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3.36 AVERAGE
3.36 AVERAGE
skimmed this one, basically a call to women to look beyond the superficial and realize the imperfections in all humans and human relationships
Brutal. Excellent. Highly Recommended. The audio is great!
fast-paced
Crazy how time flies
This book feels really weird in 2024. While it makes some great points, it's quite repetitive and made my brows shoot up way more than once with some ideas and wording. The author absolutely doesn't consider the fact that people might be content being single, like, at all. The whole book is heteronormative to an extreme (probably should've expected this) and very middle-class-American. Everyone in it is a lawyer, a dentist, a surgeon, a writer - and even real estate agents aren't considered "intellectual" enough.
What I also found quite funny was that it criticizes SATC for some things like "girlbossing" of Samantha while falling into the same trap as SATC did. People's stories in this book feel like an episode of SATC, but make it "marriage" instead. I am not sure I can properly express it, but it was pretty cringey.
Also genuinely terrifying that there are people who think the way it is described in this book. Terrifying.
This book feels really weird in 2024. While it makes some great points, it's quite repetitive and made my brows shoot up way more than once with some ideas and wording. The author absolutely doesn't consider the fact that people might be content being single, like, at all. The whole book is heteronormative to an extreme (probably should've expected this) and very middle-class-American. Everyone in it is a lawyer, a dentist, a surgeon, a writer - and even real estate agents aren't considered "intellectual" enough.
What I also found quite funny was that it criticizes SATC for some things like "girlbossing" of Samantha while falling into the same trap as SATC did. People's stories in this book feel like an episode of SATC, but make it "marriage" instead. I am not sure I can properly express it, but it was pretty cringey.
Also genuinely terrifying that there are people who think the way it is described in this book. Terrifying.
An entertaining take on how to solve the same women-centric dating problems often touched on in /r/relationshipadvice, /r/askwomen and (especially) /r/femaledatingstrategy, but with an opposite perspective on how to approach them. The book's publication well predates these subreddits, but if one were to translate into contemporary terms, the author has at the age of 41 started to veer away from those mainstream subs and gone straight into /r/redpillwomen territory. Gasp!
Writing in the pre-social media era, she is able to get away with her hot takes and avoid getting into the quagmire of these online crossfires she is effectively quoting into.
An entertaining read overall, though one I DNF for no fault with the book itself. I've just filled my day's quota on delving into how various people worry about what they do or don't want in various particulars of their lives and how they feel about it. But the book is perfect for another mood.
Writing in the pre-social media era, she is able to get away with her hot takes and avoid getting into the quagmire of these online crossfires she is effectively quoting into.
An entertaining read overall, though one I DNF for no fault with the book itself. I've just filled my day's quota on delving into how various people worry about what they do or don't want in various particulars of their lives and how they feel about it. But the book is perfect for another mood.
A piece of me read this to assert my feminist ideals. My initial reaction at this book was, "how dare someone tell me to settle." And yes, I was a little angry at being told I needed to "settle".
After I got through the first quarter of the book and more into the reasoning behind the author's "case", I actually found myself reassessing my own views of relationships and the "perfect man". The book gave me some perspective into what I need in a relationship and inspired me to be a little more realistic in regards to online dating/dating in general. So much so that I took down "the list" and replaced them with what's important to me.
I wouldn't say this is the best book but it was helpful in reevaluating my perspective and getting rid of the Disney-fantasy that my knight in shining armor will be perfect. I'm willing to "settle" for a partner, someone decent, kind and understanding...even if they wear funny shoes or have a weird quirk. Because after all, I have quirks as well!
After I got through the first quarter of the book and more into the reasoning behind the author's "case", I actually found myself reassessing my own views of relationships and the "perfect man". The book gave me some perspective into what I need in a relationship and inspired me to be a little more realistic in regards to online dating/dating in general. So much so that I took down "the list" and replaced them with what's important to me.
I wouldn't say this is the best book but it was helpful in reevaluating my perspective and getting rid of the Disney-fantasy that my knight in shining armor will be perfect. I'm willing to "settle" for a partner, someone decent, kind and understanding...even if they wear funny shoes or have a weird quirk. Because after all, I have quirks as well!
I don’t agree with everything the author said as it came across as a bit extreme, but it is an eye opening perspective on dating and what we “should” really be looking for if the goal is a happy marriage. As a chronically single female, I’m taking a few things to heart.
I think the book should be called “The Case for Compromising With Mr Good Enough” because settling is such a sad idea. Compromising feels like you’re actively pursuing a happy relationship and what you want.
I originally left a quite negative review. But something bugged me and I went back to finish the book. And it changed my opinion, hence rewriting this review.
May seem a little too early for a 25-year-old to worry about this but like anti-aging starts early, I started to read it because I was like numerous women in this book so bothered by the things my boyfriend does that I didn’t like. And I decided to read the book to justify my “settling.” And no, marriage isn’t on the horizons anytime soon and to be fair it could or could not be him I will marry. But rather, I hate how unhappy I was all the time even when there was nothing to be unhappy about. We would be having a good time but my own thoughts would ruin it for me most of the time and us sometimes.
And this book has removed a good amount of knots in my mind about being in a relationship with someone. It definitely humbled me. I’ve liked the writing style of Lori and truly enjoyed this book as well by her.
May seem a little too early for a 25-year-old to worry about this but like anti-aging starts early, I started to read it because I was like numerous women in this book so bothered by the things my boyfriend does that I didn’t like. And I decided to read the book to justify my “settling.” And no, marriage isn’t on the horizons anytime soon and to be fair it could or could not be him I will marry. But rather, I hate how unhappy I was all the time even when there was nothing to be unhappy about. We would be having a good time but my own thoughts would ruin it for me most of the time and us sometimes.
And this book has removed a good amount of knots in my mind about being in a relationship with someone. It definitely humbled me. I’ve liked the writing style of Lori and truly enjoyed this book as well by her.