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sailornapqueen's review against another edition
5.0
When I was finished with this book, I felt as if everyone I know should read it or another version of it (not necessarily the "Singles" version.)
This book not only will undoubtedly help me understand future relationships, but it had me stop and examine the love languages of every member of my family, close friend.. I even went through and examined the love languages of colleagues. A total "a ha" moment was when I looked at the love languages of my parents. Prior behavior which I, at times, felt were smothering or controlling, weren't that at all - they were truly my parents acting out in their own love languages. Similarly, I saw how my own personal need for words of affirmation, and ways that I felt discouraged in the past, were because of others not speaking in my love language.
I thought back to failed relationships and saw how I may not have been speaking that person's love language - but ultimately, how they were not speaking mine. It helped me to realize that people may not always be intentionally hurting me with their words; they are simply just not speaking my love language or understanding how they make me feel.
If nothing else, this was a fantastic book on the human psychological condition and deepening your ability to relate to other people and understand both them and ourselves. Add in the fact that it's a Christian book based on Godly principles, and I think that the Christian reader pulls even more out of it than the non-Christian. Either way, I truly feel that anyone (Christian or non-Christian) looking to have a deeper understanding of their interpersonal relationships should definitely take the time to read this book and take the concepts to heart. It can definitely be relationship changing.
This book not only will undoubtedly help me understand future relationships, but it had me stop and examine the love languages of every member of my family, close friend.. I even went through and examined the love languages of colleagues. A total "a ha" moment was when I looked at the love languages of my parents. Prior behavior which I, at times, felt were smothering or controlling, weren't that at all - they were truly my parents acting out in their own love languages. Similarly, I saw how my own personal need for words of affirmation, and ways that I felt discouraged in the past, were because of others not speaking in my love language.
I thought back to failed relationships and saw how I may not have been speaking that person's love language - but ultimately, how they were not speaking mine. It helped me to realize that people may not always be intentionally hurting me with their words; they are simply just not speaking my love language or understanding how they make me feel.
If nothing else, this was a fantastic book on the human psychological condition and deepening your ability to relate to other people and understand both them and ourselves. Add in the fact that it's a Christian book based on Godly principles, and I think that the Christian reader pulls even more out of it than the non-Christian. Either way, I truly feel that anyone (Christian or non-Christian) looking to have a deeper understanding of their interpersonal relationships should definitely take the time to read this book and take the concepts to heart. It can definitely be relationship changing.
kayceslitlife's review against another edition
4.0
Recently out of a seven year relationship, I chose to pick up this book I’ve heard so much about to re-evaluate how I show love to others and to question my own love language. I didn’t know what to expect when I started The Five Love Languages, I just felt at this particular time in my life it would be a good read. There is much truth in the value of a book based on the seasons in one’s life.
As stated above there are five love languages and these are not only how we prefer to be loved but also how we tend to show love to others. Everyone has a love language and some have more than one. All five are important, however, in different relationships, we just tend to feel love more from one over another. Giving love solicits receiving love and this book will open your eyes to how you can do that.
I won’t get personal on here but I will say that this book opened my eyes to a lot and I feel it was valuable time that I spent with Dr. Chapman and this book. For those with strained relationships among family, friends, coworkers, or roommates (for example) The Five Love Languages may help you realize how you can better relate to those people to improve the relationship. Dr. Chapman uses many examples and stories to guide you and better explain what he means. You may be surprised to see how people will respond differently than you expect or anticipate if they feel loved and valued.
Isn’t the deepest desire for any human to feel loved and to love others? So shouldn’t we all strive to be better at how we show our love to all of the special people in our lives? It’s a shame when you have to learn the hard way, but if you’re lucky enough you won’t take people for granted. Rather, you’ll speak their love language, connect on a deeper level and develop a strong and special bond.
If you are one of the few people who still has not read The Five Love Languages I encourage you to do so. If you are married, pick up a copy and read with your spouse. If you don’t know what your love language is, this edition has a self assessment in the back so you can identify what yours is.
Eye opening and significant, The Five Love Languages will change how you view the relationships in your life. After all, what the world needs now is love, sweet love.
4.5/5 stars
http://bookwormz2010.wordpress.com/2011/05/30/book-f-fabookulous/
As stated above there are five love languages and these are not only how we prefer to be loved but also how we tend to show love to others. Everyone has a love language and some have more than one. All five are important, however, in different relationships, we just tend to feel love more from one over another. Giving love solicits receiving love and this book will open your eyes to how you can do that.
I won’t get personal on here but I will say that this book opened my eyes to a lot and I feel it was valuable time that I spent with Dr. Chapman and this book. For those with strained relationships among family, friends, coworkers, or roommates (for example) The Five Love Languages may help you realize how you can better relate to those people to improve the relationship. Dr. Chapman uses many examples and stories to guide you and better explain what he means. You may be surprised to see how people will respond differently than you expect or anticipate if they feel loved and valued.
Isn’t the deepest desire for any human to feel loved and to love others? So shouldn’t we all strive to be better at how we show our love to all of the special people in our lives? It’s a shame when you have to learn the hard way, but if you’re lucky enough you won’t take people for granted. Rather, you’ll speak their love language, connect on a deeper level and develop a strong and special bond.
If you are one of the few people who still has not read The Five Love Languages I encourage you to do so. If you are married, pick up a copy and read with your spouse. If you don’t know what your love language is, this edition has a self assessment in the back so you can identify what yours is.
Eye opening and significant, The Five Love Languages will change how you view the relationships in your life. After all, what the world needs now is love, sweet love.
4.5/5 stars
http://bookwormz2010.wordpress.com/2011/05/30/book-f-fabookulous/
w0nd3rl4nd's review against another edition
4.0
While this book is written by a Christian, for Christians, and I am far from being a religious person, I still enjoyed this book! It's helped me understand myself and how I love and want to be loved, as well as understand and relate better in my relationships with friends, family, and other interpersonal relationships.
I did disagree with some of the points he made, specifically regarding sexual relationships, as well as a romantic relationship only being appropriate between a man and woman. However, if one takes what he says about these two points, everything else in this book does make sense and can be applicable in any relationship in one's life.
I really did enjoy this book, and plan on re-reading it again in a few months!
I did disagree with some of the points he made, specifically regarding sexual relationships, as well as a romantic relationship only being appropriate between a man and woman. However, if one takes what he says about these two points, everything else in this book does make sense and can be applicable in any relationship in one's life.
I really did enjoy this book, and plan on re-reading it again in a few months!
ttayfel1997's review against another edition
5.0
This book was extremely eye opening to me. I've read many self-help books in the past that referenced the 5 Love Languages...but I had never read it myself. I loved that there was a version just for singles that I could read. This book definitely provided a new perspective for me...not only about myself, but others as well. I pray that by learning the love languages of the important people in my life, I will have more meaningful relationships for many years to come.
missterrific's review against another edition
2.0
I like the concept but I don't use religion in my everyday life so it was a hard to apply. I was bored and didn't finish it :(
gustus's review against another edition
2.0
The book gave me some interesting points of view that I never thought about before - the five love languages and that most of us have one main love language. The book is really insightful of what/ how we feel love from others and how we can make others fell loved by us.
Surely the book is written for singles, however please do not think that is it only for people who is currently NOT in a dating relationship. In my opinion the book is mainly for single parents or someone who is in a dating relationship (there are also some helpful advices for couples as well as family/ co-worker relationship). To be honest, it think it doesnt help much on one-sided relationship.
One reason I gave this book a 3/5 rating is because there is a fairly amount of statements related to Christianity, Bible, God etc I myself am not a Christian or follow any religion, thus there are fairly amounts of times I felt it was unrealistic, eg marriage (it's hard for me to explain this, but I do not agree with the author on a few point about this). The author also said that love is a choice, I totally disagree with it.
Also the author mentioned in his "physical touch" chapter that "The love language of physical touch may also be spoken to members of the same sex. Such expressions have nothing to do with homosexuality". I dont know but I prefer he shouldn't state that statement, especially how he ONLY mention it in that chapter. He wrote about love between people (all the romantic relationship examples in his book are male-female, I totally understand) and the five love languages; and none of his statements about them suggest about our sexuality. BUT then he has to mention that statement in the "physical touch" chapter, it gave a hint of "discrimination" (IN MY OPINION). That statement was really out of nowhere, and .... 'sighed' (Sorry english is not my main language so I don't really know how to express my thought here).
The book should have get higher rating (3.5 or 4) but that statement destroyed all my enjoyment of reading this book.
Surely the book is written for singles, however please do not think that is it only for people who is currently NOT in a dating relationship. In my opinion the book is mainly for single parents or someone who is in a dating relationship (there are also some helpful advices for couples as well as family/ co-worker relationship). To be honest, it think it doesnt help much on one-sided relationship.
One reason I gave this book a 3/5 rating is because there is a fairly amount of statements related to Christianity, Bible, God etc I myself am not a Christian or follow any religion, thus there are fairly amounts of times I felt it was unrealistic, eg marriage (it's hard for me to explain this, but I do not agree with the author on a few point about this). The author also said that love is a choice, I totally disagree with it.
Also the author mentioned in his "physical touch" chapter that "The love language of physical touch may also be spoken to members of the same sex. Such expressions have nothing to do with homosexuality". I dont know but I prefer he shouldn't state that statement, especially how he ONLY mention it in that chapter. He wrote about love between people (all the romantic relationship examples in his book are male-female, I totally understand) and the five love languages; and none of his statements about them suggest about our sexuality. BUT then he has to mention that statement in the "physical touch" chapter, it gave a hint of "discrimination" (IN MY OPINION). That statement was really out of nowhere, and .... 'sighed' (Sorry english is not my main language so I don't really know how to express my thought here).
The book should have get higher rating (3.5 or 4) but that statement destroyed all my enjoyment of reading this book.
chatb's review against another edition
3.0
I am finally hip to the "love languages" folks speak of. I tried reading this book a few years ago and could not get into it. I gave up reading and took the test. I picked up the book again this year and it was a pretty good read. The stories were a little "Leave It To Beaver" ish and I bit simplified, but I received the point. I do wish the book wasn't as religious based. Even for someone who regularly attends church it was a bit much for me at time. Overall, I learned a lot in terms of communication and showing affection to your loved ones.
katiejanenaps's review against another edition
5.0
When I was finished with this book, I felt as if everyone I know should read it or another version of it (not necessarily the "Singles" version.)
This book not only will undoubtedly help me understand future relationships, but it had me stop and examine the love languages of every member of my family, close friend.. I even went through and examined the love languages of colleagues. A total "a ha" moment was when I looked at the love languages of my parents. Prior behavior which I, at times, felt were smothering or controlling, weren't that at all - they were truly my parents acting out in their own love languages. Similarly, I saw how my own personal need for words of affirmation, and ways that I felt discouraged in the past, were because of others not speaking in my love language.
I thought back to failed relationships and saw how I may not have been speaking that person's love language - but ultimately, how they were not speaking mine. It helped me to realize that people may not always be intentionally hurting me with their words; they are simply just not speaking my love language or understanding how they make me feel.
If nothing else, this was a fantastic book on the human psychological condition and deepening your ability to relate to other people and understand both them and ourselves. Add in the fact that it's a Christian book based on Godly principles, and I think that the Christian reader pulls even more out of it than the non-Christian. Either way, I truly feel that anyone (Christian or non-Christian) looking to have a deeper understanding of their interpersonal relationships should definitely take the time to read this book and take the concepts to heart. It can definitely be relationship changing.
This book not only will undoubtedly help me understand future relationships, but it had me stop and examine the love languages of every member of my family, close friend.. I even went through and examined the love languages of colleagues. A total "a ha" moment was when I looked at the love languages of my parents. Prior behavior which I, at times, felt were smothering or controlling, weren't that at all - they were truly my parents acting out in their own love languages. Similarly, I saw how my own personal need for words of affirmation, and ways that I felt discouraged in the past, were because of others not speaking in my love language.
I thought back to failed relationships and saw how I may not have been speaking that person's love language - but ultimately, how they were not speaking mine. It helped me to realize that people may not always be intentionally hurting me with their words; they are simply just not speaking my love language or understanding how they make me feel.
If nothing else, this was a fantastic book on the human psychological condition and deepening your ability to relate to other people and understand both them and ourselves. Add in the fact that it's a Christian book based on Godly principles, and I think that the Christian reader pulls even more out of it than the non-Christian. Either way, I truly feel that anyone (Christian or non-Christian) looking to have a deeper understanding of their interpersonal relationships should definitely take the time to read this book and take the concepts to heart. It can definitely be relationship changing.
emmaloren's review against another edition
1.0
This book should be renamed: The Five Love Languages for Cishet Christian Singles Whose Only Goal in Life Is to Get Married for the Purpose of Glorifying God (and if You Have Pre-Marital Sex or are in a Co-Habitating Relationship You are a Sinner and Will Likely Get Cheated on).
Do not recommend unless you want a relationship reminiscent of the 1950s.
Do not recommend unless you want a relationship reminiscent of the 1950s.
msmith1987's review against another edition
3.0
The concept of the five languages resonated with me. I did struggle a bit with some of the opinions expressed and the validity of the facts supporting those opinions. In general, a good, easy read.