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I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver

22 reviews

batbaby's review against another edition

emotional hopeful inspiring reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment, Deadnaming, Transphobia, and Emotional abuse

Moderate: Eating disorder, Deadnaming, Abandonment, Outing, Domestic abuse, and Dysphoria

amuta's review against another edition

emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Ich konnte das Buch nicht aus der Hand legen. 
Das Thema als solches ist für mich auch sehr interessant, schließlich bin ich auch nichtbinär. 

Nun die deutsche Übersetzung ist wundervoll. Ich würde es gerna auch auf Englisch lesen, um herauszufinden welche Pronomen dort genutzt worden sind.
In der deutschen Übersetzung wurde durchgehend gegendered und sehr darauf geachtet auch das Spektrum an Nichtbinärität zu zeigen (in dem Ben keine Pronomen und Mariam die Pronomen dey/deren verwendet hat). 

Ich kann es wirklich nur jedem weiter empfehlen. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Homophobia, Mental illness, and Panic attacks/disorders

Moderate: Emotional abuse

Minor: Domestic abuse

xarson's review against another edition

challenging emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted reflective fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Transphobia, Panic attacks/disorders, Emotional abuse, Dysphoria, Religious bigotry, Mental illness, Abandonment, Domestic abuse, Violence, Homophobia, and Bullying

Moderate: Alcohol

Minor: Pregnancy and Islamophobia

raquelrose's review against another edition

emotional hopeful sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? N/A

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Panic attacks/disorders, Transphobia, Mental illness, Alcohol, Homophobia, Cursing, and Dysphoria

Moderate: Emotional abuse

Minor: Physical abuse, Child abuse, Misogyny, Domestic abuse, Religious bigotry, and Suicidal thoughts

martapsalvado's review against another edition

emotional hopeful medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

Sometimes I ponderate if I'm losing interest in the young adult genre but I'm clearly not because books like this still exist.
This story is so important, I learned a lot and it kept me involved and eager to read. I really like the characters, found them very well-written and loved that it focuses on family and friendship almost or just as much as romantic love.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Homophobia, and Domestic abuse

Minor: Alcohol

Misgendering

doti123's review against another edition

adventurous emotional hopeful reflective relaxing fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

I really liked it even though not much really happens

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Transphobia and Panic attacks/disorders

Moderate: Domestic abuse and Alcohol

Minor: Abortion and Bullying

kai_okay's review against another edition

emotional hopeful inspiring medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Panic attacks/disorders, Mental illness, and Transphobia

Moderate: Religious bigotry

Minor: Eating disorder and Domestic abuse

jem_carstairs's review against another edition

emotional funny hopeful fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Transphobia

Moderate: Mental illness

Minor: Domestic abuse and Homophobia

jodierose14's review against another edition

emotional funny hopeful reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Abandonment, Gaslighting, Homophobia, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, and Transphobia

emily_mh's review against another edition

emotional hopeful slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.25

I don't know how to rate and review this, but here goes. The mental health rep here was handled really well. It portrayed anxiety and depression realistically; meds didn't work perfectly, Ben initially had an aversion to both therapy and medication, and their recovery wasn't linear. I also thought the nuance that Deaver brought to Ben and Hannah's relationship was good. I appreciated that they showed how Hannah wasn't necessarily in the wrong, but Ben could still be hurt by her actions. There wasn't much plot, but I still enjoyed reading it because it was super cathartic seeing Ben start to heal. I think they come a long way by the end of the book. 

On the other hand, I think some other rep and information was not done well. For example, I really wish Nathan had been fleshed out as a character. It kind of felt like Deaver took the stereotypical "golden retriever" LI archetype and left it at that, giving him no motivations or desires unrelated to Ben. While it was obvious Ben and Nathan had a connection, one I was rooting for, it still felt like I barely knew Nathan. This is the book's biggest issue, because I think it is an example of the situation that readers and reviewers of the global majority have been pointing out for ages, where white authors write a LI of the global majority whose only purpose in the book is to assist the white MC in their development. If I am wrong here or out of my lane, I will fully delete this review. I wanted to flag it in case I wasn't.

On top of this, the book presents some misinformation about being gay, ace, and aro. It implies that a nonbinary person like Ben cannot be gay because being gay is about being attracted to the same gender, and as Ben doesn't have a gender, they cannot experience same-gender attraction. In reality, being gay is simply about non-women being attracted to non-women. This is the quote I am referring to:

"And besides, I don’t exactly have a gender, and being gay implies being interested in the same gender."

It also implies that to be ace or aro is to be touch averse, when only some aces and aros are touch averse - it's this very piece of misinformation that means so many aces and aros don't realise they are asexual or aromantic for ages. Literally a simple "some" in this sentence would have fixed this misinformation: 

“'Touch aversion can be common in people who deal with panic attacks, or people dealing with anxiety. In fact, there are some people who are just born or develop that way, like asexual or aromantic people.'”

So, yeah. Do with this what you will.

Rep: bisexual NB MC, bisexual LI of the global majority (ethnicity not explicitly stated), Bahraini Shia Muslim pansexual NB SC, Chinese-American SC, SC of the global majority (Ben's therapist Dr. Taylor, whose ethnicity is also not explicitly stated), Black SC (implied, ethnicity not explicitly stated), Korean-American SC with ADHD

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, and Transphobia

Moderate: Abandonment and Cursing

Minor: Ableism, Alcohol, Death, Physical abuse, Drug use, Medical content, Misogyny, Outing, Pregnancy, Sexual content, Domestic abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Islamophobia, Sexual assault, Homophobia, Suicidal thoughts, and Vomit

Major: disownment, misgendering (mostly uninformed as Ben isn't out to most people) Moderate: body dysmorphia Minor: one implied use of the transphobic t-slur, suicidal ideation, off-page use of the homophobic f-slur, 1 HP reference, menstruation