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melsage1823's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
I do have some issues but they don't bring down the book for me. As a Nonbinary person I thought Sunil was a very good character but I felt like he should have balanced between both He or They or just specified one set of pronouns. I know they're not a main character but I felt like his gender journey could have been a bit more of a side plot. However I did enjoy his experiences as a Gay Asexual Enby partly being able to help Georgia though. Same with Jason apart from his huge spoiler subplot with Georgia we didn't get to know too much about him and explore further. Also would have appreciated TWs for when extremely awkward chapters came in the book for the sex repulsed Ace peeps considering the audience but it was authentic and I liked that. If you have issues with the book its understandable like hopefully they'll be more Aro Ace Spec own voices where they can add more diverse books and experiences like Demiromantic Asexual character pls. All I'm saying is that especially if your on the Aro Ace spec and this book doesn't rep you authentically your feelings are valid but I'm in the area I think Oseman tried to target as that's her own experience too. Also if your not Autistic that's why you might struggle with this as Georgia Warr is definitely Autistic coded and the rep makes me so happy I wish it wa actually cannon.
Onto positives. Alice Oseman created a small cast of amazing and well developed characters that were highly entertaining. She knows how to write teenagers and I was glad that everyone acted like human teens struggling with emotions. None of the drama in the book felt forced at all.
I'm not a fan of Shakespeare but Oseman managed to hugely get me invested in the play subplot and how much the group comes to mean to Georgia.
Speaking of Georgia I absolutely loved her character development and the fact that due to us already knowing we as the readers are like supportive invisible friends cheering from the sidelines. She's so human with her struggles and I like that through her and I guess to an extent Pip and Rooney we get to see how damaging heteronormitivity is and how important it is to spread awareness. With how all the characters act in the book it makes you want to try get rid of your own heternormativity that you've picked up.
Book was accessible for those who are neurodivergent and definitely made it clear when Georgia was texting and receiving messages in a really creative way.
However in terms of accessibility I definitely I advise to read this book in parts as the Acephobia and internalized Acephobia is so raw and authentically true that especially when it was Georgia's own self hatred for herself it hurt like an absolute saw thumb but seeing Georgia get rid of her own internalized Aromantic And Acephobia made you feel proud. Oseman made it really clear in her writing it's ok to have internalized self hate and that getting rid of it is a process.
Don't want to spoil the major Pip x Rooney spoilers who haven't read the book but think Enemies To Lovers but spicy WLW. It's a Pan + Lesbian relationship which I think is incredibly unique rep.
Overall and absolutely incredible standalone book that I would absolutely love a sequel too about Georgia maybe accepting to not be too clingy with her friends as beautiful as Platonic relationships are or a spinoff with Sunill or even Elis Georgia's cousin. Might be a while before I reread because it was so authentically raw but if your an Aromantic Asexual spec person, questioning or an ally looking for a good own voices book I definitely recommend.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Five Stars In My Opinion Absolutely.
Graphic: Acephobia/Arophobia
Moderate: Toxic friendship, Alcohol, and Toxic relationship
Lots of internalized Aromantic and Acephobia so be prepared there's especially a lot from other characters.bimess_'s review
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
I did want to know more of the sidecharacters. Especially Pip since I'm a latine person myself. I don't think it was even mentioned which country her family is from either which angers me.
At the end of the day, I enjoyed the book because I had a similar inner war with myself. In terms of being aro and bi simultaneously.
It's true Oseman could've done more. My hope is for this book to be saved and given a sequel that focused on Pip and Sunil. Since they're the ones who had the potential to have powerful stories. But again, Oseman is white. So I'm weary of this as well. Perhaps an adaptation of their stories would be better.
Minor: Gaslighting, Acephobia/Arophobia, Alcohol, Emotional abuse, and Toxic friendship
gabriel_dingle's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Alcohol and Acephobia/Arophobia
Moderate: Cursing, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, and Sexual content
Minor: Homophobia
The scenes where characters are (verbally) fighting are rather realistic and brutal, and might be upsetting to some people.the_true_monroe's review
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Acephobia/Arophobia, Emotional abuse, Toxic friendship, Gaslighting, Bullying, Toxic relationship, and Alcoholism
Moderate: Panic attacks/disorders
theespressoedition's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.0
There's a lot of discourse surrounding adults reading YA and then getting frustrated when they can't relate to the characters. I'm not going to do that right now. I can't objectively be upset with a YA for having characters that I no longer relate to (or really, never related to because I was never someone who went to uni or struggled with my sexuality). However, it did feel like it was written for a very, very niched-down audience, and I was not the target.
None of these characters were particularly likable to me (aside from Sunil, who is a gem). I realize that there was a lot of growth that needed to happen throughout the story, but even by the end, I felt myself getting more frustrated with them than impressed by their development.
There were some really tender moments in this book that made my heart soar, and that's why I gave this a higher rating than I originally intended. However, for the most part, I felt like this was a very time-consuming story that wasn't intended for me and that's perfectly alright. I know that the target audience will benefit quite a lot from a book like this!
Graphic: Acephobia/Arophobia and Toxic friendship
Moderate: Alcohol, Alcoholism, Bullying, and Cursing
Minor: Sexual content
ashleycmms's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
Moderate: Acephobia/Arophobia, Toxic relationship, Toxic friendship, Alcohol, Lesbophobia, and Bullying
Minor: Vomit and Infidelity
lolajh's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.0
“Jess – she’s aromantic, meaning she doesn’t feel romantic attraction for anyone.”
“It turned out that lots of asexual people still wanted to have sex for all sorts of different reasons, but some felt totally neutral about it, and others – what I’d originally thought – literally despised it. Some asexual people still masturbated; others didn’t have libidos at all.
It also turned out that lots of aromantic people still wanted to be in romantic relationships, despite not feeling those feels. Others didn’t ever want a romantic partner.
And people identified as all sorts of combinations of romantic and sexual – there were gay asexuals, like Sunil, or bisexual aromantics, like Jess, or straight asexuals, pansexual aromantics, and loads more. Some asexual and aromantic people didn’t even like splitting up their attraction into two labels, and some just used the word ‘queer’ to summarise everything. There were words I had to google like ‘demisexual’ and ‘greyromantic’, but even after googling I wasn’t sure exactly what they meant.
The aromantic and asexual spectrums weren’t just straight lines. They were radar charts with at least a dozen different axes.”
“Aromantic is when you don’t feel romantic attraction and asexual is when you don’t feel sexual attraction.”
Georgia is also clearly sex-repulsed, however that term is never once used to describe her, and instead just makes her push all her intense sex-repulsive thoughts onto other people who have and enjoy sex. She basically just shames absolutely every single mention of sex made by anyone around her.
“People are really out there just … thinking about having sex all the time and they can’t even help it?’ I spluttered. ‘People have dreams about it because they want it that much? How the – I’m losing it. I thought all the movies were exaggerating, but you’re all really out there just craving genitals and embarrassment. This has to be some kind of huge joke.”
She even makes a comment about how talking about sex around her is “erasing her identity”. 😬 I do not care that this was a joke, that just makes the asexual community look so horrible.
“Dude,’ I said. ‘I’m the one who can’t fall in love. I think you just don’t want to.’
She made a ‘harrumph’ noise.
‘Well?’ I asked. ‘Are you aromantic?’
‘No,’ she grumbled.”
“There. So stop erasing my identity and tell Pip you like her.”
Here’s Georgia talking to her LESBIAN friend about “choosing” her sexuality: 🤗
‘Yeah. I think I’d choose to be gay if I could.’
Pip didn’t say anything for a moment, and I wondered if I’d said something weird or offensive. It was the truth, though. I would have chosen to be gay if I could.
I knew liking girls could be hard when you’re also a girl. It usually was, at least for a while. But it was beautiful too. So fucking beautiful.”
Speaking of her lesbian friend, let’s talk about her. Pip. A butch Latina lesbian, who is extremely stereotyped as aggressive and mean, which is a very harmful portrayal of her lesbianism and her Latina identity, and is less forgiveable when the author is white and also not a lesbian. Pip is also portrayed like she is trying to “convince” Georgia she’s a lesbian because she clearly doesn’t like guys (Pip didn’t know she didn’t like girls either), and basically doing the whole “pushing sexuality onto people” thing that does not at all happen in real life, but is something the lesbian community is constantly demonised for, so pushing all these very harmful traits onto the one lesbian character is definitely not good!
Then there’s Rooney, a bi/pan stereotype, who sleeps around and has casual sex often, which would be fine if it weren’t for it being described that she does this due to her trauma in a previous relationship, and the constant shaming by Georgia, once more.
And Sunil. They are a nonbinary character immediately introduced as using he/they pronouns, yet, throughout the entire book, they/them is never ONCE used for him, not even by his best friend, and their identity is clearly not respected by Georgia either, because she only uses he/him for them as well. That’s fucking weird!
Finally, I don’t think Georgia should have been forgiven in the end. She fucking USED her best friend who was in love with her as an experiment for her sexuality and then kissed her other best friend’s crush 👍 Also why are all Alice’s aroace characters autistic-coded and lowkey emotionless beings?
Graphic: Acephobia/Arophobia, Alcohol, Toxic friendship, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Sexual content
pinkupengu's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.5
Graphic: Acephobia/Arophobia, Alcohol, and Biphobia
Moderate: Bullying
Minor: Vomit, Toxic friendship, and Sexual content
jazminnnnnnn's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Minor: Fire/Fire injury, Injury/Injury detail, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, Acephobia/Arophobia, and Homophobia
matheo's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
Graphic: Abandonment, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Alcoholism, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, Acephobia/Arophobia, Alcohol, Emotional abuse, and Homophobia