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124 reviews for:
1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting
Thomas W. Phelan
3.7 AVERAGE
124 reviews for:
1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting
Thomas W. Phelan
3.7 AVERAGE
More thoughts on it later, when I'm not rushing out the door.
The section on controlling obnoxious behavior makes sense, and I agreed with the foundational principles (that disciplining children is necessary, that liking your children is important, and that being good parents means you will have to “frustrate” your children by saying no, etc.)
But there are some things I question: are longer time-outs/break times necessary or any more effective than shorter time-outs? Does this method actually work well for older children?
I was disappointed in the second section on encouraging “start behaviors.” The suggestions seem like they are better suited to children past the toddler age, and I’d been hoping for better ideas.
Phelan tells parents not to talk or express emotion while disciplining. While I was very familiar with the “no emotion” rule, the no talking one was fairly new to me, so that was the area where I learned the most.
I started this on kindle and finished with a library loan.
But there are some things I question: are longer time-outs/break times necessary or any more effective than shorter time-outs? Does this method actually work well for older children?
I was disappointed in the second section on encouraging “start behaviors.” The suggestions seem like they are better suited to children past the toddler age, and I’d been hoping for better ideas.
Phelan tells parents not to talk or express emotion while disciplining. While I was very familiar with the “no emotion” rule, the no talking one was fairly new to me, so that was the area where I learned the most.
I started this on kindle and finished with a library loan.
so I've watched the movie. the theory behind this 'regiment' didn't help with my children then. But I figured it I read the book maybe I'd figure out what I've missed using this 'regiment' well so far nope.
My mom says it didn't help with us kids and so far it's not helping any with my 3 and 4 year olds.
My mom says it didn't help with us kids and so far it's not helping any with my 3 and 4 year olds.
Not the right system for us, but glad I read it. Some good ideas and points, and I would recommend it to others.
I thought this book did a good job explaining how to handle “stop” behavior and “start” behavior. I will definitely be implementing a lot that I learned from this book.
Maybe 2.5 stars but I am rounding up. This guy makes it all sound so simple. It was a good reminder that unless something needs an explanation - kids don't respond well to "talking it through" and it isn't something my small children are really equipped to handle right now. That being said, this book has been recommended by a lot of parents and there are some decent thoughts in it - but this definitely isn't going to be my first and only approach to disciplining and parenting my children.
informative
medium-paced
A quick and easy read, though I only found the techniques worked about a quarter of the time on my twins.
I will give this a 4.5 star for the actual discipline system. We’ve been using it and it’s made a big difference in our house. However I would give it a way lower rating for how the book is written. A lot of it is fluff and it’s just not that enjoyable to read. But the system works. So if you need a strategy to discipline calmly and consistently, definitely read this.
Counting obnoxious behavior. Never got the second half of the book, which was increasing good behavior.