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3.85 AVERAGE
Great book. Essentially a crash course on diplomacy, this text teaches empathy as a hone-able skill rather than just a feeling, and is chock-full with actionable advice I'll be applying often. Though the same points could be illustrated with less repetition and fewer presidential examples -- it seems the author was gay for Lincoln and the Roosevelts. Jokes aside, it's a classic for good reason. Strongly recommend
It's been a very long time since I've read this book. I didn't realize how deeply it affected me until reading it a second time and thinking, "Wow, I'm really living all this." In hindsight, I'm glad I read it at an impressionable young age. There is a certain expectation in young males to value things like competitiveness, aloofness, precision. [a: Dale Carnegie|3317|Dale Carnegie|https://d.gr-assets.com/authors/1230226725p2/3317.jpg] slashes through such ideas with a philosophy bent on sympathy, courtesy, and compromise. He is quite sexist, but considering the time period, I won't judge the message by the messenger. The meat of his message seems to be "if you are a selfish person, try selflessness as a tool to get what you want." He does stress the necessity of being genuine, which tempers the "go get 'em" attitude. Regardless of its flaws, it is an important work for anyone looking to shore up their interpersonal communication skills.
One of my mentors had a low opinion of this book. Dr [a:Stephen R. Covey|1538|Stephen R. Covey|https://images.gr-assets.com/authors/1321654785p2/1538.jpg] claimed that How to Win Friends and Influence People was the turning point from the character ethic to the personality ethic, from valuing substance to worshipping style.
I respectfully disagree with Covey.
Carnegie emphasises the importance of character: These techniques simply won't work if you're insincere. At other times, Carnegie offers multiple techniques to apply Covey's Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. And in his section on leadership, Carnegie teaches techniques to do what Covey calls re-scripting.
Read this book, apply its lessons, and you'll grow in influence.
I respectfully disagree with Covey.
Carnegie emphasises the importance of character: These techniques simply won't work if you're insincere. At other times, Carnegie offers multiple techniques to apply Covey's Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. And in his section on leadership, Carnegie teaches techniques to do what Covey calls re-scripting.
Read this book, apply its lessons, and you'll grow in influence.
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Well, the title is a misnomer as the book teaches to get along with people than the principles of friendship. Many people are misinterpreting this book as a guide to the exploitation of the people. However, the author is subtly exhorting the reader to improve his/her character to succeed in his/her career. I believe that if one tries out these principles on a nobler motive, then the result will be fruitful. And if one uses these principles to manipulate people to his/her advantage, sooner or later, he/she will be uncloaked!
Well, the title is a misnomer as the book teaches to get along with people than the principles of friendship. Many people are misinterpreting this book as a guide to the exploitation of the people. However, the author is subtly exhorting the reader to improve his/her character to succeed in his/her career. I believe that if one tries out these principles on a nobler motive, then the result will be fruitful. And if one uses these principles to manipulate people to his/her advantage, sooner or later, he/she will be uncloaked!
A classic I've read a few times, but the second half was really dense to me this time around and took a while to work through.
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I think the ideas in this book are really refreshing! Don’t snap peoples heads off, don’t pick faults out in each other, be enthusiastic and encourage others to do the same!
In a time where all we seem to do is complain and criticize, I think it’s important for us to realise how ineffective this negative approach is. It’s also refreshing how honest he is about how selfish we all tend to be, how often in conversation do we replying saying ‘oh a similar thing happened to me’ or ‘I think this’? We always end up relating it back to ourselves! After reading this book, we’re encouraged to really engage in the other persons interests and I think that helps us stop being so self centered but also, as someone who can be a bit socially awkward, asking the other person about themselves is much easier that frantically trying to think of something interesting to say.
Whilst the examples are a little repetitive and the writing style is a bit choppy between each one, I still think the overriding message is powerful and clear - stop being a miserable arse and people will be more likely to get on with you and more willing to do things you want them to!
In a time where all we seem to do is complain and criticize, I think it’s important for us to realise how ineffective this negative approach is. It’s also refreshing how honest he is about how selfish we all tend to be, how often in conversation do we replying saying ‘oh a similar thing happened to me’ or ‘I think this’? We always end up relating it back to ourselves! After reading this book, we’re encouraged to really engage in the other persons interests and I think that helps us stop being so self centered but also, as someone who can be a bit socially awkward, asking the other person about themselves is much easier that frantically trying to think of something interesting to say.
Whilst the examples are a little repetitive and the writing style is a bit choppy between each one, I still think the overriding message is powerful and clear - stop being a miserable arse and people will be more likely to get on with you and more willing to do things you want them to!