198 reviews for:

At 30, I Realized I Had No Gender: Life Lessons from a 50-Year-Old After Two Decades of Self-Discovery

Shou Arai

3.35 AVERAGE

guadaloop's review against another edition

DID NOT FINISH: 18%

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Couldn’t get into it particularly with all the crap about muscle to body fat percentage and body talk in general.

stoneseraph's review against another edition

2.0

informative lighthearted slow-paced

bewithoutcontext's review against another edition

4.25

emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted reflective relaxing fast-paced

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So affirming of the experience of trying to figure out gender!! Relatable and also unique to the authors experience! 

jaximushpark's review against another edition

4.0

hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

dkreading's review against another edition

5.0

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I thought this was really interesting. The preface for the manga explains some of the ways sexuality and gender are talked about differently in Japan, which helped me better understand some of the topics covered in the manga. Mostly, as a nonbinary person who is 35, I liked reading about the experiences of someone who is 50 with a gender identity outside the binary. The author's younger partner is featured throughout, and I liked getting his POV too. Overall, I liked the perspective, hearing about other peoples' experiences, and relating to some of the topics (especially about gender presentation, transitioning, etc). Also, the tip about visiting a private hot springs is much appreciated! I went to Japan in 2016 and was too nervous to go to any public baths (which to use? and I have tattoos!). Really, it made me think a lot about my experiences in Japan - like when the airport worker thought I was my friend's son! (we're the same age lol) - and kind of reevaluate things. FYI, I totally want to go back to Japan and this time keep what I've learned in this manga in mind.

thereadingfish's review

3.5

funny informative inspiring fast-paced

auberginebear's review

5.0

emotional funny informative medium-paced

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As a trans man in the USA, I am very interested in learning about the history and culture of trans and Intersex people around the world. This book helps do that for Japan, at least some, and in a grounded, humorous way.

ladypageling's review against another edition

funny informative reflective slow-paced

basicallykaitie's review

informative reflective medium-paced

sonofachipwich's review against another edition

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A light, fun look at aspects of Japanese LGBTQ life, but also not really the memoir I thought it would be by the title.