A short essay talking about how writing our trauma for healing process and writing our trauma for public consumption is different, and how the later, if not done right, could potentially harm the one with the trauma. There's some book references about biography about trauma that she thought are good, but this essay is mostly her pondering what's the best way to respectfully write our trauma for public.
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Real. Vulnerable. And a sobering reflection back into what 2021 was like for a lot of us in the US.

Also, Roxane's wisdom about shouldering trauma is something I needed to hear.
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Real. Vulnerable. And a sobering reflection back into what 2021 was like for a lot of us in the US.

Also, Roxane's wisdom about shouldering trauma is something I needed to hear.
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it's difficult to rate such a short book that talks about her own experience. in my version of the e-book there was a (ugly) red section breaker (idk how you call it), that was probably the only negative thing

fav quotes:
I had, or have, a chip on my shoulder, the kind that leads me to believe that anyone living in a thin body is necessarily living a perfect life. (13) 

(...) and I was supposed to be grateful to be there, but I wasn't. I was too broken to appreciate anything about my life. (14)

We are walking wounds, but I am not sure any of us know quite how to talk about it. (17)

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As always, Roxanne Gay is honest and open and authentic, and this is a moving memoir that has made me love her even more. I listed to this as an audio book and Roxanne Gay narrated it herself, and it was lovely.

This was a concise little book. I picked it up (virtually) simply because I'm running out of audiobooks to listen to. (Scribd blocks 90% of their selection for weeks, only to give it back for a couple glorious days.)

I love reading Gay's writing and listen to her narrating her audiobooks. This wasn't anything super memorable - nothing new was said about the collective (American) traumas of this decade (Trump, covid, etc.). Still, her writing is just enjoyable to me.
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