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I agree with the actual love languages but could completely do without the religious aspects of the book. I don't agree with the simplicity of it all or the lack of discussion regarding attachment. I can see how it would be helpful for some clients.
It was very cool to be able to determine the love language of myself (ACTS OF SERVICE) and the love language of my husband (WORDS OF AFFIRMATION). The book helps you figure out what you give, and what you wish to receive. It definitely opens up a good conversation to strengthen a couple.
Listened to the audio book after having taken an online love languages quiz a couple of years ago. My husband and I are aware of our languages and have tried to dabble with applying the use of them. When we are expressing love to each other in the way we need it is definitely helpful for our marriage. I hoped reading the book would help me improve my understanding of the languages and things I can do to further strengthen my marriage.
I chose this shortened version because I am not religious and know Chapman and the book are deeply rooted in religion. I figured the shorter version would be more tolerable for me because of the religious difference. Still the book came across a bit alienating to someone who is not religious and may not speak well across multiple religions.
Chapmans gender stereotypes and beliefs are strongly woven from start to finish and in some cases made it difficult to listen. As a woman whose primary love language is physical touch I must be a damn unicorn in his eyes. Chapman’s talk about a physiological need for men to have sex because of semen production verses women who don’t have semen and apparently therefore only want sex for an emotional connection completely disregards simple biological facts like hormones and mens bodies reabsorbing semen (men who have had vasectomies still produce semen and their testicles aren’t exploding because the semen can’t escape).
Still after getting through it some of the ideas may be able to be applied. My husbands love language is Words of Affirmation which I’m not comfortable with and looking for words of affirmation others use is something I am going to try to do.
As someone who’s love language is physical touch I find it difficult to express the need for my “love tank” to be filled because letting my husband knows feels like initiating which in turn prevents me from feeling like my “tank” is being filled. The book was not helpful for me with finding a solution to this, maybe I need to read the version for men.
There are suggestions for the other love languages someone may find helpful but I can’t say with certainty. Acts of service sounds to me like wanting a maid or mother/father and not a spouse. I hate receiving gifts (got a zero for gifts on the quiz). Quality time was my 2nd highest on the quiz and I believe physical touch and quality time go hand-in-hand, as in you can’t have touch without someones time.
If you’re looking for more information about the love languages and can overlook the overt sexism and religion doesn’t bother you when being applied in a way that tells you to put aside your own boundaries to love another than this book might be for you.
I chose this shortened version because I am not religious and know Chapman and the book are deeply rooted in religion. I figured the shorter version would be more tolerable for me because of the religious difference. Still the book came across a bit alienating to someone who is not religious and may not speak well across multiple religions.
Chapmans gender stereotypes and beliefs are strongly woven from start to finish and in some cases made it difficult to listen. As a woman whose primary love language is physical touch I must be a damn unicorn in his eyes. Chapman’s talk about a physiological need for men to have sex because of semen production verses women who don’t have semen and apparently therefore only want sex for an emotional connection completely disregards simple biological facts like hormones and mens bodies reabsorbing semen (men who have had vasectomies still produce semen and their testicles aren’t exploding because the semen can’t escape).
Still after getting through it some of the ideas may be able to be applied. My husbands love language is Words of Affirmation which I’m not comfortable with and looking for words of affirmation others use is something I am going to try to do.
As someone who’s love language is physical touch I find it difficult to express the need for my “love tank” to be filled because letting my husband knows feels like initiating which in turn prevents me from feeling like my “tank” is being filled. The book was not helpful for me with finding a solution to this, maybe I need to read the version for men.
There are suggestions for the other love languages someone may find helpful but I can’t say with certainty. Acts of service sounds to me like wanting a maid or mother/father and not a spouse. I hate receiving gifts (got a zero for gifts on the quiz). Quality time was my 2nd highest on the quiz and I believe physical touch and quality time go hand-in-hand, as in you can’t have touch without someones time.
If you’re looking for more information about the love languages and can overlook the overt sexism and religion doesn’t bother you when being applied in a way that tells you to put aside your own boundaries to love another than this book might be for you.
Everyone should read this it helps with any kind of meaningful relationship.
The best advice is the obvious one, the easy steps to improve a relationship based on love is to do so more effectively and with intent. Staying married is not easy because love evolves in ways TV and movies don't venture to showcase.
This is a good read if you have a need to explore optimizing your relationships. if not, it won't add much to your arsenal.
This is a good read if you have a need to explore optimizing your relationships. if not, it won't add much to your arsenal.
informative
medium-paced
Hard to look past the Jesus-Complex the author has, but otherwise has some valid points and discussions and the quiz is helpful.
informative
reflective
medium-paced
reflective
fast-paced
A great book of counseling. It was helpful with ideas on how to encourage different types of love.