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134 reviews for:
I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
Michael S. Sorensen
4.02 AVERAGE
134 reviews for:
I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
Michael S. Sorensen
4.02 AVERAGE
Despite the absolute fundamental application of this validation principle, I've never heard it spoken of in all my years of communication study. What a pity because incorporating validation will absolutely 110% improve relationships, which is a truly exciting thought. Who DOESN'T want to understand? Who DOESN'T want to be understood?
At its essence, validation is offering the affirmation every human being unconsciously seeks. The only reason I could think of that it would be overlooked in literature would be that it's so basic, so integral, authors must not deem it complicated enough to write about. Again, a pity.
As my own proof of how strongly I feel, I Hear You has been highlighted, marked up, noted, and will be placed next to my very few other "to re-read" books, once it's made the rounds of everyone I recommended it to.
I won this book off a Giveaway and am genuinely glad I did.
At its essence, validation is offering the affirmation every human being unconsciously seeks. The only reason I could think of that it would be overlooked in literature would be that it's so basic, so integral, authors must not deem it complicated enough to write about. Again, a pity.
As my own proof of how strongly I feel, I Hear You has been highlighted, marked up, noted, and will be placed next to my very few other "to re-read" books, once it's made the rounds of everyone I recommended it to.
I won this book off a Giveaway and am genuinely glad I did.
I won this book for free through Goodreads Giveaways. Thank you to Goodreads, Autumn Creek Press and Michael S. Sorensen for an ebook copy. As always, an honest review from me.
My actual rating is 4.5/5 stars but since there aren't half stars, I always round up.
The premise of I Hear You sounds too good to be true, but its really not. Most of the book is centered around the premise of validation being the key to better understanding, meaningful conversations and relationships. I think it’s true. I tried out the technique myself and it worked. It helped to deescalate a situation in which the other person was angry and stressed. They felt heard and understood and the situation resolved itself nicely. Also, bonus, I felt proud about the new interpersonal skill that I acquired.
I like that the book is short without too much extra fluff. Succinct information but also enough examples to really help you apply it to your life. Almost everything in the book completely resonated with me.
However, I wish there was more about getting people to validate me when I need it. It’s so hard to tell someone “I’m feeling insecure, validate me!” Also I want to add that you don’t always have to do the long drawn out process of validating people. You can put yourself first, keep it short and sweet and not be an emotional sounding board for the other person. But these communication skills are great when you choose to use them.
Overall, a really helpful book! Many self help books are informative but when it comes down to real life, don’t help me that much. Not so, with this book. I definitely recommend giving it a read!
My actual rating is 4.5/5 stars but since there aren't half stars, I always round up.
The premise of I Hear You sounds too good to be true, but its really not. Most of the book is centered around the premise of validation being the key to better understanding, meaningful conversations and relationships. I think it’s true. I tried out the technique myself and it worked. It helped to deescalate a situation in which the other person was angry and stressed. They felt heard and understood and the situation resolved itself nicely. Also, bonus, I felt proud about the new interpersonal skill that I acquired.
I like that the book is short without too much extra fluff. Succinct information but also enough examples to really help you apply it to your life. Almost everything in the book completely resonated with me.
However, I wish there was more about getting people to validate me when I need it. It’s so hard to tell someone “I’m feeling insecure, validate me!” Also I want to add that you don’t always have to do the long drawn out process of validating people. You can put yourself first, keep it short and sweet and not be an emotional sounding board for the other person. But these communication skills are great when you choose to use them.
Overall, a really helpful book! Many self help books are informative but when it comes down to real life, don’t help me that much. Not so, with this book. I definitely recommend giving it a read!
I listened to this on Audible. It was short, wasn’t overly repetitive, but it was information that I thought to be common sense.
This book givea you skills of communication, mostly the listening aspect. It helps you become an active listener and to not be rude even if you mean well. I felt this to be a skill I already had but it never hurts to get a bit of a refesher course on it.
If you suck at helping people through hard times or listening to their vulnerabilities, this book is for you.
This book givea you skills of communication, mostly the listening aspect. It helps you become an active listener and to not be rude even if you mean well. I felt this to be a skill I already had but it never hurts to get a bit of a refesher course on it.
If you suck at helping people through hard times or listening to their vulnerabilities, this book is for you.
great reminder to listen and validate more, easy read. could have been an article.
1. Empathize
2. Validate the emotion
3. Provide advice/recommendations (if appropriate/asked for)
4. Validate again
Nothing new added about validation or listening. The author admits that he neither has expertise in the field nor in writing. Thankfully nothing new or noteworthy was really added to the conversation with this work, just a rehashing of other good pieces of advice.
2. Validate the emotion
3. Provide advice/recommendations (if appropriate/asked for)
4. Validate again
Nothing new added about validation or listening. The author admits that he neither has expertise in the field nor in writing. Thankfully nothing new or noteworthy was really added to the conversation with this work, just a rehashing of other good pieces of advice.
Basically taking Critical incident Stress management interviewing principles and redeploying them for normal life stress. Nothing new just explained fairly basically.
We love a book about validation and empathy! I feel like this will be a book I will come back to often.
Helpful book. Simple, short, to the point. I appreciated that the author didn't add a bunch of filler. I think the key concepts are simple and important and easy for everyone to use. I know I will try to implement these into my life more.
Good advice, succinct, practical, useful.
Second time, just as good.
Second time, just as good.
