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The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Meg Jay
3.93 AVERAGE
2.75k reviews for:
The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Meg Jay
3.93 AVERAGE
informative
reflective
slow-paced
drew told me to read this so i did!
TLDR: everything is much smaller than it seems and you should just start doing things in order to do bigger things / in order to help future you. being paralyzed means you’re not doing small things and it will make it harder to get to the bigger things.
this is fine. this is true.
pivoting directions in your career or taking risks is hard when you do not have as much money. like someone might NEED that minimum wage job to help them to survive which is why they’re underworking (i forgot the term she used) vs. looking for another job. and doing that job, plus whatever else they are doing in their life, could take up too much time for them to do things like look for another job or go to her career counselling thing.
times have changed,,, jobs like that animation one she mentioned would require experience in this day and age. you couldn’t just walk into that with no experience. almost everything now requires some sort of experience besides service jobs. it would be much harder to land that assistant job now than it was back then……….
not everyone’s life goal is marriage and children.
i think that the people who need to read this book are older teenagers because it’s kind of pointless and i feel like you would be more likely to feel antagonized once you are already in your 20s. but the book isn’t written to be interesting to the average teenager or i would even argue… for the average person in their 20s. i read a lot of old books and a lot of books that are written for people who are not me, and i’m able to push through books that i don’t really like so i was able to finish. but i can’t imagine a lot of people our age wanting to read the book or being able to get through the whole thing.
idk. most of it makes sense. i may not be want to / be able to apply what she says, but i understand it. will i apply any of it? maybe. maybe not.
TLDR: everything is much smaller than it seems and you should just start doing things in order to do bigger things / in order to help future you. being paralyzed means you’re not doing small things and it will make it harder to get to the bigger things.
this is fine. this is true.
pivoting directions in your career or taking risks is hard when you do not have as much money. like someone might NEED that minimum wage job to help them to survive which is why they’re underworking (i forgot the term she used) vs. looking for another job. and doing that job, plus whatever else they are doing in their life, could take up too much time for them to do things like look for another job or go to her career counselling thing.
times have changed,,, jobs like that animation one she mentioned would require experience in this day and age. you couldn’t just walk into that with no experience. almost everything now requires some sort of experience besides service jobs. it would be much harder to land that assistant job now than it was back then……….
not everyone’s life goal is marriage and children.
i think that the people who need to read this book are older teenagers because it’s kind of pointless and i feel like you would be more likely to feel antagonized once you are already in your 20s. but the book isn’t written to be interesting to the average teenager or i would even argue… for the average person in their 20s. i read a lot of old books and a lot of books that are written for people who are not me, and i’m able to push through books that i don’t really like so i was able to finish. but i can’t imagine a lot of people our age wanting to read the book or being able to get through the whole thing.
idk. most of it makes sense. i may not be want to / be able to apply what she says, but i understand it. will i apply any of it? maybe. maybe not.
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
Not everything in this book was relevant to me where I am in life right now, but I appreciated her perspective and can definitely see it relevant to people in my life and twenty-something’s in general. The introduction in particular made me feel seen — my generation is possibly the most anxious twentysomethings have ever been, and we want to be participants in our own lives, involved in the conversations about us. The ideas of identity capital, weak ties and choosing our family spoke to me most. I liked that it made me think about being international with my choices and working towards what I want for my future.
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informative
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I honestly thought I would hate this book. But it came recommended to me by a coworker who said "it changed his life" (pretty hefty platitude) and I thought I'd give it a fair shake before tossing it aside. I'm really glad I did. By the second chapter, I knew this wasn't just more self-help/"quarter-life crisis" drivel. Even though it's directed towards twentysomethings, I think it's relevant to those of us in our thirties who might still be trying to figure it out.
Thirties are not the new twenties.
There are no guarantees.
You are deciding your life right now.
It's a short and easy read. It might not make you feel good about some of the choices you've made (or didn't make) but it will educate you to make the effort to grab your life by the horns because if you don't, who will?
Thirties are not the new twenties.
There are no guarantees.
You are deciding your life right now.
It's a short and easy read. It might not make you feel good about some of the choices you've made (or didn't make) but it will educate you to make the effort to grab your life by the horns because if you don't, who will?
This is one of my favorite books I've read. It has so much wisdom and has really made me consider that this decade of life will define the rest of my years. I am pumped to take the knowledge from this book and apply it to my life!