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I received a free copy of this book and it could not have come at a more opportune time in my life. I'm learning to be more confident at work, and my partner and I are learning how to navigate relationships with friends and family better.
I've been able to use things from the book immediately. Melissa writes with confidence and humor and really knows the feelings and fear that can be associated with setting boundaries. But also is very persuasive at showing WHY they're necessary and even KIND (for yourself and for others).
The scripts she includes are easy to conceptualize and adapt and include numerous scenarios. If everyone could set boundaries this clearly, firmly, and politely, we would all be much better off.
10/10 would recommend
I've been able to use things from the book immediately. Melissa writes with confidence and humor and really knows the feelings and fear that can be associated with setting boundaries. But also is very persuasive at showing WHY they're necessary and even KIND (for yourself and for others).
The scripts she includes are easy to conceptualize and adapt and include numerous scenarios. If everyone could set boundaries this clearly, firmly, and politely, we would all be much better off.
10/10 would recommend
I have a habit of reading “self help” books without exploring or practicing any of the advice. I felt like I’ve always been an effective boundary setter, but this book showed me I have some work to do in order to be more effective in how I set limits with other people as well as myself. The “clear is kind” philosophy resonated with me and I learned a ton of actionable strategies to improve my communication skills. The direct yet conversational writing makes for an engaging read. And the author weaves personal details from her life that lend credibility to her advice. Highly recommend if you’re looking for guidance in this area of your life!
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Title: The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free
Author: Melissa Urban
Genre: Self-Help
Rating: 3.50
Pub Date: October 11, 2022
I received a complimentary eARC from Penguin Random House Canada via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own. #Gifted
T H R E E • W O R D S
Useful • Accessible • Direct
📖 S Y N O P S I S
Do your relationships often feel one-sided or unbalanced? Are you always giving in just so things will go smoothly? Do you wish you could learn to say no—but, like, nicely? Are you depleted, overwhelmed, and tired of putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to establish some boundaries.
Since launching the mega-bestselling wellness program the Whole30, Melissa Urban has taught millions of people how to establish healthy habits and successfully navigate pushback and peer pressure. She knows firsthand that boundaries—clear limits you set to protect your energy, time, and health—are the key to feelings of security, confidence, and freedom in every area of your life.
💭 T H O U G H T S
As a chronic people pleaser, The Book of Boundaries instantly caught my attention, especially given my recent interest in developing healthier boundaries in my relationships with others, as well as, with myself. I have been putting off reading it for a number of reason, but the beginning of a new year felt like the right time.
Melissa Urban has divided this book up into different sections to make it easier to find what you may be looking for. She offers up 130+ useful scripts with clear language that the reader can easily use to set boundaries with a variety of people in their lives. There is a lot of useful information, yet it's one of those books that needs time to digest. Unfortunately, the final third of the book became overly repetitive (to the point I thought I'd accidentally gone back to the beginning on my audio player).
At times the author does talk about herself a tad too much and I became annoyed with how privileged and entitled she came across. I don't necessarily know how new all of this information given that this is the first book I have read on the topic, yet I suspect there are other books out there that cover similar ground.
The Book of Boundaries certainly made me realize I need to implement firmer boundaries that communicate my needs within some of my relationships with others. It was filled with practical advice, although it eventually became redundant. I think every reader will be able to find something relatable, although, they will not relate to every single aspect. It would make for a handy tool to have on hand to refer back to from time to time.
📚 R E A D • I F • Y O U • L I K E
• concrete examples
• self-help on audio
• personal development
⚠️ CW: addiction, drug use, drug abuse, alcohol, alcoholism, eating disorder, pregnancy, miscarriage, divorce, toxic relationship, death, death of parent, body shaming
🔖 F A V O U R I T E • Q U O T E S
"You're not being mean when you set boundaries, you're being kind - you yourself and your relationships."
Author: Melissa Urban
Genre: Self-Help
Rating: 3.50
Pub Date: October 11, 2022
I received a complimentary eARC from Penguin Random House Canada via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own. #Gifted
T H R E E • W O R D S
Useful • Accessible • Direct
📖 S Y N O P S I S
Do your relationships often feel one-sided or unbalanced? Are you always giving in just so things will go smoothly? Do you wish you could learn to say no—but, like, nicely? Are you depleted, overwhelmed, and tired of putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to establish some boundaries.
Since launching the mega-bestselling wellness program the Whole30, Melissa Urban has taught millions of people how to establish healthy habits and successfully navigate pushback and peer pressure. She knows firsthand that boundaries—clear limits you set to protect your energy, time, and health—are the key to feelings of security, confidence, and freedom in every area of your life.
💭 T H O U G H T S
As a chronic people pleaser, The Book of Boundaries instantly caught my attention, especially given my recent interest in developing healthier boundaries in my relationships with others, as well as, with myself. I have been putting off reading it for a number of reason, but the beginning of a new year felt like the right time.
Melissa Urban has divided this book up into different sections to make it easier to find what you may be looking for. She offers up 130+ useful scripts with clear language that the reader can easily use to set boundaries with a variety of people in their lives. There is a lot of useful information, yet it's one of those books that needs time to digest. Unfortunately, the final third of the book became overly repetitive (to the point I thought I'd accidentally gone back to the beginning on my audio player).
At times the author does talk about herself a tad too much and I became annoyed with how privileged and entitled she came across. I don't necessarily know how new all of this information given that this is the first book I have read on the topic, yet I suspect there are other books out there that cover similar ground.
The Book of Boundaries certainly made me realize I need to implement firmer boundaries that communicate my needs within some of my relationships with others. It was filled with practical advice, although it eventually became redundant. I think every reader will be able to find something relatable, although, they will not relate to every single aspect. It would make for a handy tool to have on hand to refer back to from time to time.
📚 R E A D • I F • Y O U • L I K E
• concrete examples
• self-help on audio
• personal development
⚠️ CW: addiction, drug use, drug abuse, alcohol, alcoholism, eating disorder, pregnancy, miscarriage, divorce, toxic relationship, death, death of parent, body shaming
🔖 F A V O U R I T E • Q U O T E S
"You're not being mean when you set boundaries, you're being kind - you yourself and your relationships."
Content Warnings
Moderate: Addiction, Alcoholism, Body shaming, Drug abuse, Drug use, Alcohol
Minor: Death, Eating disorder, Miscarriage, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Death of parent, Pregnancy
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I didn't realize how much I need boundaries in my life until I read this book. The scripts make it super easy to apply these practices to your own life. Highly recommend!
i’m not the best audience for this book, and that’s okay, but it’s still a 2/5 for me for a few reasons.
this book was written for people who have never set a boundary in their life & need the words (verbatim) to get their point across.
i was hoping for some depth on the psychology of boundaries — why we need them, what triggers the need for them, when to accept that a boundary isn’t being respected, how to evaluate if maybe i’m the one overreacting here & a boundary wasn’t actually helpful, etc.
also - almost all the examples for boundary-setting in this book are like “my mom tells me i’m hideous when we go out to lunch” or “my in-laws invited themselves on our alaskan cruise, what do i do?” (girl!?) i was hoping for some realistic tips for setting smaller, less dramatic boundaries around little things that bother us, etc.
again, this book was written for people who don’t know what a boundary is & have never set one. i’m sure it’s helpful for many, but i was disappointed and wanted to DNF half way through (but can’t start the new year with not finishing my first book of the year). towards the end i mostly skimmed.
this book was written for people who have never set a boundary in their life & need the words (verbatim) to get their point across.
i was hoping for some depth on the psychology of boundaries — why we need them, what triggers the need for them, when to accept that a boundary isn’t being respected, how to evaluate if maybe i’m the one overreacting here & a boundary wasn’t actually helpful, etc.
also - almost all the examples for boundary-setting in this book are like “my mom tells me i’m hideous when we go out to lunch” or “my in-laws invited themselves on our alaskan cruise, what do i do?” (girl!?) i was hoping for some realistic tips for setting smaller, less dramatic boundaries around little things that bother us, etc.
again, this book was written for people who don’t know what a boundary is & have never set one. i’m sure it’s helpful for many, but i was disappointed and wanted to DNF half way through (but can’t start the new year with not finishing my first book of the year). towards the end i mostly skimmed.
A good book on establishing boundaries to bring you inner peace and freedom. I appreciate the concrete (and very relatable) examples Urban provides.
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