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The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
Dossie Easton
3.92 AVERAGE
1.03k reviews for:
The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
Dossie Easton
3.92 AVERAGE
emotional
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
Amazing audio book with lots of interesting and intriguing concepts on relationships of all kinds. Perhaps the most fascinating was the introduction of concepts considered “wrong” and the social conditioning that went into teaching us that it’s wrong. An interesting challenging to the “rules” of relationships and a guide to the path of creating your own rules instead of living by someone else’s.
informative
medium-paced
The actual tactis/exercises involved can be useful, but I found it a bit difficult to read due to grievances with Stylistic choices. Overarchingly had the right idea, but as a marginalized person there was a great deal of ideological micro-aggressions that I believe can be chalked up to general differences, but still made it difficult/uncomfortable. I found some of their earlier segments/discussions regarding sexual assault to be triggering in the way they were conducted. Overall, useful whether you are polyam/open or not, but the sort of book where I think you might be better off skimming it for the Skills instead of the writing.
Content Warnings
Minor: Sexual assault
‘The most succesful long-term relationships are the ones with enough flexibility to redefine themselves over and over again through the years.’
It took me over a month to finish the book because it really is a challenging one. We’re so used to seeing one type of relationship forming throughout our whole lives, it’s satisfying to hear about all the other possibilities.
I have friends who are polyamorous and I definitely understand their experiences more thanks to this book. I also thought the exercises were really helpful.
I do wish I could have read more scientific studies throughout the book itself. It felt like the authors were giving advice but it wasn’t always confirmed with scientific research and/or studies. That’s what I missed in this book, hence the four stars.
It took me over a month to finish the book because it really is a challenging one. We’re so used to seeing one type of relationship forming throughout our whole lives, it’s satisfying to hear about all the other possibilities.
I have friends who are polyamorous and I definitely understand their experiences more thanks to this book. I also thought the exercises were really helpful.
I do wish I could have read more scientific studies throughout the book itself. It felt like the authors were giving advice but it wasn’t always confirmed with scientific research and/or studies. That’s what I missed in this book, hence the four stars.
challenging
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
nice text book to return to from time to time throughout the ups and downs of radical love
Pretty decent friendship/relationship guidelines regardless of which direction your particular sexual perversions pull you. Very interesting/provoking treatise on jealousy. Kind of an annoyingly fluffy sex flower child tone throughout, though.
Pretty basic. A relationship guide that's inclusive if non monogamy.
challenging
funny
informative
reflective
fast-paced
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
I took a LONG time to read this book, mostly because I read so many books at one time, and also because I like to marinate my mind with the book, really let what I've read seep in, and not just bum-rush through the whole thing in one go (no matter how badly I want to keep reading/learning, I try to pace myself)!
Without giving the WHOLE book away, just know this. If you're queer, if you're kinky, if you're poly/open/non-monogamous and you tell me you haven't read this, I will quickly tell you;
This is a Very important book to read, this isn't just a funny-haha popular book, this is an educational love-crafted book, and it definitely touches on some sensitive topics that I think EVERYONE, including NON queer, NON kinky, NON poly/open/non-monogamous people NEED to/SHOULD know.
I first ever heard about this book from one of my first therapists, I always saw it on her bookshelf, and I wondered about it. Over time and throughout my own journey, I learned more and more that I really wanted to read this book, just for the sake of education and healthy relationships with myself and with others, and when I finally did buy it, I was so overjoyed.
Dossie Easton is a great author, and I really like their other works as well (as well as works they have created with others)!
This book goes hand in hand for me with
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(this one is specific to the kink/bdsm communities), which is a book I loved heavily, as well as
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(this book is much more closely compared to Ethical Slut in its topics of relationships and how to be healthy with yourself and with others), I HIGHLY RECOMMEND ATLEAST 'Happy Life in An Open Relationship', if not both (if you're into learning about the bdsm/kink communities ;> )
Without giving the WHOLE book away, just know this. If you're queer, if you're kinky, if you're poly/open/non-monogamous and you tell me you haven't read this, I will quickly tell you;
This is a Very important book to read, this isn't just a funny-haha popular book, this is an educational love-crafted book, and it definitely touches on some sensitive topics that I think EVERYONE, including NON queer, NON kinky, NON poly/open/non-monogamous people NEED to/SHOULD know.
I first ever heard about this book from one of my first therapists, I always saw it on her bookshelf, and I wondered about it. Over time and throughout my own journey, I learned more and more that I really wanted to read this book, just for the sake of education and healthy relationships with myself and with others, and when I finally did buy it, I was so overjoyed.
Dossie Easton is a great author, and I really like their other works as well (as well as works they have created with others)!
This book goes hand in hand for me with
[b:Playing Well With Others|14944563|Playing Well With Others|Lee Harrington|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1349040912l/14944563._SX50_.jpg|20598947]
(this one is specific to the kink/bdsm communities), which is a book I loved heavily, as well as
[b:A Happy Life in an Open Relationship: The Essential Guide to a Healthy and Fulfilling Nonmonogamous|51201857|A Happy Life in an Open Relationship The Essential Guide to a Healthy and Fulfilling Nonmonogamous|Susan Wenzel|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1566889594l/51201857._SX50_SY75_.jpg|71838218]
(this book is much more closely compared to Ethical Slut in its topics of relationships and how to be healthy with yourself and with others), I HIGHLY RECOMMEND ATLEAST 'Happy Life in An Open Relationship', if not both (if you're into learning about the bdsm/kink communities ;> )