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Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals
Rachel Hollis
3.5 AVERAGE
1.18k reviews for:
Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals
Rachel Hollis
3.5 AVERAGE
challenging
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
I read this for the company book club. Book expired before I could finish
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
Girl, stop fat shaming! I wanted to like this book and the message. I am def not the target audience, but man the fat shaming and then turning around and saying every group/event/company needs plus size representation made me dizzy. I appreciate her honesty about her plastic surgery, other work she gets done, nanny, and team, but she doesn’t really give options for people that can’t afford those and/or don’t have a support system.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Child death, Fatphobia
While her style, her obsession with fake lashes and hair extensions and breast implants and all that hip hop or whatever music and pop culture references and obsession with celebrities and Hollywood and parties is not my cuppa tea, I didn't buy the book for the author so much as for the content (NYT best seller blah blah, I thought I'd give it a chance.) hoping for inspiration and motivation.
Except in this book, you get the author's personality to the last detail, to the last drop and drip, so beware, especially in the Audible version. And she is in-your-face, obnoxious, crude, contradicts herself (she says don't apologize, the title of the book but then she says something terrible and she's going on and on: "I'm sorry but .." ... "Y'all, I'm sorry" ... weird! OR she's mocking the people in the cafe for wasting time on Instagram while she is obviously watching them instead of doing her work so she can have a story to tell, what was the point of all that? ) and most of all, she steals so much content, she steals so many quotes and sometimes she bothers to re-package them, often not even, and there is not a single reference to any of the work to others.
I'm an Iranian-American ex-corporate entrepreneur woman and while I'm not a mom and could anticipate not relating to a ton of mom-stuff, I still wanted to learn from Rachel. And my god she can be inspiring alright. There were moments and sections where I was really drawn in, where she really had me thinking and re-thinking my choices and my habits and my attitude, and as a coach and self-made woman myself, I am big into all of this. She had a way of giving me a kick in the pants that I appreciated.
But then her stuff would get in there.
One thing that I can't stand is when people repeat themselves. OK we heard the full boob story in the book. In the bonus section of the audiobook, it's a section of her Rise Conference, and we have to hear it yet again but she's saying it almost as if she's drunk! It was nauseating. OK so you got fake boobs. Yes, some will judge you for it, but you're okay with that and some won't. Can we move on to more important topics so you can help empower us? Or .... ?
There was a lot of GREAT stuff in this book but she kept using other people's content. I am not an editor, but I'm surprised they did not catch her for flat out plagiarism and forget that, why could she not be more authentic or original or at least credit others? She would put a hip pop culture spin on it and use it as if it were her own.
A lot of the examples about empowering you are around fitness, getting in shape because it's so easy (sorry it isn't and I'm highly motivated and not even a mom!), drinking more water (I was a little offended by that one but I'm a health nut so!) and getting fake boobs or fake lashes or both. She mixes that up with other stories like hitting NYT best-seller list and omg she didn't make it and she looked like a failure in front of everyone but then later she did make it.
Sigh. I lost touch with her a lot and her narration can be so obnoxious but not as obnoxious as her act on the stage, BUT she has her moments of great original inspiration and great kick in the pants ideas (although her 10-10-1 made-up plan still doesn't make sense to me!).
Anyway, I'm really glad I read this book. I'm giving it a 3-star. She's obviously a successful woman and helps a lot of people. But I can only take so much of her. I'm not sure what your style is, and if today's loud obnoxious get-out-of-my-way oh-wait-I-need-your-help I-ll-do-whatever-I-want woman role model speaks to you, then read this book.
Except in this book, you get the author's personality to the last detail, to the last drop and drip, so beware, especially in the Audible version. And she is in-your-face, obnoxious, crude, contradicts herself (she says don't apologize, the title of the book but then she says something terrible and she's going on and on: "I'm sorry but .." ... "Y'all, I'm sorry" ... weird! OR she's mocking the people in the cafe for wasting time on Instagram while she is obviously watching them instead of doing her work so she can have a story to tell, what was the point of all that? ) and most of all, she steals so much content, she steals so many quotes and sometimes she bothers to re-package them, often not even, and there is not a single reference to any of the work to others.
I'm an Iranian-American ex-corporate entrepreneur woman and while I'm not a mom and could anticipate not relating to a ton of mom-stuff, I still wanted to learn from Rachel. And my god she can be inspiring alright. There were moments and sections where I was really drawn in, where she really had me thinking and re-thinking my choices and my habits and my attitude, and as a coach and self-made woman myself, I am big into all of this. She had a way of giving me a kick in the pants that I appreciated.
But then her stuff would get in there.
One thing that I can't stand is when people repeat themselves. OK we heard the full boob story in the book. In the bonus section of the audiobook, it's a section of her Rise Conference, and we have to hear it yet again but she's saying it almost as if she's drunk! It was nauseating. OK so you got fake boobs. Yes, some will judge you for it, but you're okay with that and some won't. Can we move on to more important topics so you can help empower us? Or .... ?
There was a lot of GREAT stuff in this book but she kept using other people's content. I am not an editor, but I'm surprised they did not catch her for flat out plagiarism and forget that, why could she not be more authentic or original or at least credit others? She would put a hip pop culture spin on it and use it as if it were her own.
A lot of the examples about empowering you are around fitness, getting in shape because it's so easy (sorry it isn't and I'm highly motivated and not even a mom!), drinking more water (I was a little offended by that one but I'm a health nut so!) and getting fake boobs or fake lashes or both. She mixes that up with other stories like hitting NYT best-seller list and omg she didn't make it and she looked like a failure in front of everyone but then later she did make it.
Sigh. I lost touch with her a lot and her narration can be so obnoxious but not as obnoxious as her act on the stage, BUT she has her moments of great original inspiration and great kick in the pants ideas (although her 10-10-1 made-up plan still doesn't make sense to me!).
Anyway, I'm really glad I read this book. I'm giving it a 3-star. She's obviously a successful woman and helps a lot of people. But I can only take so much of her. I'm not sure what your style is, and if today's loud obnoxious get-out-of-my-way oh-wait-I-need-your-help I-ll-do-whatever-I-want woman role model speaks to you, then read this book.
inspiring
lighthearted
medium-paced
slow-paced
Girl, Stop Apologizing was…interesting. If I am being completely honest with you, rather, teenager-ish? She uses a TON of Pop Culture references and another thing that I had an issue with was her added words in the book…little sayings here and there that easily could have been left out, but I can’t help but feel like she used those to get to a word count. Also…a book that starts with a Demi Lovato song, while cute, not lovable (at least for me)!
There were A LOT of positive, great, thought provoking things that I absolutely LOVED about this book. The 10-10-1 and 5 hours a week ideas were brilliant and I actually plan to use those, but the back and forth with body image, being a mom, etc. was extremely UNRELATABLE. Not to be a total downer, but social status and flaunting her money is HUGE for her – once again, not relatable for me. Please keep in mind I am someone who is driven by PASSION, not dollar signs, and I feel that is where I clink heads with her. I believe at times, especially in this book, she is completely driven by a paycheck.
Also...for those of you who have read this book, have you noticed quotes in it that you have heard before? THIS IS A MAJOR PROBLEM. She is taking other people’s INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY and slapping her label on it. That immediately turned me off. Some people she quoted, but most, she did not give credit to AT ALL. Apparently there is a HUGE thing on the internet about this.
Overall, I would not recommend this book to you all. There were some really positive things (just Google the ones I talked about above), but there were A LOT of negative ideas/comments/etc. that were pitched in this book. I have to admit, I will be hanging my hat of Rachel Hollis books from this point forward.
There were A LOT of positive, great, thought provoking things that I absolutely LOVED about this book. The 10-10-1 and 5 hours a week ideas were brilliant and I actually plan to use those, but the back and forth with body image, being a mom, etc. was extremely UNRELATABLE. Not to be a total downer, but social status and flaunting her money is HUGE for her – once again, not relatable for me. Please keep in mind I am someone who is driven by PASSION, not dollar signs, and I feel that is where I clink heads with her. I believe at times, especially in this book, she is completely driven by a paycheck.
Also...for those of you who have read this book, have you noticed quotes in it that you have heard before? THIS IS A MAJOR PROBLEM. She is taking other people’s INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY and slapping her label on it. That immediately turned me off. Some people she quoted, but most, she did not give credit to AT ALL. Apparently there is a HUGE thing on the internet about this.
Overall, I would not recommend this book to you all. There were some really positive things (just Google the ones I talked about above), but there were A LOT of negative ideas/comments/etc. that were pitched in this book. I have to admit, I will be hanging my hat of Rachel Hollis books from this point forward.