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torturedreadersdept's review against another edition
emotional
funny
hopeful
lighthearted
reflective
relaxing
medium-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Dysphoria, Medical content, Outing, Sexual content, Alcohol, Lesbophobia, Religious bigotry, Toxic relationship, Cancer, Drug use, Panic attacks/disorders, Gaslighting, Homophobia, Body horror, Vomit, Body shaming, Death, Cursing, and Grief
alisonfaith426's review against another edition
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3.75
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Moderate: Cursing and Sexual content
lilybear3's review against another edition
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5.0
From the introduction, Grace Perry had me hooked! I rarely laugh while reading a book, even if it's funny. This book broke that for me as I laughed many times throughout. Grace and I are technically in the same generation, albeit I'm so close to the next one. Her voice is exactly my humor, so I felt like I had a grasp on the pop culture moments that were before my time. A++ for essay titles, my favorite being "Harry Potter and the Half-Assed Gay Character." "Taylor Swift Made Me a U-Haul Dyke" is one of my favorite chapters, because I semi-grew up knowing and sometimes liking her and her music. I have to agree with Grace, listening to her music made me a romantic, to my detriment at times.
I enjoyed reading Grace's experiences and her use of pop culture to tell these stories. I found myself reflecting on my own journey in discovering my sexuality, often relating to the pop culture references. It was a super fun read and I will be recommending to everyone.
I enjoyed reading Grace's experiences and her use of pop culture to tell these stories. I found myself reflecting on my own journey in discovering my sexuality, often relating to the pop culture references. It was a super fun read and I will be recommending to everyone.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Homophobia, Biphobia, Chronic illness, Transphobia, Xenophobia, Sexual content, and Medical content
cassielaj's review against another edition
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Entertaining, enlightening, funny, heartwarming, full of pop culture references and queerness. Love
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Graphic: Lesbophobia, Sexual content, and Homophobia
Moderate: Terminal illness
Homophobia and lesbophobia are discussed, but only for the purpose of unpacking bias and breaking down barriershmatt's review against another edition
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4.0
Did I, in fact, read two essay collections/memoirs in one month about how pop culture in the naughties intersected and impacted the queer (really, sapphic) coming-of-age of a white, American now-journalist? Why, yes I did, and it was a little confusing, but I think it was a good decision to read them together.
I'd say both this and Jill Gutowitz's Girls Can Kiss Now share similar highlights and pitfalls for me, though I personally enjoyed this one more. I appreciated the additional "academic" edge to these essays - that is, the author makes more space to explain the historical and culture context behind each pop culture phenomenon, and she cites her sources more clearly (I read Gutowitz's in audio, though, and some of that could have been omitted due to format). IMO, the added context makes more space in the work for folks who are reading outside of their own experience (i.e. it doesn't feel as much like the author is writing inside jokes for those "in the know"). I did still feel a bit alienated by some of the sweeping generalizations made in these essays, but I think that comes with the territory of reading such a narrow perspective.
One standout difference in the two collections is Perry's near-seamless weaving of her own personal experiences into the "theme" of each essay. I felt that almost all of the autobiographical portions of this essay collection served a purpose, and the collection itself was organized more masterfully than Gutowitz's.
I'm only a little sorry that this review is framed entirely as a comparison because, hello, they are literally the same book concept published within a year of one another.
Anyway here's the funniest line in the book (re: watching shady online streams of queer shows in the pre-Netflix era):
I'd say both this and Jill Gutowitz's Girls Can Kiss Now share similar highlights and pitfalls for me, though I personally enjoyed this one more. I appreciated the additional "academic" edge to these essays - that is, the author makes more space to explain the historical and culture context behind each pop culture phenomenon, and she cites her sources more clearly (I read Gutowitz's in audio, though, and some of that could have been omitted due to format). IMO, the added context makes more space in the work for folks who are reading outside of their own experience (i.e. it doesn't feel as much like the author is writing inside jokes for those "in the know"). I did still feel a bit alienated by some of the sweeping generalizations made in these essays, but I think that comes with the territory of reading such a narrow perspective.
One standout difference in the two collections is Perry's near-seamless weaving of her own personal experiences into the "theme" of each essay. I felt that almost all of the autobiographical portions of this essay collection served a purpose, and the collection itself was organized more masterfully than Gutowitz's.
I'm only a little sorry that this review is framed entirely as a comparison because, hello, they are literally the same book concept published within a year of one another.
Anyway here's the funniest line in the book (re: watching shady online streams of queer shows in the pre-Netflix era):
My thirst could weather all buffering.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Homophobia and Lesbophobia
Moderate: Alcohol, Outing, and Sexism
Minor: Bullying, Toxic relationship, Cancer, Death, and Sexual content
courtneyfalling's review against another edition
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4.0
This whole book felt like a comfy hug and gave me nostalgia for my freshman year of college, when I was first really coming into queer friendships, relationships, and community, and doing a lot of it through pop culture! I recognized some of the media discussed, I haven't seen others, and all of the chapters were enjoyable. The tone overall was very "it gets better" on an individual scale and "it's getting better" on a grand, societal scale, which... I agree that millennials have a distinct vantage point and queer representation is becoming quantitatively more common, but liberal rights discourses alone don't make me personally feel like I've had or am having any easier a time coming of age as a currently early-twenties lesbian, and I'm a white, highly femme-presenting person with a comfortable class and education background, this is so much materially worse for folks who experience heightened vulnerability and oppression based on their own multiple marginalizations, especially Black, Latinx, and Indigenous trans women. So.... idk. It was lighthearted, often funny, and cozy as a memoir, and I would recommend it to friends for that comfort, but the analytical frame and place within queer theory and criticism didn't really hold up. Also, I do want to know if Claire okayed this story... like did she end up coming out years later? Even if not, did she proofread the chapter where she appears to make sure no heavy, unwanted identifying information was present? Did/does she even know this story including her is out there? This comes back to a larger discussion of the ethics of writing nonfiction, in the era of Kidney Girl, but I had to think about this.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Homophobia, Lesbophobia, Religious bigotry, Cancer, and Death
Minor: Sexual content
mallory10100's review against another edition
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4.75
i loved this book, easily the most relatable book i’ve ever read
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Graphic: Alcohol, Biphobia, Bullying, Cancer, Cursing, Homophobia, Lesbophobia, Medical content, Misogyny, Religious bigotry, Toxic friendship, Sexual content, and Transphobia
Moderate: Cursing and Death
Minor: Animal cruelty, Animal death, Biphobia, Bullying, Child death, Death, Gaslighting, Grief, Infidelity, Sexual violence, and Suicide
i loved this book. at some points it felt like grace literally peeked inside my own brain. however i wish she used the D slur a lot less (yet i understand that it’s an a reclaimed fashion)spaghettireads's review against another edition
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4.0
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Graphic: Biphobia
Moderate: Homophobia, Sexual content, Cancer, Death, and Medical content
toofondofbooks_'s review against another edition
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5.0
These essays made me cackle like a mad woman and cry like a baby sometimes within one chapter. As a queer millennial who was molded by the glee era (incidentally it is for better or worse, my favorite show) and taylor swift alike, I really feel like this author gets me in a way no other author has been able to capture on a page (or on audio I guess, since I listened to this on audible).
These essays felt like exchanging memories with a friend, whispers in the dark telling me that I was never alone because Perry felt a lot of the same things I felt and feel about my past and my future. I loved this book.
Also special mention to the fact that Moulin Rouge - my favorite movie, was mentioned a bunch of times. If my love for that movie at an early age wasn't a huge clue to my queerness, I don't know what is.
These essays felt like exchanging memories with a friend, whispers in the dark telling me that I was never alone because Perry felt a lot of the same things I felt and feel about my past and my future. I loved this book.
Also special mention to the fact that Moulin Rouge - my favorite movie, was mentioned a bunch of times. If my love for that movie at an early age wasn't a huge clue to my queerness, I don't know what is.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Homophobia and Medical content
Moderate: Cancer, Sexual content, Racism, Death, and Religious bigotry
Minor: Alcohol
cheye13's review against another edition
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3.0
This is not "essays on pop culture" but a memoir told through essays on pop culture. Which is perfectly fine! But not what I was hoping for when I picked this up.
The book started off strong, detailing media of Perry's youth. I saw myself immediately, not through the specific media, but by the way Perry described consuming media, internalizing it, living life through the lens of it. Then in a strange regression, the middle began to feel as though it were explicitly written for straight audiences. There's nothing wrong with marketing to a broad demographic, but as a queer woman reading another queer woman, I'd prefer to skip the literary small talk. I anticipated an upswing at the end, but it never really came back around. This was media that had shaped my gay experience and yet the media itself was sidelined for stats about contemporary social issues.
Of course identity and sexuality are deeply personal, but in the case of queerness, they're also deeply communal. This book firmly presents the uniquely nuanced perspective of a gay millennial, which is a conversation worth having. I'm glad this book exists! But with the marketing, I wanted something that felt more communal and less biographical. I wanted followthrough on the "made me gay" joke, I wanted new queer insight into popular media, I wanted a book that read like a gay inside joke all the way through.
The book started off strong, detailing media of Perry's youth. I saw myself immediately, not through the specific media, but by the way Perry described consuming media, internalizing it, living life through the lens of it. Then in a strange regression, the middle began to feel as though it were explicitly written for straight audiences. There's nothing wrong with marketing to a broad demographic, but as a queer woman reading another queer woman, I'd prefer to skip the literary small talk. I anticipated an upswing at the end, but it never really came back around. This was media that had shaped my gay experience and yet the media itself was sidelined for stats about contemporary social issues.
Of course identity and sexuality are deeply personal, but in the case of queerness, they're also deeply communal. This book firmly presents the uniquely nuanced perspective of a gay millennial, which is a conversation worth having. I'm glad this book exists! But with the marketing, I wanted something that felt more communal and less biographical. I wanted followthrough on the "made me gay" joke, I wanted new queer insight into popular media, I wanted a book that read like a gay inside joke all the way through.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Cancer, Death, and Medical content
Minor: Alcohol, Homophobia, Religious bigotry, and Sexual content
The book uses the framework of the author's experience/perspective of her brother's cancer.
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