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I don't want a "man" anymore. This makes me want to stay away from relationships. I'm not here to feed a man's ego.
In general, he does have one or two tidbits of good things, such as having standards and sticking up for them, asking for what you want, and giving compliments. Otherwise, it's pretty sexist.
And if this is what it takes to get a man, then count me out. I can remain single and feel more fulfilled and happy.
In general, he does have one or two tidbits of good things, such as having standards and sticking up for them, asking for what you want, and giving compliments. Otherwise, it's pretty sexist.
And if this is what it takes to get a man, then count me out. I can remain single and feel more fulfilled and happy.
Men and women are different, and Steve Harvey wants to tell you about it so you don't have to be a "strong, independent and lonely" woman forever. His pronouncements can be hard to swallow, but they totally jive with similar books by other authors. Deal with it, ladies. I listened to the audiobook, and it was well read and an enjoyable listen, both candid and humorous.
I thought the advice that Steve offered was quite real. I actually heard his voice in my head as I read his take on us and how we deal or should deal with relationships. I think his off the cuff tone helped make the advice easier to take.
While I thought there was a lot of useful information in the book and there was just as much male chauvinistic crap in there as well. However, if this is what it is this is what we have to deal with. It is just a reality. Now I can't tell you if I am better off for knowing the information but I will say as I read the book I discussed a few the in the book with my 26 year old brother and they do think like this. My brother thinks that the book is manipulative and full of theatrics. The game is to be told and not sold. However, he does have a best seller on hand.
Keep your head up.
Erika
While I thought there was a lot of useful information in the book and there was just as much male chauvinistic crap in there as well. However, if this is what it is this is what we have to deal with. It is just a reality. Now I can't tell you if I am better off for knowing the information but I will say as I read the book I discussed a few the in the book with my 26 year old brother and they do think like this. My brother thinks that the book is manipulative and full of theatrics. The game is to be told and not sold. However, he does have a best seller on hand.
Keep your head up.
Erika
My mom's been telling me to read this book for 5 years. I did. Hope you're happy mom i did this for you
informative
fast-paced
3.5 stars for me. I read this in sort of emotional state however it was a good read. I can see his points to relationships although there are somethings I don't agree with.
The writing was okay, nothing really impressive to write home about.
The writing was okay, nothing really impressive to write home about.
This is literally the best book I've read. I took so many notes. Girls, you have to read this! It's the cold-hard truth we don't wanna hear, but it teaches you all about the "game" and how not to end up the one at the bottom.
Some snippets from the book:
We men are very simple people: If we like what we see, we're coming over there. If we don't want anything from you, we're not coming over there. A man always wants something. Always. And when it comes to women, that plan is always to find out two things. 1) If you're willing to sleep with him, and 2) If you are, how much will it cost to get you to sleep with him. He doesn't care anything about your personality or what you do for a living, your friends mean nothing to him, and whether you know Jesus is irrelevant. He just wants to know if he might be able to sleep with you, and he's talking to you to determine exactly how much he has to invest to get what he wants...he's trying to see if your price is too high, if you're affordable, if he can get it on credit, whether he can get it tonight. If you tell him upfront you have requirements - that you need his time, his respect, his attention - then he knows you're expensive.
When you're not aware that all men have plans, you're not placing requirements on him, and if you're not setting any ground rules, then you're essentially telling him that you're open for his rules. You've established that you don't care how often he calls, when he comes by, how often you talk, and whether he opens the door.
Know that if a man isn't looking for a serious relationship, you're not going to change his mind just because you're going on dates and being intimate.
Wise up, my fellow sisters!
Let's stop being played.
Some snippets from the book:
We men are very simple people: If we like what we see, we're coming over there. If we don't want anything from you, we're not coming over there. A man always wants something. Always. And when it comes to women, that plan is always to find out two things. 1) If you're willing to sleep with him, and 2) If you are, how much will it cost to get you to sleep with him. He doesn't care anything about your personality or what you do for a living, your friends mean nothing to him, and whether you know Jesus is irrelevant. He just wants to know if he might be able to sleep with you, and he's talking to you to determine exactly how much he has to invest to get what he wants...he's trying to see if your price is too high, if you're affordable, if he can get it on credit, whether he can get it tonight. If you tell him upfront you have requirements - that you need his time, his respect, his attention - then he knows you're expensive.
When you're not aware that all men have plans, you're not placing requirements on him, and if you're not setting any ground rules, then you're essentially telling him that you're open for his rules. You've established that you don't care how often he calls, when he comes by, how often you talk, and whether he opens the door.
Know that if a man isn't looking for a serious relationship, you're not going to change his mind just because you're going on dates and being intimate.
Wise up, my fellow sisters!
Let's stop being played.
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
funny
inspiring
lighthearted
relaxing
medium-paced
This is an interesting book to read! I enjoyed reading it.