who at times felt like they veered from their scripts. I can’t imagine that some of the small interactions translated well to text, but in reading reviews, that seems to have been a possibility.
Don’t even want to touch the JKR shout out/“example” of using a critical lens when it completely lacks that. So many disclaimers and contexts were given at the beginning of this to situate where Costello and Kaszyca are coming from, but why did this even need to be included given the content of the book?
Felt more passionate in writing this review because this listen sort of pissed me off and left me more irritated than bored like Montell’s book based off a podcast. Was hoping for more out of this, but maybe I’m just too “gender-pilled”/sociology brained.
Heavily reminded of Amanda Montell’s The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality in terms of tone while listening to the audiobook(s), except a little more grating for me personally as it was a conversation between two people (very much like a podcast, but broken in to “chapters”…) who at times felt like they veered from their scripts. I can’t imagine that some of the small interactions translated well to text, but in reading reviews, that seems to have been a possibility.
Don’t even want to touch the JKR shout out/“example” of using a critical lens when it completely lacks that. So many disclaimers and contexts were given at the beginning of this to situate where Costello and Kaszyca are coming from, but why did this even need to be included given the content of the book?
Felt more passionate in writing this review because this listen sort of pissed me off and left me more irritated than bored like Montell’s book based off a podcast. Was hoping for more out of this, but maybe I’m just too “gender-pilled”/sociology brained.
DNF *after a chapter and a half* in part because the audiobook sounded very much like one of their podcast episodes
fast-paced
I felt that this was more ace-focused than aro-focused, and I'd have liked to hear more about specifically the aroace experience, also there wasn't much mention of allosexual aromantic people. I appreciated the mention of aplatonic people and having it explained in a way that makes sense to people who haven't heard of it. I did not like the defense of JKR's "views on gender" it felt kind of random and didn't acknowledge that supporting JKR funds the anti trans movement in the UK. I personally did not get a lot from this book but I can see it being helpful to a newly ace/aro person.
An amazing book that puts to words the experiences of many on the asexual and aromantic spectrums.