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The Stranger Beside Me

Ann Rule

4.01 AVERAGE

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Great book, very insightful and haunting

I loved this book, I'm a fan of true crime and it's a classic. Wasn't too scared while reading it, but I noticed that I was having nightmares the nights I was reading :( Gives insight on how there will always be monsters living among us and some of them can remain hiding in plain sight, even around those who are trained in law enforcement. Awesome book!
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Ted Bundy was a bad dude. Understatement of the century.

An all-encompassing guide to Ted Bundy. Very informative, but got a little dry and tedious at points. Her personal experiences with Bundy were so fascinating, though!
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This book was phenomenal. I felt every emotion that Ann had through each page of the book. It was so interesting to read about the infamous Bundy through the eyes of someone who knew him as a friend. Not only does Ann give a personal angle to this story, she also dives into a detailed description of each victim, case, event, detective, etc. that occurred in relation to Bundy. I can’t imagine any book about him coming close to this one. With letters from Bundy, photographs, etc., this book absolutely blew me away. Highly recommend!
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An 18 hour audiobook…. All of it felt horrifically long and dry. But also, I can’t get behind her sending him money and stamps all the time even after she acknowledges he did in fact kill all those women. She literally throws up in horror, but still writes to him and sends him stamps… come on girl… he murdered so many women and children. The author acts like she did it out of hope he still had humanity in him, but it’s kind of obvious it was actually to be able to add updates onto an already very long book. If it had stopped where it had originally did and didn’t have two hours added on for no reason I might have rated it higher. Idk. This was hard and a little cringy at times to get through. Parts were interesting, but nothing was linear either and it jumped back and forth so much. 

it may be because i’m reading this book decades after it was written but the sympathetic often disbelieving tone of it kind of drove me nuts.

the book appeal is obviously to learn more about ted bundy from someone who intimately experienced him in their lives (platonically) to the point that she cannot fully admit to herself that he is a killer despite her male cop friends all pointing her to the evidence.

but it is hard to watch her continue to send him money for years during his incarceration only to vomit when finally seeing photos of the victims at his florida trial. and while she says she met with the victims’ families and she does write little detailed blurbs of each girl to humanize them, she spends so much time talking about how she can’t believe ted could be this monster and in one of the addendums of later editions is obsessed with trying to pathologize ted, ending with that he didn’t emotionally develop past a child and so he cannot understand he is not entitled to what he wants and doesn’t understand the world saying no, which i feel like is a bit too forgiving for a man who may have started killing women in his teens (people are unsure if he kidnapped and killed his young neighbor long before meeting the woman who broke his heart in college and supposedly set him on his murder type bender). nor does it feel right to make assumptions that he went to florida in a subconscious attempt to stop himself, knowing they had a death penalty.

Listened to this on audio which was narrated by the author. Based on the author’s relationship to Bundy I think I was expecting to learn more than the basic facts surrounding his life and crimes. Still, it was an interesting listen and perspective on him.