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No Visible Bruises: What We Don't Know about Domestic Violence Can Kill Us
Rachel Louise Snyder
4.52 AVERAGE
360 reviews for:
No Visible Bruises: What We Don't Know about Domestic Violence Can Kill Us
Rachel Louise Snyder
4.52 AVERAGE
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Excellent journalism. A must read for everyone but especially those interested in mental health, public health, advocacy, social justice, women's issues, etc.
This book is incredible. Simultaneously very readable, and so difficult to read that I needed to take breaks. Informative, compelling argument for why intimate partner violence is one of the biggest threats to a healthy and thriving society. Heartbreaking, but not without hope.
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Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Murder
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This is a good introduction resource to intimate partner violence; it provides a wide but fairly deep investigation into why victims stay, why abusers stay, and the contemporary preventative measures against IPV.
I also think the way she writes is engaging. It didn't feel like she was just rattling facts at me, but presenting a narrative.
I saw some complaints that she introduces too many people/names, but personally I think she brings these people up repeatedly that you eventually get familiar with them and recognize them even though they were mentioned several chapters back. In a way, she weaves the stories she's gathered into an interconnecting picture.
On the other hand, I did feel a bit disappointed because it didn't feel like she stated anything new about the topic. I feel like I got a more in-depth review of an abuser's psychology with Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That?"
Another downside of this book is the lack of diversity? In that, she mentions how LGBT+ or POC relationships are also heavily affected by IPV and how the intersection of racism and queerphobia affects these cases more, but she never provides an example of these cases. Or in the cases she does, it's often race rather than LGBT+ couples, and even then she doesn't really delve into how race plays into victim-police interaction. Perhaps she felt that it wasn't her place to weigh in on that as a white straight woman, but considering how she wants to raise awareness, it feels like it should've been at least a chapter or something.
She also doesn't delve into how race-- specifically white supremacy-- can play into IPV, especially with white male abusers. She centers the problem of IPV as a misogyny/patriarchy/male supremacy problem. Which isn't to say she's wrong; even in countries where the majority is non-white, she points out that rates of IPV have increased (in the afterword, I think). But I think if she's going to make her book so centered on the US, she should at least point out the problem of white supremacy and how it plays in the American gender roles.
I also think the way she writes is engaging. It didn't feel like she was just rattling facts at me, but presenting a narrative.
I saw some complaints that she introduces too many people/names, but personally I think she brings these people up repeatedly that you eventually get familiar with them and recognize them even though they were mentioned several chapters back. In a way, she weaves the stories she's gathered into an interconnecting picture.
On the other hand, I did feel a bit disappointed because it didn't feel like she stated anything new about the topic. I feel like I got a more in-depth review of an abuser's psychology with Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That?"
Another downside of this book is the lack of diversity? In that, she mentions how LGBT+ or POC relationships are also heavily affected by IPV and how the intersection of racism and queerphobia affects these cases more, but she never provides an example of these cases. Or in the cases she does, it's often race rather than LGBT+ couples, and even then she doesn't really delve into how race plays into victim-police interaction. Perhaps she felt that it wasn't her place to weigh in on that as a white straight woman, but considering how she wants to raise awareness, it feels like it should've been at least a chapter or something.
She also doesn't delve into how race-- specifically white supremacy-- can play into IPV, especially with white male abusers. She centers the problem of IPV as a misogyny/patriarchy/male supremacy problem. Which isn't to say she's wrong; even in countries where the majority is non-white, she points out that rates of IPV have increased (in the afterword, I think). But I think if she's going to make her book so centered on the US, she should at least point out the problem of white supremacy and how it plays in the American gender roles.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Violence
Moderate: Child abuse, Child death
In some ways, I already knew all of the information in this book. If you have any knowledge about intimate partner violence it's probably not going to be something mind blowing. But I still found the book to be invaluable and eye opening in many smaller ways.
As a survivor, it out a lot of things into perspective and gave me a lot to think about. I feel better equipped to protect myself in the future. There are so many little tiny things discussed (or even just briefly mentioned) in the book that I probably wouldn't have connected before, despite my years of intentional healing and reflection. I wish I had read this book earlier.
As a survivor, it out a lot of things into perspective and gave me a lot to think about. I feel better equipped to protect myself in the future. There are so many little tiny things discussed (or even just briefly mentioned) in the book that I probably wouldn't have connected before, despite my years of intentional healing and reflection. I wish I had read this book earlier.
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Content Warnings
Graphic: Child abuse, Child death, Confinement, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Gore, Gun violence, Mental illness, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Grief, Stalking, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Murder, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, Injury/Injury detail
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