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bamboobones_rory's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
sad
medium-paced
5.0
This is an incredibly challenging read because it requires a lot of emotional work to engage with. While I think the title sounds silly and corny, this book is both difficult and tender to the reader. It approaches healing through compassion instead of shame or "pulling up by the bootstraps". It includes exercises for reflection, questions and activities. Sometimes I had to stop not because it was intellectually challenging and I needed a pause, but because it was emotionally challenging or brought up things I needed more time to process. It also provides insight for why abusive people may act the way they do - this is not an excuse but personally this insight is helpful for understanding that child abuse is absolutely nothing a child could have done or caused.
lydiastorytime's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
om4im's review against another edition
4.0
This was good. Hard to read, and the exercises were harder but I think it's helpful
kamahi's review against another edition
5.0
My counselor lent me this book to work through in conjunction with our sessions. While not everything in this book was applicable to me and my situation, there was so much that I took away from it. I tried to do most of the exercises throughout the book and will definitely be incorporating some of them into my everyday life. This is a really good book for learning how to lessen the inner critic so prevalent for those who experienced abuse or neglect and help replace it with self-compassion and self-encouragement.
tnafam10's review against another edition
3.0
Eh. Some of the exercises were too cringy/trite/cheesy for me to take seriously. I mean....recommending you to soak in a jacuzzi to help get rid of sexual abuse shame? Girl.......ok. If that floats your boat, neat. I understand that it’s a book and not a tailored therapy session, so things that typically frustrate me could help another. Also the author is a bit too repetitive when discussing the topic of shame. I guess this book would be more insightful and helpful to those who have never been in therapy or listened to a Brene Brown lecture. Meh. Not bad, would still recommend.
Ok, one last thing.....the poem at the end was laughably bad. The sentiment was nice but oof it sounded like it was written by middle schooler. Soz. Yay, compassion. Boo, shame.
Ok, one last thing.....the poem at the end was laughably bad. The sentiment was nice but oof it sounded like it was written by middle schooler. Soz. Yay, compassion. Boo, shame.
shewantsthediction's review
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
3.0
I already knew or had figured out most of the material in this book, but I've also read a ton of books on trauma lately and can see how this would be a helpful resource to someone who's just starting their healing journey. It's nice to have all the info all in one place, written in a compassionate and easy-to-understand way. For me, the most helpful section was the last one, on self-encouragement. (I think whichever section you find most helpful will depend on where you are in your journey.) This would make a fantastic followup to Pete Walker's Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.