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birdbeech's review against another edition
5.0
This goes in my stack of "life changing books". This book helps with grieving and ending conversations with those you can no longer physically speak to. Helps with people who have suffered trauma of all forms and abuse. I know I will read it again.
emilyhwinn's review
5.0
I will likely reread this many times over my life, as it is both a practical and compassionate roadmap through forgiveness. At this stage in my life, I realized that I actually didn’t know HOW to forgive something that was truly painful, so that I was able to let go and continue seeing the perpetrator as a human being and not “someone who wronged/hurt me.” There are so many inspiring and heartbreaking stories to accompany the concepts in this book, as well as meditations, journal prompts and activities. This book has made me a better human. Highly recommend.
cari1268's review
5.0
After feeling stuck in my forgiveness journey, I turned to a book. The Book of Forgiving was just what I needed. I heard that forgiveness is a choice and I was frustrated by that. I was choosing forgiveness and yet I still felt devastated and furious.
I learned from The Book of Forgiving that while forgiveness is a choice, it's more than that. It's a process. It's a process just like grief is. It's a choice to work towards forgiveness. Sometimes the process is quick but sometimes it's not. And that's okay.
I learned so much and got in a much better place from reading this book and participating in the exercises and meditations. I didn't do all of them (the outdoor ones didn't easily fit into my schedule) but I did do most of them.
My favorite exercise was the first one. I was supposed to carry a small stone for eight hours. I DREADED this exercise and didn't want to do it. I ended up just making myself hold that stone for two hours. Because this exercise was so unpleasant for me, the lesson hit hard. I didn't want to carry around the burden of hate. It was eye-opening to see how the stone sometimes did entertain me and why I might struggle to put it down. Ultimately, I knew that I didn't want to live my life holding onto a stone.
I can't say I've completed my forgiveness journey but I have grown more patient with the process. I've let go of so much of my anger and resentment. The Book of Forgiving taught me that forgiveness is a skill, one that I can cultivate. I want to and I will.
*Some things I want to remember*
The four fold path: 1-Tell the story 2-Name the hurt 3-Grant forgiveness 4-Renew or release the relationship.
"There is nothing that cannot be forgiven. There is no one undeserving of forgiveness."
I learned from The Book of Forgiving that while forgiveness is a choice, it's more than that. It's a process. It's a process just like grief is. It's a choice to work towards forgiveness. Sometimes the process is quick but sometimes it's not. And that's okay.
I learned so much and got in a much better place from reading this book and participating in the exercises and meditations. I didn't do all of them (the outdoor ones didn't easily fit into my schedule) but I did do most of them.
My favorite exercise was the first one. I was supposed to carry a small stone for eight hours. I DREADED this exercise and didn't want to do it. I ended up just making myself hold that stone for two hours. Because this exercise was so unpleasant for me, the lesson hit hard. I didn't want to carry around the burden of hate. It was eye-opening to see how the stone sometimes did entertain me and why I might struggle to put it down. Ultimately, I knew that I didn't want to live my life holding onto a stone.
I can't say I've completed my forgiveness journey but I have grown more patient with the process. I've let go of so much of my anger and resentment. The Book of Forgiving taught me that forgiveness is a skill, one that I can cultivate. I want to and I will.
*Some things I want to remember*
The four fold path: 1-Tell the story 2-Name the hurt 3-Grant forgiveness 4-Renew or release the relationship.
"There is nothing that cannot be forgiven. There is no one undeserving of forgiveness."
addie_a's review
5.0
Unique yet simple approach to the process of forgiveness. Too often we think forgiveness is merely a few words strung together and then we can move on. "I forgive you." But it is so much more and requires so much more, if we want to attain true freedom.
Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho Tutu are the perfect pair to share how the ritual involved in forgiveness is healing. Whether it's forgiving someone who cuts you off on the street, or a government who has oppressed and abused your people for decades ... the principles are the same.
Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho Tutu are the perfect pair to share how the ritual involved in forgiveness is healing. Whether it's forgiving someone who cuts you off on the street, or a government who has oppressed and abused your people for decades ... the principles are the same.
megatsunami's review
4.0
Beautiful book with lovely, deep experiential exercises for a person (or group) to explore as they follow the path outlined in this book. As a restorative justice practitioner, I wished for more on making amends/ repairing harm as a system of justice. But that would be a different book.