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3.99 AVERAGE
3.99 AVERAGE
Gary only covered the male's perspective ignoring completely the fact that a straight relationship requires a woman. It might work for gay couples though
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate: 6.5/10
By: Gary Chapman
This book is significantly less scientific and significantly more religious than I had anticipated, and yet it still strikes me as important enough and proven enough to be a concept that we should at least be familiar with and sit within, even if the book is clearly outdated in terms of gender roles, and a bit oversimplified to justify having an entire book about the subject.
The concept of the love languages is not something new to me, and not even necessarily something that I think needs an entire book’s explanation on for someone to properly grasp it. Reading the book did emphasize just how important it was to understand your partner’s love language.
That’s really the most important takeaway from this book. The idea that the way that you instinctively love your partner, the way you want to be loved and comes natural to you to give, may not necessarily be the method your partner wants to be loved. Your words of affirmation may mean nothing to them, even when they mean the world to you. And if you’ve through accident or choice entirely neglected your partner’s love language, then it very well might spell an end to the love entirely.
Communicate. Do the hard work of looking into yourself and into your partner and asking what you both really need, and then make the daily choice to do it. Love, long term love, rather than the feeling of falling in love, is a difficult process that takes conscious effort.
This book is written just a little bit dated in general, but it is thirty years old. I’m glad I read it, and hopefully I’ll be able to implement its ideals in every important relationship in my life. If you have someone you care about and want to know some concepts with which to further a conversation with them about how you can express that care, this book might have something good for you in it.
By: Gary Chapman
This book is significantly less scientific and significantly more religious than I had anticipated, and yet it still strikes me as important enough and proven enough to be a concept that we should at least be familiar with and sit within, even if the book is clearly outdated in terms of gender roles, and a bit oversimplified to justify having an entire book about the subject.
The concept of the love languages is not something new to me, and not even necessarily something that I think needs an entire book’s explanation on for someone to properly grasp it. Reading the book did emphasize just how important it was to understand your partner’s love language.
That’s really the most important takeaway from this book. The idea that the way that you instinctively love your partner, the way you want to be loved and comes natural to you to give, may not necessarily be the method your partner wants to be loved. Your words of affirmation may mean nothing to them, even when they mean the world to you. And if you’ve through accident or choice entirely neglected your partner’s love language, then it very well might spell an end to the love entirely.
Communicate. Do the hard work of looking into yourself and into your partner and asking what you both really need, and then make the daily choice to do it. Love, long term love, rather than the feeling of falling in love, is a difficult process that takes conscious effort.
This book is written just a little bit dated in general, but it is thirty years old. I’m glad I read it, and hopefully I’ll be able to implement its ideals in every important relationship in my life. If you have someone you care about and want to know some concepts with which to further a conversation with them about how you can express that care, this book might have something good for you in it.
informative
medium-paced
It was a good read, it took me a while to really get into this book. Like years... But I finally sat down and decided to read it cover to cover and I learnt quite a bit about myself and how to love others in their way not my way.
Can't wait to see how I implement this new knowledge
Can't wait to see how I implement this new knowledge
medium-paced
its not bad to know this book, but the reality is just so much more complex than the artificial breakdown of people into five arbitrary "language" drawers. It does describes quite good that people are masters of mis-communicating, but then it pretends to know the answer on how to solve the communication problems, and the solutions are flawed to say the least.
I've done the quiz a few times in the past, but sadly delayed the actual radio for whatever reason... A great read (or listen since I did the audiobook). Informative. Inspirational. Esp enjoyed the outlook of applying this less thought of ways- ie how the different love languages relate to your kids. It's pretty easy to see how accurate application would lead optimal results across the board.
Is it really just that simple?
Quick listen at 1.2 speed, and skipping over the biblical versus.
Quick listen at 1.2 speed, and skipping over the biblical versus.
I was first introduced to this book my senior year of high school. A teacher of mine knew about my limited dating history and struggles with a long distance relationship recommended this as a way to learn about myself as I closed my chapter on high school and was beginning my next chapter in adulthood. I am so thankful I read this at such an early age because it did help prepare me for what was to come as well as help me clarify what I was looking for in a partner.
As time passed and relationships came and went, I used this book's philosophy as a guide to reflect on not only romantic but platonic relationships as well. When I met my now fiance, I asked him early on in the relationship what his love language was (a standard question on my part). He took the quiz and having that information about each other helped us create such a great foundation from the get-go.
After our engagement, a dear friend sent each of us a copy of this book as an engagement gift. I actually hadn't read this book since twelfth grade, and it was such a treat to read this lens now as an engagement woman more sure of herself than ever, compared to my younger self.
I can't recommend this book enough and wholeheartedly believe this book is helpful in every context, not just romantic ones.
As time passed and relationships came and went, I used this book's philosophy as a guide to reflect on not only romantic but platonic relationships as well. When I met my now fiance, I asked him early on in the relationship what his love language was (a standard question on my part). He took the quiz and having that information about each other helped us create such a great foundation from the get-go.
After our engagement, a dear friend sent each of us a copy of this book as an engagement gift. I actually hadn't read this book since twelfth grade, and it was such a treat to read this lens now as an engagement woman more sure of herself than ever, compared to my younger self.
I can't recommend this book enough and wholeheartedly believe this book is helpful in every context, not just romantic ones.