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3.63 AVERAGE
3.63 AVERAGE
Overall this book has very little to do with self-care and significantly less to do with emotionally immature parents. The advice given was choppy, inconsistent, and unsourced, going as far as to cite a TV show about dog training in a section about establishing boundaries; comparing people to dogs aside, the show cited was Cesar Milan’s show which features his training style that is based entirely on a study that has been proven inaccurate to the lifestyle of wolves (which was what the study was done on), let alone dogs or people.
The “bite-sized sections” were wildly organized and only loosely related to what the title implies the book is about. It was hard to follow as the book is chock full of bizarre metaphors and comparisons (girls are horses but they should be mules, what??), unfounded claims as to the abilities or desires of “introverted” or “extroverted” people, and suggestions to “practice” establishing boundaries on people whose conversational styles don’t match your own.
There’s an entire section on parenting, which would be great if the book were titled “parenting for people who have emotionally immature parents,” if it actually focused on having had EI parents in any way instead of telling parents to allow their children to be immature (do you really need to be told this?). This section claims that people who have children lose their personalities and have no possible way to enjoy themselves, but they’re somehow more fulfilled than those without - a point which I can’t find any sources to back up and can’t find any reason why it would ever be included at all.
The amount of times the author implies that mental illnesses like depression, anxiety, and ADHD are caused by something you do instead of the science-backed truth that mental illnesses such as these are just brain structure and function is shocking from someone who has a degree in psychology. Another bizarre tip featured is that emotions only last 90 seconds (again, what is the source for this?), and if they last longer it’s because you’ve chosen to feel it. This could be understandable if we’re talking about environmentally induced emotions, but is wild when you’re talking about experiences such as grief, life instability, or generally anything bigger than overstimulation or something akin to being cut off in traffic.
There’s nothing in this book that you can’t get a better version of elsewhere, the editing and organization is a mystery, and the claims made in it are baffling and off-topic the majority of the time. I couldn’t possibly recommend this to anyone, and it was truly grating to finish.
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
informative
reflective
medium-paced
This book, for me at least, was a little lack luster. There was less help understanding and processing your past and more about your future. This was good at some times but it went into topics I don’t think completely followed the actual title or idea of the book such as a ton of parenting tips which I don’t think I really signed up for. I was hoping it would focus more on what the title outlined and less on if you become a parent (which a lot don’t even want to do). Overall I just thought it was going to be more about the child of an EI parent and less of how you SHOULD become a good parent. However, it was overall pretty informative and positive. Just keep the huge amount of future parenting tips in mind if you’re interested in reading this.
challenging
emotional
informative
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
Loved this book! Once you have an understanding of the EI behaviors in adults, this book makes a great companion for ensuring you take care of yourself. Whether you have EI parents, coworkers, neighbors, or friends/family, this book will help you:
- nurture yourself
- set, enforce, and communicate boundaries
- disconnect from what doesn't serve you
You don't have to read this book in order. There are helpful groupings around parenting, relationships, etc., so you are easily able to refresh yourself in the moment.
- nurture yourself
- set, enforce, and communicate boundaries
- disconnect from what doesn't serve you
You don't have to read this book in order. There are helpful groupings around parenting, relationships, etc., so you are easily able to refresh yourself in the moment.
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
"To be emotionally healthy you have to be as available to yourself as you would with someone you love."
There are three parts: Protecting & Caring for Yourself, Dealing with People, and Coping with Challenges. Each of those sections are broken down further to address different situations or issues into bite-sized chapter's so it isn't overwhelming. The author discusses how internalized behaviours you've picked up from your emotionally immature parents impact your romantic relationship's but also relationships with your children or co-workers. There's a good balance between self-reflection and focusing on interaction's with others.
I find the advice given is gently delivered and practical. Although, it's easily used to address overcoming a person's past, it can also be applied to your current situation and as a means to shape the future you would like see.
If you don't create and manage your own story, someone else may write it for you."
I recommend this book to anyone whose negative childhood has lingered with them into adulthood or are concerned about repeating their parent's emotionally immature mistakes. The advice is also applicable to anyone that may just want to break themselves of self-defeating habits.
Thank you Netgalley and the publisher for giving me a advance readers copy in exchange for a honest review. All quotes come from an uncorrected arc and may change.
There are three parts: Protecting & Caring for Yourself, Dealing with People, and Coping with Challenges. Each of those sections are broken down further to address different situations or issues into bite-sized chapter's so it isn't overwhelming. The author discusses how internalized behaviours you've picked up from your emotionally immature parents impact your romantic relationship's but also relationships with your children or co-workers. There's a good balance between self-reflection and focusing on interaction's with others.
I find the advice given is gently delivered and practical. Although, it's easily used to address overcoming a person's past, it can also be applied to your current situation and as a means to shape the future you would like see.
If you don't create and manage your own story, someone else may write it for you."
I recommend this book to anyone whose negative childhood has lingered with them into adulthood or are concerned about repeating their parent's emotionally immature mistakes. The advice is also applicable to anyone that may just want to break themselves of self-defeating habits.
Thank you Netgalley and the publisher for giving me a advance readers copy in exchange for a honest review. All quotes come from an uncorrected arc and may change.