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Sons and Lovers

D. H. Lawrence

3.4 AVERAGE

emotional reflective sad slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

Excellent literature. Whenever I attempt to write and my dysfunction shows up on the page, I am embarassed and it stops me. Not true in D.H.'s case, the fact he loves his mother above all others he does not apologize for. I most enjoyed the descriptions of a miner's life in Whales in the 19th century- they are part of my immagination now- I know about that.

Hard to get beyond the misogyny

The battlefield of love...

Gertrude and Walter Morel are an unequal match: she, the educated daughter of “burgher stock”, he, a miner in the Nottingham coal fields. Their attraction is one of physical passion, which soon burns out. Gertrude comes to despise the very things that she once found irresistible in Walter: his animalistic physicality and domineering masculinity. She turns away from him and invests her love in her children, especially her two oldest sons, William and Paul. As they grow into manhood, Gertrude treats them in turn almost as surrogate husbands, and exerts such a hold on their affections that each finds it hard to develop relationships with women. The book follows Paul through his childhood, adolescence and young manhood, and the three women who vie for his love.

This is one of the first adult books I read, way back in the dark ages, and I loved it as passionately as Gertrude loved her sons, re-reading it several times over the space of a very few years. I deliberately haven’t revisited it since my late teens, having a growing fear that Lawrence is one of those writers best read at the time of raging adolescent hormones, when all his angsting about his characters’ never-ending sexual obsessions and hang-ups resonates most strongly. Although I didn’t react to it with quite as much emotional intensity on this re-read, I’m glad to say it holds up to a cynical adult gaze very well.

It’s wonderfully perceptive about Gertrude and Walter’s marriage and the quiet battlefield it becomes. Paul, who is a lightly fictionalised version of Lawrence himself, is firmly on his mother’s side throughout, as are all the children. This is understandable since Walter alternates between affection and bullying towards them and their mother. But I must admit to having a considerable amount of sympathy for Walter, and this, I think, must be a tribute to the honesty of Lawrence’s writing. Walter is what he is – a brash, crude, physical, working man at a time when the husband expected to be treated as head of the household. Gertrude, when her passionate attraction to his maleness wears off, seems to want to change him and, by showing her discontent, does, though not in the way she intended. In the early days of their marriage he shows kindness to Gertrude again and again, and she rejects him, scorns him. Would he have taken to drinking with the men night after night if she had made their home more welcoming to him? Would he have bullied her and the children if she had not made it so clear that he had no real place in their lives other than as provider? If she had not shown her contempt for their father so openly, would the children have avoided and feared and despised him? Perhaps Walter would have turned out as he did regardless, but I felt he was never given a chance – he had all the physical strength, but Gertrude’s bitterness and sense of her own innate superiority were the stronger forces in all their lives.

Paul’s own feelings (and therefore presumably Lawrence’s) are increasingly ambivalent about his mother as he grows into manhood. He loves her – that is without question. But as he finds himself struggling to develop satisfying relationships with the women with whom he becomes involved, he knows that this is at least partly due to the influence and pull of his mother’s overweening, almost romantic, love for him. Of course, this being Lawrence, this psychological question plays out largely at the sexual level.

Miriam and Clara are the two women who love Paul, though Lord alone knows why. With Miriam, it’s all about his artist’s soul; his relationship with Clara is pretty much purely physical. He treats both women appallingly, but frankly, they’re both so pathetic I couldn’t get up much sympathy. Muriel especially would be enough to drive any man to drink, with her constant flower-sniffing and soulful eyes and desire to sacrifice herself in a quasi-religious way on the altar of love. Here’s a woman who can make sex such a monstrous aberration from the pure holiness of existence that it wouldn’t take many of her to ensure the extinction of humanity. Clara on the other hand has zero personality (but beautiful arms and, I regret to say, bouncy breasts). She exists merely as the adjunct of the men in her life – her husband and Paul, her lover. When we meet her, we are told she is an early feminist, but we see no signs of that in her behaviour.

It would be easy to accuse Lawrence of misogyny in his handling of these two characters, and I was tempted to do so. Two things save him, I think. The first is that, although they were apparently based on real lovers of Lawrence’s, they come over more as representations of Paul’s narcissistic struggle with his own desires than as real women in their own right. Miriam and Gertrude are fighting for his soul, while Gertrude is more willing to accept the physicality of his relationship with Clara, feeling that less of a threat to her hold over Paul. The second is not my own thought – it comes from the insightful introduction by David Trotter in my Oxford World’s Classics edition, who points out that in female modernist writings of the same era, the male characters are often equally underdeveloped, there for the sole purpose of allowing the women to explore aspects of themselves. Once I recognised the truth of that, I was more willing to forgive Lawrence. However, from a purely literary point of view, I felt the Miriam stuff went on for too long and became tediously repetitive, hence the loss of half a star.

The writing is always good and often beautiful, and Lawrence has the ability to create an emotional intensity that, while it can feel a little overdone at times, nevertheless sheds light on some of the essential truths of the human condition. There are scenes I have never forgotten from those early reads, and I found them just as powerful still. It makes me and my inner teenager very happy to be able still to say – highly recommended! 4½ stars for me, so rounded up.

NB This book was provided for review by the publisher, Oxford World's Classics.

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I am between a 3 and 4 here.

On one hand the insights into the lives of this family is so interesting. Also the fickleness of love. But there is an odd brutality and dismissive, disposable relationship he has with women here (even his mother!) and maybe even people in general that Paul feels, it is hard to care at all for him.

A classic, but with a cast of simpering, feeble and supremely annoying characters, it can make for heavy reading at times. While it's well written, the pace is slow and the relationships utterly suffocating.

A quick courtship that deteriorates into an unhappy and stifling marriage that takes up the first chunk of the book. Then children come along, as the mother shifts her affections to her sons. It's quite clear that this will not end well.

The trouble is (and I'm sure that this is heresy of some form), our central characters of Paul and his mother are just so utterly tiresome. Paul Morel is so unlikeable, Gertrude so messed up, Miriam so weak, that you just can't bear to be around them for too long. Even more so when you find yourself going through the same events over and over again.

Poor old Miriam's pupils must dilate a dozen times, and how much do we really need to hang about while Paul gazes at flowers?

On the plus side, I liked Clara, but struggle to understand what she saw in Paul.

A bit of a grind, but if you are in an Oedipal mood, this will be right up your Straße. I should say, the last bit, after all the storm and stress, is wonderfully written, but bleak as can be.

If you like romance novels, read this novel. It sets the stage for modern romance novels.

A challenging and difficult read

While there were very clear nods toward concepts such as the Oedipus complex and psychoanalytic theory, this novel left a lot to be desired. First of all, the plot itself did not need 471 pages to be told in an effective way. I would say that 200 pages would be more than sufficient. Lastly, the indecisiveness of Paul, Miriam, and Clara was infuriating. He hates her, he loves her, he is indifferent towards her. On and on it goes to no avail for the reader. I would only read this book if you are required to. Otherwise there are novels far more worthy of your time. Perhaps, Green Eggs and Ham.

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