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enzsch's review
1.5
Fine but full of fluff and not very actionable. Written a while ago so there is a lot of stuff in there that i think is much more common sense now (at least in my circles) about basic safety and consideration.
lucyylu's review
informative
5.0
I had read the bottoming book before this and I feel like both are equally valuable. I expected this book to feel slightly repetitive after reading the bottoming book because of having to go over similar themes but it wasn't at all. I found it had so much to give and I learnt so much more than I expected to. Everything from these books have effected my life in such a positive way.
beauytoy's review
informative
medium-paced
4.0
very white! but pretty sexy and very informative! I'm not saying i'm a perfect top now (and i'm not even saying i'm a top) but now i'm more conscious of how i interact with my sexual partners
julestx's review against another edition
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
poetkoala's review against another edition
slow-paced
2.0
I don’t know if I learned anything substantial, though it was a good way to get me thinking about my priorities. There’s something about these authors that aren’t my favorite.
spudsimple's review
3.0
The update of this book needs an update. It feels incredibly dated in both the most benign of ways (encouraging you to check out the “‘Net” for resources) and the most problematic of ways (please do not casually drop the question “don’t you wish there were more slaves around here?” at a music festival to see if any of the hotties around you are into kink). So take that for what you will. I also found that attempts to be inclusive were lacking. Lots of references to binaries and as an asexual lady interested in kink much of the book just didn’t land for me.
Oh, and the spiritual section...it’s your standard cultural appropriation.
I guess I wanted more of a how-to book on how to tap into my inner Domme, which is not the purpose of this book. Great discussions around communication and consent, however it felt repetitive towards the end and there is a definite focus on specified role playing instead of just bringing in dom and sub personas into existing relationships/dynamics.
Oh, and the spiritual section...it’s your standard cultural appropriation.
I guess I wanted more of a how-to book on how to tap into my inner Domme, which is not the purpose of this book. Great discussions around communication and consent, however it felt repetitive towards the end and there is a definite focus on specified role playing instead of just bringing in dom and sub personas into existing relationships/dynamics.