Reviews tagging 'Infidelity'

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk

34 reviews

saskia_ej's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Self harm, Addiction, Alcohol, Medical content, Grief, Incest, Sexual assault, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Pandemic/Epidemic, Abandonment, Domestic abuse, Car accident, Child abuse, Death, Sexual harassment, Pedophilia, Infidelity, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Rape, Death of parent, Alcoholism, Blood, Drug abuse, Fire/Fire injury, Gaslighting, Injury/Injury detail, Murder, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Suicide attempt, and Violence

julesadventurezone's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative inspiring slow-paced

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual violence, Child abuse, Pedophilia, Car accident, Incest, and Violence

Moderate: Bullying, Alcohol, Child death, Rape, Medical trauma, Xenophobia, Toxic relationship, Self harm, Pedophilia, Medical content, Alcoholism, Drug use, Addiction, Forced institutionalization, War, Death of parent, Ableism, Domestic abuse, Abandonment, Eating disorder, Injury/Injury detail, Car accident, Mental illness, Grief, Emotional abuse, Drug abuse, Death, and Chronic illness

Minor: Vomit, Suicide attempt, Infidelity, Islamophobia, Racial slurs, Suicidal thoughts, Religious bigotry, and Suicide

samcsmith's review against another edition

dark hopeful informative reflective sad slow-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Addiction, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Suicide attempt, Abandonment, Infidelity, Injury/Injury detail, Violence, War, Domestic abuse, Mental illness, Grief, Incest, Pedophilia, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Alcohol, Forced institutionalization, Gun violence, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, and Suicidal thoughts

Minor: Cursing, Chronic illness, and Confinement

audreyunofficial's review against another edition

emotional reflective tense medium-paced

3.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual assault

Moderate: Violence, Self harm, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Medical trauma, Mental illness, Emotional abuse, Suicide, Injury/Injury detail, Infidelity, Sexual violence, Rape, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual content, Pedophilia, Suicidal thoughts, Sexual harassment, Sexual assault, and Grief

kellieturnerjones's review against another edition

challenging dark medium-paced

5.0

Enlightened insight to the effects of trauma. Nice exploration of techniques to deal with trauma.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Violence, Self harm, Racial slurs, Mental illness, Abandonment, Medical trauma, Medical content, Panic attacks/disorders, Child abuse, War, Toxic relationship, Drug abuse, Domestic abuse, Gun violence, Grief, Eating disorder, Car accident, Rape, Sexual violence, Addiction, Sexual assault, Bullying, Alcoholism, Suicide, Physical abuse, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Infidelity, and Pedophilia

redefiningrachel's review against another edition

challenging informative reflective slow-paced

3.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicide, War, Drug abuse, Domestic abuse, Terminal illness, Suicidal thoughts, Pedophilia, Gun violence, Torture, Suicide attempt, Mental illness, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Physical abuse, Abandonment, Violence, Rape, Classism, Alcohol, Addiction, Eating disorder, Alcoholism, Adult/minor relationship, Medical trauma, Self harm, Infidelity, Bullying, Body shaming, Blood, Emotional abuse, Drug use, Death of parent, Animal death, Gore, Car accident, Cancer, Sexual harassment, Forced institutionalization, Sexual content, Confinement, Child abuse, Grief, Death, Chronic illness, Child death, Medical content, Panic attacks/disorders, Murder, and Injury/Injury detail

Moderate: Trafficking, Police brutality, and Toxic relationship

Minor: Schizophrenia/Psychosis

akvolcano's review against another edition

adventurous challenging dark emotional hopeful informative reflective sad tense fast-paced

4.75

Loved reading this book! Trauma is always spoken in the context of war veterans, but the intricacies are never fully connected. This book well develops the connection. It actually goes further by not separating citizen trauma from war trauma, but speaks of them on the same level. When I began this reading I was skeptical if there would be any new concepts or material. I am happy to say that there was in fact exploration in areas that have not been fed into mainstream media! As a survivor myself, I enjoy that throughout the book there is consistently stories of people being shared. I would like to read a book like this one that takes its central concepts and goes a bit further. Overall, excellent well researched and articulated book!

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Body horror, Cancer, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Confinement, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Gun violence, Incest, Mass/school shootings, Lesbophobia, Medical trauma, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Sexual harassment, Abandonment, Addiction, Alcohol, Body shaming, Car accident, Cursing, Death, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Dysphoria, Fatphobia, Fire/Fire injury, Forced institutionalization, Grief, Gore, Infidelity, Medical content, Mental illness, Misogyny, Murder, Pedophilia, Police brutality, Racism, Pregnancy, Rape, Self harm, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Stalking, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Terminal illness, Torture, Toxic relationship, Trafficking, War, and Violence

yaelm's review against another edition

challenging dark informative reflective sad tense

3.0

מבינה מה הכותב אומר ובסה״כ מדובר בספר עשיר במידע וקולח, אבל השפה בה הוא משתמש מאוד בעייתית (אנשים נורמליים לעומת אנשים עם פוסט טראומה, למשל) ולפעמים כואבת.

יש לו גם כל מיני הבחנות מכאיבות מאוד לגבי הורות עם פוסט טראומה. אני לא הורה בעצמי אבל זה כאב לי בכל הגוף. היו עוד כל מיני כאלו לאורך הספר.

מעבר לזה, מבוסס (בחלקו) על מדע שכבר אינו עדכני ולדעתי גם בתקופת הכתיבה של הספר לא היה מדויק (הצד הימני של המוח הוא היצירתי והשמאלי הוא השכלתני וכו׳).

מלאאא בטריגרים כמובן, כל דבר שיכול לגרום לפוסט טראומה. כמה מהמקרים שהוא מציג כטראומטיים מאוד מקוממים (אדם שביצע פשעים נוראיים כלפי נשים וילדים וחזר מהמלחמה עם טראומה, למשל. אין לי ספק שהוא באמת חזר בטראומה, אבל זה עבר בלי ביקורת בכלל. ברור לי שכפסיכיאטר התפקיד שלו הוא לא להפעיל שיפוט מוסרי, ועדיין אפשר היה לכתוב איזו מילה וחצי כמו שהוא עשה במקרים אחרים ופחות שחורים מוסרית)

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Confinement, Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Bullying, Car accident, Child abuse, Death of parent, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Genocide, Fire/Fire injury, Alcoholism, Fatphobia, Domestic abuse, Infidelity, Medical trauma, Antisemitism, Chronic illness, Emotional abuse, Ableism, Addiction, Grief, and Drug use

beklovesbooks's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative inspiring reflective sad tense slow-paced

5.0

An excellent textbook on trauma and the science-backed approaches to healing from it. Also an interesting journey through the author’s professional experiences that led to his outstanding knowledge on the subject. 

Read the trigger warnings and take them seriously. He often gives details about horrific abuse and sensitive information about patients, later illustrating their growth, but I would imagine it would be too much for many people with backgrounds touched by abuse, neglect, suicide etc.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Drug use, Infidelity, Medical content, Medical trauma, Dementia, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Hate crime, Incest, Rape, War, Drug abuse, Mass/school shootings, Panic attacks/disorders, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Grief, Gun violence, and Suicidal thoughts

Moderate: Blood, Mass/school shootings, Pedophilia, Pregnancy, Religious bigotry, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Suicide attempt, Suicide, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, Violence, Confinement, Dysphoria, Torture, War, Biphobia, and Eating disorder

susannadkm's review against another edition

informative sad medium-paced

3.5

“Social support is not the same as merely being in the presence of others. The critical issue is reciprocity: being truly heard and seen by the people around us, feeling that we are held in someone else’s mind and heart. For our physiology to calm down, heal, and grow we need a visceral feeling of safety. No doctor can write a prescription for friendship and love…” (Chapter 5) 

3.5 stars. This is an absorbing book for anyone curious about trauma therapy and how it’s evolved in recent decades. I like how it’s full of stories, and van der Kolk isn’t afraid to admit when he realized he was wrong (like about eye movement desensitization and reintegration).

I’m not sure it’s the best book to read for those looking for the best treatment methods (so many of the stories are anecdotal) or coming to grips with sexual trauma (so many stories are graphic), though.

I listened to the audiobook.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Car accident, Emotional abuse, Pedophilia, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Rape, Self harm, Torture, War, Medical trauma, Physical abuse, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, and Incest

Moderate: Fire/Fire injury, Eating disorder, and Panic attacks/disorders

Minor: Infidelity, Mental illness, Suicidal thoughts, and Murder