Ooooooooof. This book was heavy and intense and amazing. The stories Brene Brown uses to show us what the wilderness looks like, what collective joy looks like, what collective pain looks like, and why all of this is critically important are masterful and diverse. Strong back, soft front, wild heart indeed.
hopeful informative inspiring medium-paced
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This was a wonderful and easy listen - the audiobook is read by the author, is something I prefer. There were parts of the book that I wish I'd had the hard copy for, but her website contains so many resources, that I was easily able to find what I was interested in seeing in print.

I was expecting something very different from this book. Clearly I hadn’t done my due diligence in exploring what it was about.

Regardless, I read it anyway and in the end, it just felt noisy. It felt like a noisy call for more noise in a world that could really use some silence.

I felt like I needed a breath of REALLY fresh air and just quietness once I finished it.
hopeful inspiring reflective medium-paced

Brene Brown is a gifted storyteller. Somewhere in the middle of the book though, I decided this was my least favorite Brene Brown read. I felt a little put off by a message I was receiving which was something to the effect of “connection is so important to our soul that politics shouldn’t get in the way of that”. That message doesn’t sit well with me because there is so much dehumanization playing out in politics that it’s offensive to hear messages like those.

Towards the end of the book, however, I decided the message really is you have to do the right thing even if you get criticism for it. You have to live with integrity and commit to a more equitable world - even if it means standing alone. Get comfortable with yourself. Thinking of it in this way made me like it again.




This book is slight under 200 pages category, and references things that happened only months ago, which is slightly jarring because it is so timely/topical. I appreciate that Brown didn't make it longer than it needed to be and timing couldn't be better for a book on true connection with self and community. Also she quotes John O'Donohue, whom I consider my patron saint, so yes, I loved this book. I cried a good deal while reading the second to last chapter, and came away understanding better why our family, which is so frugal in other areas, spends money on live music and cultural events, and keeps trying to find a church that doesn't make us crazy, even though we don't want any dogma.

I shared this quote with my son, who is politically engaged and often openly hostile to the opposition, and his reaction was so strong, he had to share it at school the next day:

“Here’s what I believe: 1. If you are offended or hurt when you hear Hillary Clinton or Maxine Waters called bitch, whore, or the c-word, you should be equally offended and hurt when you hear those same words used to describe Ivanka Trump, Kellyanne Conway, or Theresa May. 2. If you felt belittled when Hillary Clinton called Trump supporters “a basket of deplorables” then you should have felt equally concerned when Eric Trump said “Democrats aren’t even human.” 3. When the president of the United States calls women dogs or talks about grabbing pussy, we should get chills down our spine and resistance flowing through our veins. When people call the president of the United States a pig, we should reject that language regardless of our politics and demand discourse that doesn’t make people subhuman. 4. When we hear people referred to as animals or aliens, we should immediately wonder, “Is this an attempt to reduce someone’s humanity so we can get away with hurting them or denying them basic human rights?” 5. If you’re offended by a meme of Trump Photoshopped to look like Hitler, then you shouldn’t have Obama Photoshopped to look like the Joker on your Facebook feed. There is a line. It’s etched from dignity. And raging, fearful people from the right and left are crossing it at unprecedented rates every single day. We must never tolerate dehumanization—the primary instrument of violence that has been used in every genocide recorded throughout history.”

just very… how to say… bland. i flew through the first 100 or so pages and rlly slacked towards the second half. it just got repetitive! this story would be better shared as a ten minute ted talk in my opinion :/

Not Brené’s best book. A lot of personal philosophy that I do not agree with and I don’t necessarily feel is backed up by her research.

Would recommend Daring Greatly instead and specifically Dare to Lead to everyone in managerial/supervisor positions, especially women.