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monzillareads's review against another edition
5.0
This will move you. Powerful writing, simultaneously informative of how broken the justice system is for victims of sexual assault and poignant in how Miller expresses her thoughts and feelings in the aftermath.
Miller illuminates faults and cracks in the legal system and the rabble of social media that bend towards privilege and misogyny. With unrelenting sharpness she shows us how we measure the worth of a victim by their past and the worth of the male perpetrator by their “potential”.
This memoir flipped everything I thought I knew about what people go through when their bodies and minds are violently violated. There is clearly an epidemic of college sexual assault, I’ll let the facts and figures speak for themselves, so I don’t think it unreasonable for this to be required reading for freshmen — to reiterate that under no circumstances is a human being worthy of disrespect and how it is possible to move forward, however broken, for the 1 in 5 women who will be sexually assaulted in college.
Miller illuminates faults and cracks in the legal system and the rabble of social media that bend towards privilege and misogyny. With unrelenting sharpness she shows us how we measure the worth of a victim by their past and the worth of the male perpetrator by their “potential”.
This memoir flipped everything I thought I knew about what people go through when their bodies and minds are violently violated. There is clearly an epidemic of college sexual assault, I’ll let the facts and figures speak for themselves, so I don’t think it unreasonable for this to be required reading for freshmen — to reiterate that under no circumstances is a human being worthy of disrespect and how it is possible to move forward, however broken, for the 1 in 5 women who will be sexually assaulted in college.
cassidy27's review against another edition
5.0
5 stars ⭐️ There are no words. This was amazing and mind blowing and will stick with me for a long time
kirsten0929's review against another edition
5.0
[2019] Started out mad and just got madder. Book 3/6 for the second round of the BookTubePrize. Star rating and more to come.
(June 3, 2020) Didn’t really know anything about her story, only vaguely recalled the case - swimmer, rape, Stanford - that was about it. But I knew just enough to start out mad. That anger simmered for the first half of the book, and then increased from there as she talked about what came after the guilty verdict. The injustice was excruciating and infuriating. This book was a full accounting of the time from the rape through to the time the verdict was upheld on appeal several years later. While sometimes it seemed like a lot of day to day, it was important to provide this fuller picture. Victims lives aren’t just highlight reel moments covered by the papers; they have to live every single day carrying with them what happened, and she is able to give us a sense of the relentlessness of living every day after something like this has happened. The writing is strong, rich and descriptive. She is able to express herself in such a way that we can feel the pain, anger, fear, the humiliation, all of it. She often uses short anecdotes and childhood memories to make points about her present which is an effective technique. So many insights and really thoughtful analysis but maybe this sums up the injustice: “The assault is never personal, the blaming is.”
(June 3, 2020) Didn’t really know anything about her story, only vaguely recalled the case - swimmer, rape, Stanford - that was about it. But I knew just enough to start out mad. That anger simmered for the first half of the book, and then increased from there as she talked about what came after the guilty verdict. The injustice was excruciating and infuriating. This book was a full accounting of the time from the rape through to the time the verdict was upheld on appeal several years later. While sometimes it seemed like a lot of day to day, it was important to provide this fuller picture. Victims lives aren’t just highlight reel moments covered by the papers; they have to live every single day carrying with them what happened, and she is able to give us a sense of the relentlessness of living every day after something like this has happened. The writing is strong, rich and descriptive. She is able to express herself in such a way that we can feel the pain, anger, fear, the humiliation, all of it. She often uses short anecdotes and childhood memories to make points about her present which is an effective technique. So many insights and really thoughtful analysis but maybe this sums up the injustice: “The assault is never personal, the blaming is.”
ellen_meyer's review against another edition
5.0
A stunning memoir...a must-read for all women and men.
simoneclare's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
reflective
sad
medium-paced
5.0
marmaladereads's review against another edition
emotional
informative
reflective
slow-paced
5.0
A beautiful piece of feminist writing. Chanel is a beautiful writer and speaker, but her story feels intimate and familiar. She speaks profoundly about experiences that so many women share, overcoming the trauma of sexual assault in a society where sexual assault, harassment and rape are commonplace and perpetrators are rarely punished.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Gun violence, and Suicide
gmarchy's review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
inspiring
sad
slow-paced
5.0
ayoungm's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
sad
tense
medium-paced
5.0