3.77 AVERAGE

challenging dark emotional funny reflective sad medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

This book created a real conundrum for me—especially with Goodreads' rating system.

I can’t give it a 2, because I enjoyed it more than the books I’ve rated that low. But I also can’t in good conscience give it a 3, because there is no way this book deserves that.

First, the oversexualization of women in this book is astounding. Not a single page goes by without the narrator making a remark about a woman’s body—even teenagers—described in gratuitous, provocative detail. At first, I thought it might serve a narrative purpose. But it doesn't. It adds nothing to the story.

Then there’s a scene where Alice forces the narrator to have sex with her—even after he says no. That’s rape. Plain and simple. But the book treats it like it’s no big deal—because it happened to a man, I guess? It’s deeply unsettling and completely unnecessary to the plot. Maybe 2003 was just a different time, but that’s not an excuse.

The characters are painfully cliched:

  • The big, angry brother who never lived up to his potential and hates his life.
  • The older sister who’s cheating on her absent, workaholic husband.
  • The reckless, immature younger brother—the black sheep of the family.

Every character is one-dimensional and unlikable, with no redeeming qualities. It’s hard to care about any of them.

Also, this is the second book by Tropper I’ve read where the main character’s wife has an affair. Is this a recurring theme for him? A writing crutch? A fetish? I don’t know, but it’s tired and repetitive.

Ultimately, this book left a bad taste in my mouth. I didn’t hate every moment of reading it, but it’s hard to ignore just how many things are wrong with it.

Rating: Somewhere between a 2 and a 3. Uncomfortably floating in the void.

emotional funny hopeful reflective medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

okay read. i did have to push myself to finish the audiobook... some casual misogyny, the humor was a hit or miss, a whole lot of adultery and a bunch of emotionally repressed men acting stupid. not much emotional depth and i wasn't at all connected to the characters. still i wasn't having an awful time so there's that. 

I liked this book more at the beginning than the end. It just felt like it didn't really go anywhere. I also started to dislike all the characters as I got to know them better. Overall, it was a quick, interesting read, but not my favorite. I am interested to see the movie when it comes out, though, because I think the actors might make it funny.

A quick easy read, that makes you feel good about your own family craziness.

How can a book about a woman, her four grown children and their rag tag collection of spouses, exes, lovers and children sitting shiva for her dead husband? It just is. The banter between the siblings that hides their inability to connect emotionally feels like so many families I know. The wit intricately woven with knowing everything about each other. Thanks Andrea Blakesberg!

Jonathan Tropper's novel features a highly dysfunctional family that is forced to spend quality time together when the patriarch's dying wish is that the family sit Shiva. The story is frequently laugh out loud funny, but Tropper pushes the premise and the gags a little too hard. Recommended for a reader looking for a (slightly raunchy) laugh and a farcical depiction of contemporary NY Jewish life.

A good beach book. I finished it in a few days. Books written in present tense usually bother me, but I didn't even notice until halfway through.
emotional funny medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

Read this after watching the film and hoping for some deeper cuts on Horry and Wendy. Some how they are worse in the book?! 

But generally pretty funny and I still stand by this family having the most confusing interelational web ever.