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3.85 AVERAGE
3.85 AVERAGE
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One of the single best books I’ve ever read. This book should be required reading for anyone and everyone. Such an enlightening perspective on relations with people, and how to communicate. There are many points in the book where you think ‘but that’s obvious!’ and yet Dale Carnegie will say something that makes you think about it in a new way.
Such a powerful tool to have in your pocket.
Such a powerful tool to have in your pocket.
I think one could come very close to achieving the full value by reading the Cole’s notes. But it’s fun the read the “old timey” lexicon and stories.
This is a book full of wisdom and a book you can understand better if you have made enough mistakes while dealing with people.
The most important truth: Our human beings are craving for and desperately need the feeling of importance.
If you want to improve relationship with other people:
- Be interested in the other people
- Remembering their names
- Remembering their birthday
- Be thoughtful other people, willing to spend time to do things for other people
- Giving them they really want
- Be a good listener, encourage them to talk about themselves. People won’t listen to you while they’re still have a lot of ideas to get out.
- Ask questions the other people can and will enjoy answering.
- Be sympathetic, try to understand the other people.
- Avoid to embarrass your friends by making them feel inferior.
If you want to motivate the other people to do the things you want them to do:
- Don’t talk about what you want; tell them this is useful to them.
- Always make the other people happy about doing the things you suggest.
- Give suggestions instead of orders, let the other people think it’s their own choice.
- Letting the other people feel that the idea is his or hers.
- Give them a fine reputation to live up to. People want challenges, want to excel, to win.
If you want to criticize the other people:
- Do not discourage the other people by criticizing them. Praise them. “Hurting a man’s dignity is a crime!”
- Try to praise them every time when they made any progress.
- Get the other person’s point of view and see things from his or her angle, as well as from our own.
- Tell them you’ve made the same mistakes before and what you did to make sure not make those mistakes anymore
- Do not use “BUT”, use “AND”. “We’re really proud of you for raising your grades this term, AND by continuing the same conscientious efforts next term, your algebra grade can be up with all the others.”
The most important truth: Our human beings are craving for and desperately need the feeling of importance.
If you want to improve relationship with other people:
- Be interested in the other people
- Remembering their names
- Remembering their birthday
- Be thoughtful other people, willing to spend time to do things for other people
- Giving them they really want
- Be a good listener, encourage them to talk about themselves. People won’t listen to you while they’re still have a lot of ideas to get out.
- Ask questions the other people can and will enjoy answering.
- Be sympathetic, try to understand the other people.
- Avoid to embarrass your friends by making them feel inferior.
If you want to motivate the other people to do the things you want them to do:
- Don’t talk about what you want; tell them this is useful to them.
- Always make the other people happy about doing the things you suggest.
- Give suggestions instead of orders, let the other people think it’s their own choice.
- Letting the other people feel that the idea is his or hers.
- Give them a fine reputation to live up to. People want challenges, want to excel, to win.
If you want to criticize the other people:
- Do not discourage the other people by criticizing them. Praise them. “Hurting a man’s dignity is a crime!”
- Try to praise them every time when they made any progress.
- Get the other person’s point of view and see things from his or her angle, as well as from our own.
- Tell them you’ve made the same mistakes before and what you did to make sure not make those mistakes anymore
- Do not use “BUT”, use “AND”. “We’re really proud of you for raising your grades this term, AND by continuing the same conscientious efforts next term, your algebra grade can be up with all the others.”
The next stop on my journey through popular self-help book is this classic by Dale Carnegie. It claims to give anyone the ability to make new friends and to persuade people. The secret? Being nice. The advice in this book ranges from the obvious (remembering others’ names, smiling at people, complimenting them, etc.) to the still obvious but not as much (not using punishment, softening the blow of bad news with a gift, etc.). I can’t really criticize this book for anything because the advice is so obvious. If you’re already a decently nice person, you may learn one or two new things at most. And if you’re not, this book won’t change your mind. The point the Carnegie makes is that you have to actually be genuine about your niceness. You can’t just fake it like many self-help gurus tell you to. I’m looking at you, Robert Greene. People hate flattery and Carnegie knows that. Interestingly, there is a section of this book dedicated to advice about mariage and home life. In it, there is a surprisingly progressive piece of advice for its time: make sure that you and your partner are on the same page with regard to sex. This advice, while obvious is the 21st century, is decently progressive (and good!) for a book that’s decades old. Over all, this is an okay self-help book but it doesn’t really offer much of anything to look at, positively or negatively. 3/5.
Undoubtedly still useful. I loved the stories of people's social ascensions in the 1930s. After a while, the book gets repetitive. Especially the form with examples from American presidents' biographies and from the experiences of participants of the Dale Carnegie courses.
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Contrived. Maybe back in this time period it was ground breaking to be nice and take interest in people to get collaboration but I’m shocked this is still such a recommended book. Maybe female vs male perspective because of how women are raised to be collaborative more then men are.
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