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Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

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jcinf's review against another edition

inspiring reflective slow-paced

4.5

For nonfiction, I really enjoyed this. I’m not a nonfiction girly, so it did take me a little while to get through.

But the narrator (I believe the author narrated) was really engaging. She had a great tone. Fun when it was time to be fun and serious when necessary, too.

SA (s*exual ass*ult) trigger warning. But those parts were super well written. I appreciated how she didn’t linger on those parts too long. It felt just enough to inform without being triggering.

My main complaint is that it felt redundant at times. Tho I can understand that she may have been redundant bc the whole point of the book is to shift narratives surrounding AFAB/women/femme people’s sex lives. And it’s hard to shift narratives rooted is misogyny with just a few sentences.

Main topics I loved:
• dropping the shame around sex
• normalizing a diversity labias
• understanding your style of desire — spontaneous or responsive
• changing your expectations of yourself during sex

Highly recommend to anyone like me, who gets in their head during sex sometimes.

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yourbookishbff's review against another edition

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hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

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miss_vonnegut's review against another edition

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informative medium-paced

5.0

This book is honestly life-changing, and not just in relation to sex. While it's geared towards cis women, a lot of the content applies across all genders and I would highly recommend it to anyone who's interested in sex. We're taught so much about human sexuality that's incorrect, and this book works to rectify that. There's a lot of discussion about the biology, psychology, and sociology of sex--a lot of which I had no idea about before reading this. I honestly think the world would be a better place if this was required reading. Please, please please go read it.

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readingescapes's review against another edition

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emotional informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

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klimatyczny_bluszcz's review against another edition

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funny informative inspiring relaxing slow-paced

4.25

I really liked how the author made all of the knowledge funny, easy to read and complete. The style of writing and the amusing metaphors made it easy to focus on the text and understand the point made. Helpful in discovering and depthening my understanding of my own sexuality. However I felt quite concerned while reading about the author's radical acceptance for almost everything around sex and the constantly reapeted sentence: 'You are normal, you are healthy'. I am not quite sure that completely everything consensual and without unwanted pain, as Emily suggested, is healthy in sex. I can see, why it appeared so many time in the book, as I observe quite a lot of fear and stigma around women's sexuality, but I do not agree that it is so easy to tell everyone they are normal. Therefore, I was not completly satisfied with the read, however I found it really useful and entertaining at once

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mothstrand's review against another edition

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challenging funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.5

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danajoy's review against another edition

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informative reflective

3.0

I do believe this book could be life changing for the right person. I just struggle a little to guage who that is.
The writing style is very chatty and conversational. It feels a little condescending that she is congratulating the reader for getting through "the hard part".
I really enjoyed the garden metaphor and did find some of the concepts quite compelling.
I should note that I did some sociology and gender units when I was in university and do consume a decent amount of sexual education and relationships content on YouTube. I didn't feel like I learned much.
In many ways it is written for someone who needs to be guided through gently and told at every turn that they're normal. Those with little sexual education and struggles with confidence this might suit you better but unfortunately this science book felt insufficiently science-y for me.

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