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(In)fidelidade: Repensar o Amor e as Relações by Esther Perel

reddreadds's review against another edition

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informative reflective medium-paced

4.5

I was super invested in the science and psychology behind infidelity and appreciated the author’s intel. It was refreshing to see an author write about such a taboo topic in such a nonjudgmental way.

camicarreno's review against another edition

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5.0

Qué buena lectura. Más allá de las infidelidades, este libro entrega una mirada fresca a las relaciones románticas, el matrimonio, la monogamia y todos esos conceptos tan antiguos y que se han vuelto tan contradictorios (queremos una relación estable, confiable y segura, pero también queremos misterio, intriga y emoción, escribe Esther Perel). Años de experiencia como terapeuta hacen que se pasee por muchos casos muy ejemplificadores que va mezclando con literatura y citas de psiquiatras, sociólogos y escritores. Este libro me llevó a cuestionarme muchas cosas y eso siempre es bueno.
«In a surprising number of these cases, a direct line can be traced from an extramarital adventure back to our most basic human fear—the confrontation with mortality.»

aurora_because's review against another edition

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5.0

I had heard Esther Perel on several podcasts and enjoyed her perspective so much that I immediately placed holds on both of her books. What incredible insight into the under workings of relationships and the individuals in them! I love that her writing is inclusive of all varieties of relationships, not just two party heterosexual ones.

katherineannpotter's review against another edition

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adventurous challenging hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

strangechord's review against another edition

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5.0

I'm single and not experiencing infidelity, and I still found this absolutely revelatory reading. Perel is a master on the subject of desire and what it takes to make romantic relationships work. I recommend this highly to everyone and especially the audiobook - listening to her is always a delight.

voula's review against another edition

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informative reflective medium-paced

3.5

la_aselreads's review against another edition

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challenging emotional informative reflective fast-paced

5.0

obyu's review against another edition

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challenging informative reflective

5.0

theintrovertedbookmark's review against another edition

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challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective slow-paced

4.0

drakken's review against another edition

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4.0

Really enjoyed this well-written and carefully considered look at infidelity - why it perpetually dogs us as humans, why we tend to elevate it above all other wrongs in a relationship, how to (maybe?) safeguard against it in a healthy, uncontrolling manner, & how to successfully move on from it if it does occur, with lots of illuminating stories from Esther’s distinguished career as a relationship therapist along the way. I appreciated her ability/decision to approach this subject with nuance and examine all angles rather than be quick to generalize or judge, as things are not always as cut & dry as cheater = terrible, heartless person, cheated on = saint. *Not* that Esther condones affairs or seeks to foist the blame on the betrayed partner - and not to minimize the very real pain that people who have been cheated on deal with - but it’s important to recognize that infidelity is frequently the result of a complex set of factors which both parties helped contribute to, often unawares - as well as societal (and self-imposed) pressures that are… perhaps out of line with reality? - and to remain clear-eyed about that if partners are to understand and learn from the experience (or avoid it in the first place).