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Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals
Rachel Hollis
3.5 AVERAGE
1.18k reviews for:
Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals
Rachel Hollis
3.5 AVERAGE
hopeful
inspiring
medium-paced
There wasn't inherently anything wrong with this book or the information Hollis was providing. I would recommend to mom's who balance a lot (so all mom's) and people who are fans of Rachel's Hollis' work already. It just wasn't for me at this time.
Just as good as the first book. Inspiring and motivational!
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
This book is great if you have big goals and want motivation to keep up with them. However, when I read it I was struggling mentally and it made me feel even more lost. Looking back now, I think it has a lot of toxic positivity and doesn't realistically address the struggles people can go through (although she tries to be seen as a mental health professional of sorts).
I liked this better than Girl, Wash Your Face. I feel like she has grown and it shows in her writing. Once again I appreciate her bold honesty about some difficult topics. Much of the advice doesn't apply to me because I am not a mom and don't deal with 'mommy guilt.' The advice that did apply though was helpful and similar to the tone of GWYF.
Overall a quick, decent read especially if you are a woman trying to make your own way in the world professionally and I imagine very helpful to working moms.
Overall a quick, decent read especially if you are a woman trying to make your own way in the world professionally and I imagine very helpful to working moms.
This book was a 10 out of 10 for me. It completely changed my mind and my perspective on a lot of things would definitely recommend if you’re in the self-care and self out books.
I was not as impressed with this book as I expected to be. I had to keep in mind that she wrote it in 2019, which was before the pandemic, but I already knew and learned most of what she talked about and I’m only 30 years old.
I think this book is targeted towards older women or married moms that don’t have a lot of self-esteem or don’t know how to get started with a business or chasing a dream. I like the hype she has while explaining her own success and how she overcame her own critical thoughts, but it did not motivate me or push me to do anything different than I’m already doing.
Disappointed & would not recommend.
I think this book is targeted towards older women or married moms that don’t have a lot of self-esteem or don’t know how to get started with a business or chasing a dream. I like the hype she has while explaining her own success and how she overcame her own critical thoughts, but it did not motivate me or push me to do anything different than I’m already doing.
Disappointed & would not recommend.
I enjoy these books. Small bits of take away, implementable, info. And it's funny too.
All in all, not bad. I think I would have enjoyed this more had I not read it immediately after her other book, Girl, Wash Your Face. One after the other ended up being a bit much in terms of her voice, style, and, let's be honest, seemingly incessant tooting of her own horn. I get that that bit may have been necessary to give some context to some of the things she was saying, but seriously, we get it. You built a media empire. You fly first class. You have a full time housekeeper. YOU.ARE.AMAZING. So that got annoying after a while.
That said, some of the advice in the book was quite good, and there were a few sections with some words that really spoke to me. (Side note: I also felt like a lot of the advice and phrases were really common ideas that I've heard over and over. For example, can't remember if it was in this book or the other, but she included some version of the 'don't compare your middle to someone else's end' trope. It's not that I don't agree with the sentiment, but it just felt like sometimes she was just repeating some clichés.)
I did not work along with the book, meaning, when she talked through the 10:10:1 process for figuring out your dreams and establishing goals and mile markers, I did not do that process. But, I definitely had a dream in mind and it's something I'd like to do at some point. Of course, the fact that I wasn't revved up to do it immediately and on the spot makes me wonder how committed I am to that dream. Maybe the book wasn't quite enough for me to get off my butt and start working toward that dream. Hmm....
Looking forward to hearing what the rest of the book club thinks about this one.
"You are enough. Today. As you are. Stop beating yourself up for being on the beginning side of yet, no matter what age you are. Yet is your potential. Yet is a promise. Yet is what keeps you moving forward. Yet is a gift, and you are enough to get to the other side of it." (36)
"When a man wants to push himself in his career, his fitness, his faith, his education, or anything else, this is considered an asset. We want those kinds of people leading our businesses, our churches, or our governments. Ambitious people work to learn more, do more, grow more, and typically they create opportunities for the people around them to do the same. But that's not okay for a woman? What if she's not yet married? What if she's a single mom? Is it okay for her to try hard then, at least until she's got a man to take care of her? I hope you read the sarcasm in that last sentence, because the very idea makes my head want to explode!
We need to get past the idea that certain rules only apply to certain people at particular life stages. If it's not true for all of us, it shouldn't be true for any of us." (109)
In the chapter on confidence and judging other women:
"Your insecurity makes it so that anyone who is doing it differently than you is an indictment on all the ways you're not measuring up." (175)
"Just because you used to be a certain way doesn't mean you have to stay that way. Just because you feel insecure doesn't mean you can't make a change. If you don't like the way you look, if you don't love your personal style, then figure it out! Make an investment! And don't let anyone make you feel guilty about it." (175)
"This moment bidding my first Sundance job is always the best example I have to give when someone asks me about the idea of 'fake it 'til you make it.' I hate that phrase, because it implies you've got nothing else to back it up. There's a big difference between faking something that you have no idea how to do and having the confidence to step into a role that you don't have full training for yet.
There's a study that shows that when a man is considering a new job, he will apply for a position he feels he's at least 60 percent qualified for. His confidence tells him that he'll make up the other 40 percent by learning as he goes. By contrast, the same study shows that the average woman feels that she must be 100 percent qualified to apply for anything." (177)
"It means that you're going to have to lead your team with the wisdom and determination of a great coach instead of the blind acceptance of a great cheerleader." (208-209)
This was about doing hard things. I liked this quote because it made me think of being a teacher, and how that should be more like being a coach than a cheerleader. (Totally unrelated to the theme of the book, I know.) Yes, we should support and encourage our students, but sometimes I think that our students think that this is all we should do. But a good coach does not just tell an athlete that they are awesome and amazing and keep doing what you're doing. A good coach helps their athlete improve by making them do hard things, things that hurt, and things that don't come easily to them. And that's what makes the athlete (student) better.
That said, some of the advice in the book was quite good, and there were a few sections with some words that really spoke to me. (Side note: I also felt like a lot of the advice and phrases were really common ideas that I've heard over and over. For example, can't remember if it was in this book or the other, but she included some version of the 'don't compare your middle to someone else's end' trope. It's not that I don't agree with the sentiment, but it just felt like sometimes she was just repeating some clichés.)
I did not work along with the book, meaning, when she talked through the 10:10:1 process for figuring out your dreams and establishing goals and mile markers, I did not do that process. But, I definitely had a dream in mind and it's something I'd like to do at some point. Of course, the fact that I wasn't revved up to do it immediately and on the spot makes me wonder how committed I am to that dream. Maybe the book wasn't quite enough for me to get off my butt and start working toward that dream. Hmm....
Looking forward to hearing what the rest of the book club thinks about this one.
"You are enough. Today. As you are. Stop beating yourself up for being on the beginning side of yet, no matter what age you are. Yet is your potential. Yet is a promise. Yet is what keeps you moving forward. Yet is a gift, and you are enough to get to the other side of it." (36)
"When a man wants to push himself in his career, his fitness, his faith, his education, or anything else, this is considered an asset. We want those kinds of people leading our businesses, our churches, or our governments. Ambitious people work to learn more, do more, grow more, and typically they create opportunities for the people around them to do the same. But that's not okay for a woman? What if she's not yet married? What if she's a single mom? Is it okay for her to try hard then, at least until she's got a man to take care of her? I hope you read the sarcasm in that last sentence, because the very idea makes my head want to explode!
We need to get past the idea that certain rules only apply to certain people at particular life stages. If it's not true for all of us, it shouldn't be true for any of us." (109)
In the chapter on confidence and judging other women:
"Your insecurity makes it so that anyone who is doing it differently than you is an indictment on all the ways you're not measuring up." (175)
"Just because you used to be a certain way doesn't mean you have to stay that way. Just because you feel insecure doesn't mean you can't make a change. If you don't like the way you look, if you don't love your personal style, then figure it out! Make an investment! And don't let anyone make you feel guilty about it." (175)
"This moment bidding my first Sundance job is always the best example I have to give when someone asks me about the idea of 'fake it 'til you make it.' I hate that phrase, because it implies you've got nothing else to back it up. There's a big difference between faking something that you have no idea how to do and having the confidence to step into a role that you don't have full training for yet.
There's a study that shows that when a man is considering a new job, he will apply for a position he feels he's at least 60 percent qualified for. His confidence tells him that he'll make up the other 40 percent by learning as he goes. By contrast, the same study shows that the average woman feels that she must be 100 percent qualified to apply for anything." (177)
"It means that you're going to have to lead your team with the wisdom and determination of a great coach instead of the blind acceptance of a great cheerleader." (208-209)
This was about doing hard things. I liked this quote because it made me think of being a teacher, and how that should be more like being a coach than a cheerleader. (Totally unrelated to the theme of the book, I know.) Yes, we should support and encourage our students, but sometimes I think that our students think that this is all we should do. But a good coach does not just tell an athlete that they are awesome and amazing and keep doing what you're doing. A good coach helps their athlete improve by making them do hard things, things that hurt, and things that don't come easily to them. And that's what makes the athlete (student) better.