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Be Not Afraid of Love: Lessons on Fear, Intimacy, and Connection by Mimi Zhu
15 reviews
k_a_i's review against another edition
3.0
Graphic: Physical abuse, Rape, Stalking, Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, and Toxic relationship
siebensommer's review against another edition
4.5
i refuse to believe that we are doomed, because our collective anxiety shows that we care. i refuse to succumb to despair, because our worry shows me that we longer wish to be controlled.
Graphic: Rape, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Racism, Xenophobia, and Physical abuse
Minor: Ableism, Transphobia, and Homophobia
kostopoulos2000's review
3.75
Graphic: Rape, Domestic abuse, Abandonment, Physical abuse, and Sexual assault
strangerfig's review
5.0
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Physical abuse, and Rape
essie__reads's review against another edition
5.0
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I honestly feel like I need to reread this in physical format to really digest and unpack everything she touches on! I listened to the audio, and her voice was extremely soothing, which I loved. I also loved that she takes a few deep breaths at the end of each chapter (not gonna lie, I started taking them with her and it was very calming).
The author mentions frequently her ex, referred to as "X", and describes the evolution of their toxic relationship and his emotional, physical, and sexual abuse towards her. So please be aware of content warnings because this can be heavy content! She also acknowledges her privileges and touches on the ways abused women in society, including disabled and trans women of color, often have less resources available to aid them in escaping abusers and aid them through their healing. She also touched on how abuse can be cyclical, making it difficult for the victims to leave those toxic relationships, and how abusers were often abused themselves too (although noting that is not an excuse to continue these harmful and generational cycles).
There was seriously so much touched on throughout this- because healing from abuse and learning to love oneself again requires so much emotional and spiritual growth. She touches on grief, anger, fears, feelings of being labled a victim, society's pressure for victims, generational trauma, diaspora, self love, forgiveness, religion, non-Western techniques/therapies for healing emotionally and spiritually, ptsd, community/friendship, abolitionism and it's lasting effects, the prison systems, allyship, etc. And breaks down all the nuances and connections between these experiences/ideas/emotions. All of this is done through the lense of her own experiences as a queer Chinese-Australian person, too.
I definitely recommend this to anyone with generational trauma- even if your trauma is not identical to the author's, there is still so much that can be learned and applied to your own experiences. I personally, really enjoyed her thoughts on anxiety, grief, anger. Honestly there wasn't a chapter of this book that I didn't find meaningful and impactful. I will likely be thinking of her words for a while to come.
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Domestic abuse, Violence, Emotional abuse, and Sexual violence
Moderate: Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Rape, Racial slurs, Physical abuse, and Drug use
Minor: Grief and Panic attacks/disorders
cass_lit's review against another edition
Graphic: Rape, Physical abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Sexual violence
afropxks's review
5.0
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Xenophobia, Panic attacks/disorders, Stalking, and Racism
kamitsukasero's review
Moderate: Physical abuse, Domestic abuse, and Rape
abbeythomsen's review
4.0
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, and Domestic abuse
Moderate: Rape, Colonisation, Grief, and Sexual assault
decaying's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Grief, and Emotional abuse
Moderate: Misogyny, Racism, Rape, and Colonisation
Minor: Classism