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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
25 reviews
l1brarygirl's review against another edition
4.5
My actual rating: 4.5 stars - I'm rounding up because I think this book is going to stay with me for a long time. I would recommend it to anyone that wants a deeper understanding of trauma and how it effects your physical body as well as the mind.
I also recently read [book:Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art|48890486], which may be a very good companion read.
Impactful quotes:
“Many of our patients are barely aware of their breath, so learning to focus on the in and out breath, to notice whether the breath was fast or slow, and to count breaths in some poses can be a significant accomplishment.”
“We have learned that trauma is not just an event that took place sometime in the past; it is also the imprint left by that experience on mind, brain, and body. This imprint has ongoing consequences for how the human organism manages to survive in the present. Trauma results in a fundamental reorganization of the way mind and brain manage perceptions. It changes not only how we think and what we think about, but also our very capacity to think.”
“The greatest sources of our suffering are the lies we tell ourselves.”
“Over the years our research team has repeatedly found that chronic emotional abuse and neglect can be just as devastating as physical abuse and sexual molestation.”
“Talking about painful events doesn’t necessarily establish community – often quite the contrary. Families and organizations may reject members who air the dirty laundry; friends and family can lost patience with people who get stuck in their grief or hurt. This is one reason why trauma victims often withdraw and why their stories become rote narratives, edited into a form least likely to provoke rejection.”
“I wish I could separate trauma from politics, but as long as we continue to live in denial and treat only trauma while ignoring its origins, we are bound to fail. In today’s world your ZIP code, even more than your genetic code, determines whether you will lead a safe and healthy life. People’s income, family structure, housing, employment, and educational opportunities affect not only their risk of developing traumatic stress but also their access to effective help to address it. Poverty, unemployment, inferior schools, social isolation, widespread availability of guns, and substandard housing all are breeding grounds for trauma. Trauma breeds further trauma; hurt people hurt other people.”
Graphic: Physical abuse, Rape, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Sexual violence, Pedophilia, Drug abuse, Sexual assault, Mental illness, Child abuse, Incest, Addiction, Panic attacks/disorders, and Abandonment
Moderate: Self harm, Eating disorder, Sexual harassment, Genocide, Ableism, Infidelity, War, Gaslighting, Death of parent, Abortion, Suicidal thoughts, and Medical trauma
comrad3's review against another edition
5.0
Moderate: Mental illness, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, Pedophilia, and Adult/minor relationship
Minor: Incest, Addiction, Gaslighting, Alcoholism, Abandonment, Drug use, and Gun violence
issyd23's review
2.0
Graphic: Body horror, Sexual violence, Addiction, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Self harm, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Incest, Murder, Physical abuse, Child abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Gaslighting, Gore, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Grief, Rape, Sexual assault, Abandonment, Dysphoria, and Emotional abuse
novella42's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Ableism, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Bullying, Cancer, Death, Fire/Fire injury, Injury/Injury detail, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Self harm, Sexual assault, Addiction, Child death, Chronic illness, Drug use, Forced institutionalization, Gaslighting, Incest, Medical content, Medical trauma, Grief, Sexual violence, Terminal illness, Violence, War, Car accident, Death of parent, Drug abuse, Mental illness, Murder, Panic attacks/disorders, Rape, Gun violence, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Sexism, and Sexual harassment
hannah1937's review against another edition
0.25
His first case study is Tom, a man who killed children and raped women during the war, which is presented to us as an understandable trauma response to losing his friends in battle.
His second case study is Sylvia, and the first thing we are told about her is that she is an attractive 19 year old, like that is somehow relavent to anything, or an appropriate way for a therapist to describe a patient. Interestingly we aren’t told anything about Tom’s appearance. Sylvia was raped by her brother and uncle as a child, which he describes as incest, like that the only thing wrong with that situation. As we learn from Tom, raping children is understandable, as long as you aren’t related to them.
He also describes domestic violence as ‘couples who engage in violence’, a deliberate phrase to remove the concept of a perpetrator and a victim, which is complete rubbish.
He then describes how surprised he was to learn he got satisfaction from wrestling patients to the ground when working at his first psychiatrict faculty. Do not read this book.
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Rape, Gaslighting, Medical trauma, Self harm, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Forced institutionalization, Incest, Misogyny, Pedophilia, and Physical abuse
franklola's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Body shaming, Suicidal thoughts, Physical abuse, Self harm, Suicide, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Child abuse, Rape, Suicide attempt, Emotional abuse, Panic attacks/disorders, Adult/minor relationship, Bullying, Pedophilia, Violence, Confinement, Domestic abuse, Gaslighting, Incest, Mental illness, and Misogyny
sadieh's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Child abuse, Incest, Mental illness, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Suicidal thoughts
If you have trauma that you’re still working through, please take care of yourself when reading this. It’s helpful but also highly activating.caitlinderocker's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Alcohol, Alcoholism, Bullying, Body shaming, Cancer, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Car accident, Grief, Medical trauma, Pedophilia, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Suicidal thoughts, Blood, Child death, Mental illness, Rape, Abandonment, Chronic illness, Confinement, Death, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Incest, Infidelity, Medical content, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Torture, and Violence
tetedump's review against another edition
4.75
Graphic: Abandonment, Ableism, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Animal death, Antisemitism, Bullying, Cancer, Car accident, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Colonisation, Confinement, Suicide, Terminal illness, Torture, Toxic relationship, Trafficking, Violence, War, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fire/Fire injury, Gaslighting, Genocide, Forced institutionalization, Grief, Gun violence, Hate crime, Incest, Infidelity, Injury/Injury detail, Kidnapping, Mass/school shootings, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Misogyny, Murder, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Police brutality, Racism, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Slavery, Stalking, and Xenophobia
rosilee's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Bullying, Chronic illness, Car accident, Grief, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Sexual assault, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Dysphoria, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, War, Addiction, Death, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Incest, Panic attacks/disorders, Abandonment, Child abuse, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, and Suicide