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Yes, Daddy by Jonathan Parks-Ramage

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mangofandango's review

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dark tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? N/A

3.0

I have mixed feelings about this one! I signed up for one thing and got sort of another, and I think that was intentional but it was less fun than I imagined it would be. Like, I expected dark, sexy gay thriller, and what it actually is is...dark, grim, sort of mysterious but not quite a thriller, not so much consensually sexy sex but definitely full of many rape scenes, with a main character that seems more like a symbol than an actual character somehow.

I read the discussion guide in the back because I found I finished the book somewhat unclear as to the author's intentions here. Like, it's a story about an ex-evangelical who was forced into conversion therapy, it's got lots of "you deserve this sexual assault, rape and abuse because you're gay" stuff going on because of that, it's trauma after trauma, and the specter of evangelicalism doesn't ever really leave - it gets a kinder re-brand toward the end. So I honestly couldn't tell if this book was operating on stereotypes, playing into some of the poison it represents, or intended to be an exploration of the ways spiritual, sexual, and emotional abuse plays out in these contexts. The author says he was trying to diversify the idea behind #MeToo and bring gay voices and an imperfect victim into it, so it's more the latter, but I didn't find that it was a very strong statement of anything because I couldn't quite tell which side he was on sometimes? Though now that I think about it, it is in some ways a sort of systematic way of telling the story of how someone might fall into an abusive situation, be traumatized, and find potential for healing afterwards. 

Overall, I did like the book well enough and feel invested in the story. But I didn't love it. And if...any triggers around spiritual abuse, sexual abuse, rape, false reporting, relationship abuse, isolation etc etc. are an issue for you, I think you should steer clear of this one.

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forrestalexander's review against another edition

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dark emotional sad tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

Warning: SPOILERS

I have mixed feelings about this book. I didn't know what to expect and I like the concept, but in my opinion, it didn't follow through. 

As someone else said, the book is too short to properly address the multitude of issues it presented.

The book touches on:

  • a gay main character with unaccepting parents
  • religious trauma
  • conversion therapy and the resulting trauma
  • domestic abuse, toxic and abusive relationships
  • manipulation and general abuse
  • rape, sexual assault, and casual sexual harassment
  • drug abuse
  • suicide, suicidal thoughts

& more. There aren't enough pages in the book to have us become invested in the characters and touch on all of the above topics and do them justice - instead, it half touches on all of them and is just busy and feels cluttered. It is trying to do too much at once.

Because it was trying to cram so much into each page, I wasn't invested in the characters and it made me care less about the story overall.

Also, coming from a queer man living in bushwick from somewhat similar circumstances, I hated the main character. He relied on everyone else and did nothing but pity and feel bad for himself instead of trying to do anything to change his life. He was selfish and self-centered, and how he acted in court destroyed the lives of others to the point of no return. How I am supposed to feel any level of empathy for him, or happiness when he finally sort of gets his shit together at the end, is beyond me. 

The religious trauma was a bit trite for a gay character, and I understand the second half was supposed to set it apart from other stories with similar themes - but the second half felt forced, strange, and left me weirded out. I am still not sure what the message was supposed to be, it didn't translate.

With all of that being said, I think if a few of the themes were left out and the author focused on one or two things, it could have been great. For that reason, I have no doubt the author has potential - but I hope in his next book, it feels less crammed. 

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mothreadsbookssometimes's review

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3.0


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bells_shelves's review

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dark emotional hopeful mysterious sad tense fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5

The first half of this book was absolutely incredible. I read the first two hundred pages in one sitting. However, after the trial, a lot of the plot began to grow unbelievable and unconvincing. Some things that happened were outside of one’s character traits, or just didn’t make sense, and that pulled me out of the story. I still enjoyed it, and I think a lot of the themes and overall messages discussed in the Q&A session are especially important in reading this book, especially when it comes to understanding trauma and survivorship. 

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skreytak's review

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typewriterworries's review

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dark sad tense fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

2.5

Extremely dark book and often felt like it was dark just to be, well, dark. 

I was intrigued by the concept of a suspenseful thriller that centered around the lifestyle of a young man who's trying his best to live the luxurious, coquettish lifestyle he pictured himself having. In theory, it had so much promise. 

At the start, the book had my attention. I was interested in learning more about the relationship between Jonah and the famed playwright, Richard. There's something about Richard that doesn't seem quite right and it doesn't take long for both Jonah and the reader to realize this. We're soon taken through a tale of trauma, deception and tragedy. 

While the book is gripping and I found myself breezing through it; the amount of just overtly dark themes and dark scenes became too much. At some point I found myself outright skipping through some of the darker passages because it wasn't adding anything to the story. Every time the book provided some type of hopeful progression, it was undercut by something dark and sinister. 

I think the author has a knack for writing a character you want to learn more about and I hope that he does that with future work but has much less misery. 

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caterpillarkat's review

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challenging dark emotional tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.75


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soljovis's review

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challenging dark fast-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5


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readwithcarly's review

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challenging dark emotional sad tense slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? N/A
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
I've been sitting on this book review for a while because "Yes, Daddy" is a walking list of trigger warnings. Please please please read them before picking this one up. 

We follow the story of Jonah, an ambitious playwright in his twenties who has moved from Illinois to New York City to follow his dreams. When he finds himself barely scraping by with rent each month, he seeks out Pulitzer Prize–winning playwright Richard Shriver to help him get a foot in the door and make a name for himself in the industry. 

They soon forge a romantic relationship, but as summer heats up and the two take a trip to the Hamptons where a handful of Richard's other successful friends gather, it takes a sinister twist. 

This book is almost split into three parts: before the Hamptons, at the Hamptons, and after the Hamptons. The first part is a steep buildup toward the climax as we see the relationship with Jonah and Richard progress. The time at the Hamptons is the most brutal part of the story and was very, very hard to read at times because the content was so explicit and gruesome. The third part of the book is a relief, as everything becomes pieced together.

Themes such as abuse, power, homophobia, rape, trauma, grooming, manipulation, sexual exploitation and violence are only a few among many others explored over the course of this book. Although the content was triggering, the writing itself was done extremely well. Jonathan Parks-Ramage's writing had me hooked from the very first page and continued onward through this very intense reading experience. 

 Thank you Net Galley and Mariner Books for the digital advanced readers copy.

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painausten314's review

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dark emotional mysterious sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

2.0


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